Do you think it's easier for a girl to get a boyfriend than it is for a guy to get a girlfriend?

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Do you think it is harder for a girl to get a date and a boyfriend? or is it harder for a guy to get a date and a girlfriend? Which gender has it easier when it comes to finding a partner of the opposite gender? In my opinion, since I am a guy, girls have it easier because girls don't have to get rejected, all the girl has to do is accept the guy, or reject him. Because since us guys usually almost all the time have to do the work in order to establish a relationship, take the initiative, make all the moves, such as conversation, small talk, and ask the girl out. Pretty much all the girls have to do is just wait, and girls don't usually have to wait long, they usually get a new boyfriend right away.

michalezki · Accepted Answer

i decided to just leave a comment. so anyways have you ever heard of fake it until fake it? that's probably what those guys you saw were doing, when you act confident in your actions more people are going to respect and believe you on your actions that way. for example. you no when you see a pretty girl who acts like she's the hottest thing to ever touch the earth? and every guys head turns to look at her. even though she's not the hottest girl, she acts like it. so people are going to believe she is. anyways approaching a girl you don't no kind of all depends on how comfortable you are with approaching woman, everyone thinks that there are set lines on how to get woman. but really you just have to be confident and smooth, even just walking up to a complete stranger and saying "hi, how are you doing?" will  catch there attention and probably make there day even if they don't act like it. a good way to raise your confidence level is to talk to as many random people as you can. and look approachable and always try to be having a good time, and people will see that and want to have you around and want you to approach them, a good way to start off is to always be smiling even if its just at the old lady infront of you in line just make small talk with anyone you can. like the people in line the cashiers, neighbors, just anyone around you, because when you surround your self by being open and happy people will just be attracted by that.  you have to realize that some girls are just bitches and won't take the time but if that happens act like it doesn't even bother you and you could even says something like "alright have a nice day!" and just walk away like nothings wrong, I'm positive that will drive that girl nuts.. because all she will be able to think is wow. I guess I just lost my chance... because if you said something rude to her she will be thinking .. I'm glad I didn't give him the time of day. isn't every mans dream to be wanted by woman? so don't make it so convent for them to put you down. give them one chance and if they don't want it.. ask there friend.  running out of conversation is tricky. but depending on the person make observations around you, you have to be careful though don't make any gay jokes or jokes about over weight people.. anything offensive can go terrible. but another example say your standing in line to get ice cream and there's a cute girl in front of you if she turns back and just glimpse or not even and you see a kid who is really excited that just got there ice cream just start talking towards her like "oh I remember when I got my first ice cream. it was like the best day of my life" joking of course.. and just start from there and ask if she remembers her first ice cream experience. you no what I mean? sorry this was so long. hopefully it helped

ivarei · Accepted Answer

i think girls have it harder than guys, not only do we have to wait around and think that there's something wrong with us "WHY ISN'T ANYONE NOTICING ME?!" but girls also get more emotionally attached to guys, so while maybe it's tad less humiliating for girls to get boyfriends, it's certainly a lot harder for us in the long run because 8/10 times, it's our hearts that get ripped in two because guys take a much longer time to give a damn.

but I don't think it's a matter of HARD vs. EASY. it think it's tougher on guys egos, one minute you're flying high and then BAM, you got shut down and you feel like crap. for girls it's long, slow depletion of self-esteem. so yeah, guys deal with embarrassment, tough cookies!

would you rather have a quick death (being rejected by a girl) or a long agonizing death where you shrivel up and die?

in both cases, if you're being rejected all the time, or if the girl is never being noticed, something is wrong. either you're approached the girl wrong or, in the case of girls, the girls aren't presenting themselves in a good light.

kurkjianb · Accepted Answer

ok, so here's my thinking, SOME guys have it harder. Girls have to be so perfect, you wouldn't even realize it because each girl sets the bar hgiher for the next girl, and the next generation of girls gets more drastic with the things they do to themselves. Ans no matter how much guys think they know, they will never really know how much we go through. So basically, just to get asked out, yes girls go through a lot, so maybe by the end of all that theyre kinda like, ok guys, I feel I did enough, its your turn! And the other thing is, in my real life experience, I see just as many girls having to make the first move,s, because guys think they go through so much and now they want the girls to do some work. Girls try WAY harder, that's just it. And if you think girls get boyffriends faster than their exes, here's something to think about, what about that boyfriend she just got? It takes two to tango. So the only guys who have it harder, are the ones who REALLY REALLY REALLY try, you may be one, you  might not, I don't know.

davidjewels · Accepted Answer

it not necessarily easier for a girl to find a boyfriend.They have to WAIT for someone to ask them out. And most of the time the guys approaching them are creeps. So they don't have it easier.

And just because a guy asks them out does NOT mean he will follow through. It's tough for both sexes. Recently I met a woman in an electronics store. She was attractive. she gave me her number. I never called her. She sent me a Facebook friend request. I accepted it but never sent her any messages. She texted me 3 months later and gave me her new number. I still never called or asked her out. I don't know why.

Six months before this I met an attractive woman, and we went out to the movies and had dinner several times at some really nice restaurants. one day she asked to come over and spend the night. I never made a move on her and in the morning walked her to the train station. I haven't called her since then.

So there you have it. There are so many variables at play, it's difficult to explain. But women do NOT have it any easier than men.

jusdatboi69 · Accepted Answer

Man, here's what you do, or at least its what I do.

Dont worry about a girl till she shows a lot of interest in you.

I don't even try to initiate convos or anything with girls, I just let them come to me.

If a girl really likes you she will suck up her pride and start a conversation or act interested in you.

As for the rest of them...who care?

ivarei · Answer

final answer, I promise:

It really depends on the boy and it depends on the girl. For some guys, approaching a girl isn't difficult and they get good results so they don't have long dry spells. For other guys, they get rejected a lot or they're shy so they have long times between girl friends. The same is true for girls, some girls are just better at grabbing guys' attention, other girls aren't so good at that. Some girls get attached to guys and get heartbroken easily, other don't. So it really depends on the individual, it's not easier or harder for a gender as a whole.

Daydreamer · Answer

I think girls have it harder. Most of us wouldn't ask for a date so it feels like we have to WAIT for a guy and if a guy never asks us, then we automatically assume something is wrong.

All guys have to do is ask, most of the time...girls will say yes especially if there's something between you.

michalezki · Answer

but do you know why girls make guys do that? its because girls want guys to prove how much they like them so they can feel comfortable and let there hearts out to them, because they have been screwed over so many times by guys who they've liked.  its kind of a trust thing. AND guys like to chase. so why are you complaining ?

Simple-Simonette · Answer

To me, you guys have a choice. It's up to you to decide whether or not to approach a woman. For a woman, no matter how much she "dolls" herself up, she may never have a guy look at her twice. If she believes it's her job to wait - there could be a chance that she'd be waiting forever.

You're major problem with what you're imagining is that you're only thinking about the "hot" women. There are plenty of average women out there that are overlooked totally - day after day. Even with this question, you're overlooking women that are never chosen because they don't fit some imaginary criteria that men have in their heads. How do you think it feels to be invisible?

Anonymous · Answer

it probably depends on the attractiveness of the girl/guy. and ugly looking guy is going to have a really hard time where as a handsome guy will find it relatively easy because they won't be rejected as often. and hot girls are going to have guys chase after them while not so gorgeous girls will more often be ignored.

at least this is the case when it comes to asking strangers out. when it friends asking out friends it's a whole other story.

Anonymous · Answer

it's easier for guys because girls have to wait for a guy to puck up their courage and ask us. most of us don't ask guys out because it's a really great feeling to be wanted, so we wait for the boy to take the plunge. but then we end of waiting forever and ever and ever.

so no, boys have it a lot easier in my opinion.

BreyV · Answer

I feel that guys have it easier. Like you said, girls have to wait. For some girls, the waiting seems to take forever, and when we try to take the initiative to get the guy, they always seem to start dating someone else. For me, personally I've tried asking a guy out and got rejected, so I guess it goes both ways. It's just not common for a girl to ask a guy out, so the wait is extremely painful. I guess it all depends on the person.

ivarei · Answer

no one agrees with you.  suck it up, us girls deal with rejection every time we get all dolled up for someone and they don't pay us any interest.  you know how much that hurts?  it's like "i love you, oh, I don't exist to you..."

Dizzle420 · Answer

im not reading all the responses, just letting you know I agree with you almost 100%

steveguitar · Answer

Yeah its easier and it seems that unless the girl is absolutely nuts and the guys wants out, the girl always seems to be the decider if the relationship goes past a few dates

Anonymous · Answer

so what?  you think we have it easier.  stop moaning, life isn't fair..  what do you want us to do about it?

Anonymous · Answer

No, but it is easier for a girl to get a guy to have sex with her than vice versa.

Anonymous · Answer

if you're being rejected all the time, then you're doing something wrong!

foreveralone1997 · Answer

As a girl I can confirm it's harder for a girl to get a boyfriend because I have only been asked out once, no guys ever bat an eye at me and I dress nicely maybe I'm just not pretty?

armyant · Answer

Easier for us guys, hands down.  Only the small minority of very pretty girls has it easier than us.

Anonymous · Answer

Well, 54% of the single people in the States are women.. Source:

TimB -1-2-3 · Answer

Easier for a girl to get a boyfriend? Definately... Easier for a girl to get a GOOD boyfriend? Definately NOT... Have a nice day. ;p

Anonymous · Answer

dude get the f*** over it

Anonymous · Answer

girls have it harder hands down.

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