Should I kiss my crush on the neck?

[meowcatwoman]

I really like my close guy friend at school but he obviously doesn't have any idea about it, despite it being obvious to everyone else (by how I act towards him and how touchy I am with him, etc).

I sometimes rest my head on his shoulder when I am tired. Should I kiss him on the neck while doing this one day to see how he reacts, or is this too forward and could wreck a friendship?

[Anonymous]

Haha I did that with a dude I had a crush on and he was clearly interested but he lived 2 hours away. We got really close and then his ex moved back, I ended up pregnant and then he got her pregnant so we will never know what could've been ha!

[meowcatwoman]

Omg!! Can you describe how you went about kissing him?

[Opinion Owner]

It was my roommates friend lol but the day that they were leaving, we kept giving each other hugs I wanna say every time we saw one another we gave like a thousand hugs to say goodbye (chemistry obviously right?) but when he hugged me one time I kissed it, we both laughed the next just stuck my tongue out on it haha, I get rather bold. Had he been single things would be sooooo different

[meowcatwoman]

What a shame :( I would be more bold with this guy but I'm pretty convinced he hasn't thought of me as more than a friend and don't know why because we get on so well

[Opinion Owner]

So just start going in for hugs when he's leaving. Sit next to him and flirt that's what I did, sometimes you have initiate things and see how they respond. Try to get him alone, walk you to your car or on a balcony things got to the point that he was ignoring her good night calls or calling me when he was bored at 2-3 on the morning just go for it. Start as friends though

[meowcatwoman]

We are good friends. And okay I will amp up these things (we already walk eachother to places and I at least physically flirt with him).

[Opinion Owner]

Then you're just holding back lol

[goodnessgrraceous]

This reminds me of the Breakfast Club moment. Yea why not? Go for it! Life is too short. Make the best out of it by taking risks!

[foobar22]

Go for it! If he's not into you, you'll know, and can move onto someone else. If he is into you, you'll get what you want. Unless you'd rather just go on not knowing...

[meowcatwoman]

Move onto someone else? I take forever to get over crushes lol. And there isn't anybody else, at least from the people I know. He is who I want. And I could go on forever not knowing, it's his fault for not realizing I like him already...isn't it?

[foobar22]

This is exactly my point. It sounds like your mind is already made up, but you need to entertain the very real possibility that he's not into you, in which case it's better to know sooner rather than later. If you're going to be such a girl about it, leave him a perfumed note in his locker or some equally passive measure.

[meowcatwoman]

If he did like me, I would know about it though as he would show some sort of indication. And he wouldn't be calling me dude or anything. I don't think it's possible to somehow make someone like you, yet I still try to find ways to get him to like me. I'm sorry for being like this, it's just I don't want to get over him.

[foobar22]

Google "cognitive dissonance"

"When dissonance is present, in addition to trying to reduce it, the person will actively avoid situations and information which would likely increase the dissonance" --Wikipedia

[meowcatwoman]

Yeah that's me :/ (I like reading so I'll do some research to see if I can do anything about it)

[thisGUYknows]

a kiss would be a hit or miss. try something else first. brush against his hand somehow, talk to him one on one about sensitive subjects. if applicable.

[meowcatwoman]

I am already touchy with him. I play with his hair, I trap his legs with my legs under the desk in class (messing around), play with his tie, etc. He is use to me touching him.

[meowcatwoman]

I will try the hand thing though, just realized I have brushed his hand but he would have just thought it was an accident and thought nothing of it...I will try touching the side of his hand for a prolonged period of time (while sitting together)

[thisGUYknows]

oh ok then you're already pretty obvious as u should be. its up to him. if he's a shy guy then you might need to do it a little more.

[meowcatwoman]

He is an oblivious guy, has no clue I like him! (everyone else knows though lol) I will try

[DodgersGM]

Sounds good to me. You'll never know 'til you try, right? :-)

[meowcatwoman]

I guess lol, I hate taking risks but nothing is going to ever happen unless I make a move... still...maybe nothing CAN ever happen as he may not ever want to see me that way

[DodgersGM]

Yeah, I think it's a risk worth taking, but that's just me.

Worst case scenario is that he doesn't feel the same way. Which really isn't all that different than the sport you're in now anyways, so there's not much to lose there.

[meowcatwoman]

Wish I agreed with you but I actually could lose my close bond I have with him and the ability to flirt with him. Our friendship would change so much and not for the better...

[DodgersGM]

Do you think he'd end the friendship if you made a move and he didn't feel the same way?

A kiss on the neck seems a little less forward and I'd imagine that the friendship could be salvaged even if it didn't go over well.

[Anonymous]

you could bite on his neck until he bleeds

[meowcatwoman]

Vampire...nice haha