Do you think it's easier for a girl to get a boyfriend than it is for a guy to get a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

Do you think it is harder for a girl to get a date and a boyfriend? or is it harder for a guy to get a date and a girlfriend? Which gender has it easier when it comes to finding a partner of the opposite gender? In my opinion, since I am a guy, girls have it easier because girls don't have to get rejected, all the girl has to do is accept the guy, or reject him. Because since us guys usually almost all the time have to do the work in order to establish a relationship, take the initiative, make all the moves, such as conversation, small talk, and ask the girl out. Pretty much all the girls have to do is just wait, and girls don't usually have to wait long, they usually get a new boyfriend right away.

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Waiting around for a guy to approach them and take the initiative, ask them out, is a lot better than getting constantly rejected all the time. I wish more girls would realize how much easier it is for them when it comes to dating and relationships.

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Us guys have to usually do all the talking, we have to be the ones to start a conversation and keeping it going, making small talk, flirting, etc. It's easier for reciprocate in conversation or small talk than it is to initiate it, start it.

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Overall, so do girls have it easier or not?

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Well?...

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Does anyone else agree girls have it easier?

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I still think girls have it easier, it's like they can get a boyfriend whenever they want to. They always seem to have a list of potential boyfriends.

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I wish more girls would realize how much easier it is for them.

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All the girl has to do is approve of the date and relationship, all she has to do accept the guy or reject him, waiting around for a guy to pursue her and make the moves on her is better than being rejected all the time.

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Seriously, women have it so much easier.

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Another thing I notice too usually is when a boyfriend/girlfriend break up, or a couple breaks up, is that girls stay single for a less amount of time than guys do. Like a girl get's a new boyfriend faster and sooner.

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A girl usually gets a new boyfriend faster and sooner than her ex-boyfriend gets a new girlfriend.

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Love just comes to girls, us guys have to fight tooth and nail for it.

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I know it's Tradition, but still, I think girls have it easier, Dating, Love, and Relationships is what girls have always had easy, ever since Society made it the Status Quo that it is the guy who makes the first move and asks the girl out.

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It's way easier for a girl to get a guy than it is for a guy to get a girl.

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Women usually have a bigger number, or more potential dates/boyfriends than potential dates/girlfriends a guy has.

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I will always think that women have it easier when it comes to romance, dating, and relationships, everything just comes to them

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Waiting around is a lot better than being rejected.

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The hardest part is knowing when to ask the girl out, or when to get out of the friend zone and make it into something more, like a relationship actually, because I don't want to do it too soon, and I don't want to do it too late.

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girls get easy dates just standing still, they have it easier because everything initially is easier for them.

[michalezki]

i decided to just leave a comment. so anyways have you ever heard of fake it until fake it? that's probably what those guys you saw were doing, when you act confident in your actions more people are going to respect and believe you on your actions that way. for example. you no when you see a pretty girl who acts like she's the hottest thing to ever touch the earth? and every guys head turns to look at her. even though she's not the hottest girl, she acts like it. so people are going to believe she is. anyways approaching a girl you don't no kind of all depends on how comfortable you are with approaching woman, everyone thinks that there are set lines on how to get woman. but really you just have to be confident and smooth, even just walking up to a complete stranger and saying "hi, how are you doing?" will catch there attention and probably make there day even if they don't act like it. a good way to raise your confidence level is to talk to as many random people as you can. and look approachable and always try to be having a good time, and people will see that and want to have you around and want you to approach them, a good way to start off is to always be smiling even if its just at the old lady infront of you in line just make small talk with anyone you can. like the people in line the cashiers, neighbors, just anyone around you, because when you surround your self by being open and happy people will just be attracted by that. you have to realize that some girls are just bitches and won't take the time but if that happens act like it doesn't even bother you and you could even says something like "alright have a nice day!" and just walk away like nothings wrong, I'm positive that will drive that girl nuts.. because all she will be able to think is wow. I guess I just lost my chance... because if you said something rude to her she will be thinking .. I'm glad I didn't give him the time of day. isn't every mans dream to be wanted by woman? so don't make it so convent for them to put you down. give them one chance and if they don't want it.. ask there friend. running out of conversation is tricky. but depending on the person make observations around you, you have to be careful though don't make any gay jokes or jokes about over weight people.. anything offensive can go terrible. but another example say your standing in line to get ice cream and there's a cute girl in front of you if she turns back and just glimpse or not even and you see a kid who is really excited that just got there ice cream just start talking towards her like "oh I remember when I got my first ice cream. it was like the best day of my life" joking of course.. and just start from there and ask if she remembers her first ice cream experience. you no what I mean? sorry this was so long. hopefully it helped

[Asker]

Thanks for that advice, but still why is it usually up to the guy to make the first move?

[michalezki]

I guess most girls are to insecure to put them selves out there. and they just expect guys to do these things because of the olden day thinking of chivalry. you no what I mean?

[Asker]

Yeah, I just wonder why girls say it's harder for them when it comes to dating than it is for guys, when it really is not, girls have it so much easier.

[michalezki]

Well they probably would say that because a lot of the guys that they have liked don't get as emotionally attached as they were.. and ended up getting really hurt so they stay away. but either way I can see where your coming from.

[Asker]

I still think women have it easier.

[ivarei]

i think girls have it harder than guys, not only do we have to wait around and think that there's something wrong with us "WHY ISN'T ANYONE NOTICING ME?!" but girls also get more emotionally attached to guys, so while maybe it's tad less humiliating for girls to get boyfriends, it's certainly a lot harder for us in the long run because 8/10 times, it's our hearts that get ripped in two because guys take a much longer time to give a damn.

but I don't think it's a matter of HARD vs. EASY. it think it's tougher on guys egos, one minute you're flying high and then BAM, you got shut down and you feel like crap. for girls it's long, slow depletion of self-esteem. so yeah, guys deal with embarrassment, tough cookies!

would you rather have a quick death (being rejected by a girl) or a long agonizing death where you shrivel up and die?

in both cases, if you're being rejected all the time, or if the girl is never being noticed, something is wrong. either you're approached the girl wrong or, in the case of girls, the girls aren't presenting themselves in a good light.

[Asker]

Why do you think girls are very picky on how guys approach them?

[ivarei]

Because first impressions are important and how you introduce yourself is that first impression. girls notice details that guys ignore or figure are inconsequential. such as how you're dressed, how you hold yourself, how nice your smile is...if you smile.

[ivarei]

It really depends on the boy and it depends on the girl. for some guys, approaching a girl isn't difficult and they get good results so they don't have long dry periods. for other guys, they get rejected a lot or they're shy so they have long times between girl friends. the same is true for girls, some girls are just better at grabbing guys' attention, other girls aren't so good at that. it really depends on the individual, it's not easier or harder for a gender as a whole.

[Asker]

Is there any way I can find out if a girl is single or taken before approaching her?

[ivarei]

First check for an engagement ring or wedding band. if that's not there, then you just gotta go for it, and hopefully she's a stranger so you don't have to worry about having to see her a lot and being embarrassed.

[Asker]

I hate being able to go for it, I hate being rejected, but I would rather get rejected than to talk to a girl who is taken already, because that shows I wasted my time pursuing her.

[kurkjianb]

ok, so here's my thinking, SOME guys have it harder. Girls have to be so perfect, you wouldn't even realize it because each girl sets the bar hgiher for the next girl, and the next generation of girls gets more drastic with the things they do to themselves. Ans no matter how much guys think they know, they will never really know how much we go through. So basically, just to get asked out, yes girls go through a lot, so maybe by the end of all that theyre kinda like, ok guys, I feel I did enough, its your turn! And the other thing is, in my real life experience, I see just as many girls having to make the first move,s, because guys think they go through so much and now they want the girls to do some work. Girls try WAY harder, that's just it. And if you think girls get boyffriends faster than their exes, here's something to think about, what about that boyfriend she just got? It takes two to tango. So the only guys who have it harder, are the ones who REALLY REALLY REALLY try, you may be one, you might not, I don't know.

[Asker]

Well I'm glad that there are some girls who make the first move, us guys get tired of being rejected.

[kurkjianb]

Yea sure, but that's like the only thing you do, ask girls out, one little rejectoin is all the apin you have to go through

[Asker]

What other pain do girls have?

[kurkjianb]

Beauty is pain babe

[davidjewels]

it not necessarily easier for a girl to find a boyfriend.They have to WAIT for someone to ask them out. And most of the time the guys approaching them are creeps. So they don't have it easier.

And just because a guy asks them out does NOT mean he will follow through. It's tough for both sexes. Recently I met a woman in an electronics store. She was attractive. she gave me her number. I never called her. She sent me a Facebook friend request. I accepted it but never sent her any messages. She texted me 3 months later and gave me her new number. I still never called or asked her out. I don't know why.

Six months before this I met an attractive woman, and we went out to the movies and had dinner several times at some really nice restaurants. one day she asked to come over and spend the night. I never made a move on her and in the morning walked her to the train station. I haven't called her since then.

So there you have it. There are so many variables at play, it's difficult to explain. But women do NOT have it any easier than men.

[jusdatboi69]

Man, here's what you do, or at least its what I do.

Dont worry about a girl till she shows a lot of interest in you.

I don't even try to initiate convos or anything with girls, I just let them come to me.

If a girl really likes you she will suck up her pride and start a conversation or act interested in you.

As for the rest of them...who care?

[Asker]

What do you mean you don't initiate anything? I thought it was the guy's job to pursue?

[adamfk1]

"I don't even try to initiate convos or anything with girls, I just let them come to me."

its easy to say when ure not ugly like me

[ivarei]

final answer, I promise:

It really depends on the boy and it depends on the girl. For some guys, approaching a girl isn't difficult and they get good results so they don't have long dry spells. For other guys, they get rejected a lot or they're shy so they have long times between girl friends. The same is true for girls, some girls are just better at grabbing guys' attention, other girls aren't so good at that. Some girls get attached to guys and get heartbroken easily, other don't. So it really depends on the individual, it's not easier or harder for a gender as a whole.

[Asker]

I think girls have it easier because they can get any guy who pursues them or approaches them, she just has the option of saying Yes or No. Guys however, they can't get every girl they pursue or make the moves on.

[ivarei]

Yeah, and any guy can get any girl who shows interest. but some girls don't get any attention from guys so they can't have a guy. likewise, some don't get signs of interest from girls so they have to wing it all the time.

[Asker]

Well since us guys have to ask the girl out and make the first move, and initiate the date and relationship, us guys have to make it happen. Waiting around is easier for girls because you don't have to do any work.

[ivarei]

I don't disagree that it's hard to initiate things, but don't say that it's easy for girls, we do try to get guys' attention everyday and we get shut down when no one's interested. it isn't like lounging around on the beach. it's really frustrating for us, especially girls who haven't had boyfriends in a few years.

[Asker]

How do girls try to get a guys attention?

[ivarei]

First of all, girls dress nice to appeal to guys. but if a girl is looking at you, or if she's smiling, it means she's receptive to an introduction. if you walk up to a girl and say, "hey, what's your number" and it's not going to interest her. you need to say something like "i like your hair" or sit down next to her at a bar and say "ooh, I'll have what's she's got" and then start talking to her.

[Asker]

Well I never see girls looking at me or smiling, it's like I am invisible to them, who knows, maybe I am ugly too.

[ivarei]

Maybe you are. or maybe you don't try to approach women. girls can't think you're invisible if you're talking to them. I think you're waiting around for women as much as women are waiting around for guys. you're just afraid of being rejected so you don't try.

[Asker]

I've tried so many times and gotten rejectrf, and sometimes I have gotten teased and lead on, which I hated the most.

[Daydreamer]

I think girls have it harder. Most of us wouldn't ask for a date so it feels like we have to WAIT for a guy and if a guy never asks us, then we automatically assume something is wrong.

All guys have to do is ask, most of the time...girls will say yes especially if there's something between you.

[Asker]

Yeah but asking a girl out is harder for us guys because we have to risk being rejected, girls get to avoid being reject because girls get to do the rejecting instead of being the ones receiving it.

[Daydreamer]

Yea but like I said, if there's something between you she'll probably say yes. And if you ask a random girl that you see from across the room -- what does it matter of she says no? You don't even know her!

[Asker]

Yeah but us guys have to do more than just asking the girl out, us guys have to be the one to start a conversation, we have to initiate the whole getting to know-eachother process, we have to make small talk, we have to know what to say and when to say it, overall, us guys have to start and initiate all the talking in the beginning.

[Daydreamer]

Well I mean, I think some of that should be natural...and a lot of girls don't expect guys to do absolutely everything!

[Asker]

Well I have a very hard time starting a conversation with a stranger, with someone I don't know, and I often run out of things to say.

[Daydreamer]

You should probably work on that then...

[Asker]

I just wonder why I did not have these skills earlier.

[Daydreamer]

Who knows...

[Asker]

When you say that when a guy is not asking a girl, that the girl feels something is wrong with her, but when us guys ask a girl out and get rejected, it makes us feel we did something wrong too. Seriously, why is it usually up to the guy to take the initiative?

[Daydreamer]

I mean, I don't know what you want me to say? I just told ya my opinion and I can see where your coming from and all. Everyone gets rejected and it sucks every time but just be confident and move on...

[Asker]

I just wish girls would make it easier for guys to approach them.

[Daydreamer]

Well if I were you, I'd quit wishing...maybe you should go after girls who are more approachable, or just DO IT.

[Asker]

Also you said if I ask a random girl out across the room and she says no, it's understandable because I don't know her, but how else is someone supposed to get to know somebody? C'mon, every friendship or relationship starts off from an initial encounter, a first meeting.

[Daydreamer]

Yea but if some guy asked me out for a date and I didn't even KNOW him, I'd be a little weirded out. I mean, yea you have to start somewhere but that doesn't mean you have to ask them out on a date right off the bat. Develop a friendship and with someone that it comes natural with. The last guy I dated, I first met him when he asked me if he could borrow a piece of paper. And then the next time, he asked me for directions on how to get somewhere. And I just kept running into him naturally.

[Asker]

Well starting a friendship with a girl is hard because I don't want to come across as being too forward, I don't want to jump the gun right away, I don't want her to think I am hitting on her.

[michalezki]

but do you know why girls make guys do that? its because girls want guys to prove how much they like them so they can feel comfortable and let there hearts out to them, because they have been screwed over so many times by guys who they've liked. its kind of a trust thing. AND guys like to chase. so why are you complaining ?

[Asker]

I don't like the chase because I am unsuccesful whenever I do the pursuing and initiating things,

[michalezki]

Thats understandable. I'd probably do the same thing then. I don't mean this rude but maybe you just need a few tips? if you want some I could help out!

[Asker]

How do I start talking to a girl that I do not know? a girl that is a stranger? I don't want to look creepy or clingy.

[Asker]

It seems like every guy was born with the ability to know how to approach and talk to girls the right way, except for me, it's like it never took other guys practice.

[michalezki]

I might have to send you a message or make another comment because this might be a little bit long.

[Simple-Simonette]

To me, you guys have a choice. It's up to you to decide whether or not to approach a woman. For a woman, no matter how much she "dolls" herself up, she may never have a guy look at her twice. If she believes it's her job to wait - there could be a chance that she'd be waiting forever.

You're major problem with what you're imagining is that you're only thinking about the "hot" women. There are plenty of average women out there that are overlooked totally - day after day. Even with this question, you're overlooking women that are never chosen because they don't fit some imaginary criteria that men have in their heads. How do you think it feels to be invisible?

[Asker]

Well I think it is easier for women because they have a list of potential boyfriends all the time.

[ivarei]

How do you figure that? a list of potential boyfriends, you tell me someone other than paris hilton who has that. we may have a list of guys that we like, but who says that one of those guys likes us back? if that's what you mean by list of potential boyfriends, but boys have a list of potential girlfriends as well.

[Asker]

Well it's easier for a girl to get a guy than it is for a guy to get a girl. Girls get to avoid being rejected.

[MohammedF479]

No one said girls have to wait. Both genders should be approaching. They should approach the guys they're interested in; that way they'll have more success.

Asker don't worry; these girls just have NO idea how to use their potential.

[Anonymous]

it probably depends on the attractiveness of the girl/guy. and ugly looking guy is going to have a really hard time where as a handsome guy will find it relatively easy because they won't be rejected as often. and hot girls are going to have guys chase after them while not so gorgeous girls will more often be ignored.

at least this is the case when it comes to asking strangers out. when it friends asking out friends it's a whole other story.

[Asker]

Really hot cute girls even have it easier than really hot good-looking, handsome guys.

[Opinion Owner]

No, because the guys who ask them out are complete jerks. they have to protect themselves all the time. also, no matter what anyone says, you're not going to change your mind, so stop trying to change ours. the majority of people are saying it's harder for girls and it's only hard for guys who have no courage or self-confidence.

[Asker]

Do you think girls get judged for their looks more than guys do?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes actually. guys are more picky in the long run. there have been plenty of times where I didn't like a guy's looks but then grew to like him based on his personality.

https://www.girlsaskguys.com/Dating-Questions/111554-whos-more-picky-about-the-appearance-of-the.html

here's a poll from this site that says, overwhelmingly, that guys are more picky than girls.

[Asker]

I still think women are just as shallow as men are.

[Anonymous]

it's easier for guys because girls have to wait for a guy to puck up their courage and ask us. most of us don't ask guys out because it's a really great feeling to be wanted, so we wait for the boy to take the plunge. but then we end of waiting forever and ever and ever.

so no, boys have it a lot easier in my opinion.

[Opinion Owner]

All a girl can do is doll herself up and hope she gets noticed. boys can make themselves look good and, when they assume their role, ask girls out and not get rejected. for some reason boys seem to be dressing themselves up and waiting around like girls more and more. yeah, I know it's putting yourself out there to ask a girl out, but at least tryyyyy.

[Asker]

Well it's not because I don't try, whenever I take the initiative, I fail.

[Asker]

Waiting around is a lot better than getting rejected constantly, because waiting means you get to do the choosing.

[BreyV]

I feel that guys have it easier. Like you said, girls have to wait. For some girls, the waiting seems to take forever, and when we try to take the initiative to get the guy, they always seem to start dating someone else. For me, personally I've tried asking a guy out and got rejected, so I guess it goes both ways. It's just not common for a girl to ask a guy out, so the wait is extremely painful. I guess it all depends on the person.

[Asker]

Yeah but waiting is better than getting rejected, because I know some girls that when they broke up with their boyfriend, they got a new boyfriend like a month or 2 later, that is not that long, like all the girls I know who are acquaintences of me, they were all single for less than a year.

[Asker]

Seriously, waiting is better than pursuing and getting rejected all th time.

[ivarei]

no one agrees with you. suck it up, us girls deal with rejection every time we get all dolled up for someone and they don't pay us any interest. you know how much that hurts? it's like "i love you, oh, I don't exist to you..."

[armyant]

Eh, I know it must be frustrating to not get attention, but please don't pretend there's parallels to draw between it and a guy going out on a limb to ask someone out and getting rejected, possibly in front of witnesses. Rejection and not having people lined up for you aren't even in the same ballpark so let's not go there.

[ivarei]

Who says you have to do it in front of witnesses? and really, you guys are under the impression that we hold this stuff against you. if you ask me out, and I say no, I'm not going to run to my friends and call you a loser. I have a lot of respect for guys who can put themselves out there and ask. but from what I'm hearing, that's the only thing you people are saying that makes it hard to be a guy.

[ivarei]

Girls get up every day and make themselves look a certain way so that they appeal to guys, all the questions that girls ask on this site makes that apparent. we pluck our hair out, put on makeup, wear clothes aren't usually very comfortable, and stress to NO end about our weight and body. and after a while, if no one seems to give a crap about how much we try every day, we give up. and that's when you see girls who hate to date and say no to everyone...

[ivarei]

Because they were either taken advantage of by some guy saying that they're gorgeous and that no one can compare to her (which is what every girl wants to hear every once in a while) or because no one has every approached her and she doesn't know how to react to the situation. it used to be a give, boys you go out initiate things with girls, and girls, you make yourself look nice so that guys will want you. but now we're in a stale mate because guys don't want to do that anymore.

[Asker]

About the witness thing, it is also awkward and uncomfortable getting rejected by a girl from school, like a girl from class, etc. Because once you get rejected, you have to run into that girl again everyday, and it's very weird, awkward. If it was a girl from a public place, it is not so awkward because you most likely will never see that girl again.

[Dizzle420]

im not reading all the responses, just letting you know I agree with you almost 100%

[steveguitar]

Yeah its easier and it seems that unless the girl is absolutely nuts and the guys wants out, the girl always seems to be the decider if the relationship goes past a few dates

[steveguitar]

Plus I am sure hat girl talk and gossip about their dates with their friends and take all sorts of advice that isn't right for them

[Anonymous]

so what? you think we have it easier. stop moaning, life isn't fair.. what do you want us to do about it?

[Asker]

I am not asking you to do aything about it.

[Opinion Owner]

So what's the point of this? guys are expected to ask girls out. call it tradition. it doesn't mean we should feel sorry for you.

[Asker]

I know it's Tradition, but that Tradition and Status Quo makes it harder for guys since they can't afford to make any mistakes during the getting to know each other process, making the first move, 1 wrong move a guy makes, and it is game over, knowing when to ask the girl out is a lot harder than actually doing it.

[Opinion Owner]

One mistake?? I think you're out of your mind if you think we'll walk away if a guy isn't 100% perfect about his approach. if you start talking about sex or out boobs early on, we might walk away though.

[Asker]

Well I never bring up sex or stare at a girl's boobs during an initial conversation. Also becoming friends first is hard too.

[Asker]

I hate that tradition

[bboyVeroCannon]

We want you to shut your face, you arrogant woman.

[Anonymous]

No, but it is easier for a girl to get a guy to have sex with her than vice versa.

[Asker]

Girls can get laid whenever they want to

[Asker]

For a girl to get sex, it is by choice, for a guy to get sex, it is by luck and chance.

[Anonymous]

if you're being rejected all the time, then you're doing something wrong!

[Asker]

How can I figure out what I am doing wrong?

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe you come off as a creep, or you look like a creep. or maybe you just expect to be shut down so you've got no confidence...girls notice when you don't believe in yourself.

[Asker]

What is the definition of a guy being creepy? what are the signs?

[Opinion Owner]

Do you slick your hair back with gel. you so have uneven facial hair. it gives off a creepy vibe. do you approach a girl and say something like "you're looking fine, what's your number?" or do you approach a girl and immediately start calling her babe, cutie, or honey. if you come of as too SEXUALLY inclined, then girls interpret that is creepy.

[Asker]

No I never use pick-up lines, I say lines like "Hi how's it going?"

[adamfk1]

no its becuase I'm ugly and a girl literary spit on me when I complimented her

[foreveralone1997]

As a girl I can confirm it's harder for a girl to get a boyfriend because I have only been asked out once, no guys ever bat an eye at me and I dress nicely maybe I'm just not pretty?

[chris_987]

Most men have never been asked out by a woman.

[armyant]

Easier for us guys, hands down. Only the small minority of very pretty girls has it easier than us.

[Asker]

I've heard that before, so what you mean is that the only girls that have it very easy, that always seem to have a boyfriend, are the pretty, good-looking ones right? but if a guy is ugly, he can work his way up, he can improve his social skills, conversation skills, his body language, and then he can become a Player or the type of guy that can get the hottest girls?

[armyant]

Girls aren't as hung up on looks as we are, that's a fact. So you can have game even if you're a plain looking guy, but how do you think the homely lookin' girl feels when her pretty friend gets all the attention?

[Asker]

So pretty much for the most part, when it comes to us guys getting a girlfriend or a hot date, or getting laid, it usually comes down to our social skills, conversation skills, attitude, mentality, body-language, the way we walk, talk, sit, stand, breathe, etc. For girls it's generally their looks right?

[ivarei]

Yes, and you can change your approach and improve socially. girls who are ugly are stuck. do you guys, practice makes perfect. for ugly girls it's practice makes more of the same da*m thing.

[Anonymous]

Well, 54% of the single people in the States are women..

Source: link

[adamfk1]

go ask 20 guys and 20 girls why theyre single . most of the girls will tell you they don't want to be in a relationship

[TimB -1-2-3]

Easier for a girl to get a boyfriend? Definately...

Easier for a girl to get a GOOD boyfriend? Definately NOT...

Have a nice day. ;p

[Asker]

It's still easier for a girl to even get a good boyfriend, a serious, committed, long-term relationship because us guys have to initiate everything, whether it is a serious relationship or a non-serious relationship.

[TimB -1-2-3]

Everything? Not true.

While it's true that in most cases we have to do the initializing ourselves, since it's somehow been engrained in our culture, there also are plenty of girls who initiate themselves. So don't say we "have to initiate everything" because there are plenty of cases where it isn't true.

[TimB -1-2-3]

Also: try this exercise: go look for serious, quality boyfriend-material, and THEN come back and say that it's easier. The really good guys are rare, dude. And most of them are already taken, so even IF guys have to do all the initiating themselves, the quality of the great majority them are worse than you think, alas.

Judging from all of the other posts you've made, I feel that you have an issue somewhere, though. Wanna talk about it?

[Asker]

Yeah my problem is that I have a hard time meeting girls, I'm not an outgoing person, I go to community college and I am unemployed.

[TimB -1-2-3]

It could be me, but with all the replies you've posted here it seems like you're a classic "victim mentality" case... Correct me if I'm wrong (and not if it's just hurtful).

So, the question is...

Do you want to do something about it? Or do you want to keep blaming/accusing/whining(?) about how girls have it "easier" and how hard it is for us guys? ;p

Your choice, man :)

[Asker]

I want to do something about it, but it's tough when you don't have a lot of friends to hang out with.

[TimB -1-2-3]

Great! I'm glad you're actually motivated to do something about yourself when you aren't fully satisfied with yourself. That's always the first step to becoming a better person ;)

Would you like some help?

[Asker]

Yes, how do you start a conversation with a girl you have never spoken to before?

[TimB -1-2-3]

There are hundreds of ways. You could go direct ("Hey, I saw you sitting here and you looked interesting, so I figured I'd come and talk to you... Am I right? ;p ", you could appeal to the situation ("Awsome weather, right? I love rain..."), or you could go completely spontaneous ("Hey, my sister's having her birthday this weekend and I have no idea what to buy. You're a girl, right?" (yeah) "So what should I buy her?")

Just so you have some ideas to try out and stuff ^^

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

dude get the f*** over it

[Asker]

No I will not.

[Anonymous]

girls have it harder hands down.

[Asker]

How do girls have it harder?

[Asker]

Girls have it easier because they don't have to pursue or look, girls are takers, they take what they can get.

[Opinion Owner]

No, we don't just take what can get. we have standards.

[Asker]

Yeah but still, those girls who have standards, us guys being the pursuer and chaser, initiator, is a lot harder than being the taker.

[Opinion Owner]

Do you just approach anyone who you think is cute? usually girls give off signs that they want to be talked to and want a conversation initiated with them. but not all girls get guys who pursue them, so for some girls, it is easy as pie, but for the girls who don't get attention from men often, it's REALLY REALLY discouraging.

[Asker]

Well I am unable to read those signs, like I never see girls making first eye-contact with me, like they never look at me or twirl their hair from far away.

[Opinion Owner]

You can't read those signs? do you have autism or something? if you do then I understand. but it sounds like you just sit and watch girls. it seem like you do much approaching at all.

[Asker]

I extremely struggle to tell the difference if a girl is just being friendly to me, just being nice to me, or if she actually likes me, like she see's me as more than just a friend. Also it's hard to tell if a girl is not interested or playing hard to get.