I’m a shy guy. Here’s what I do when I first start liking a girl:
Smiling: I always smile when I see a girl I like.
Approaching You: I like to get to know a girl when it’s more a one-on-one environment. I’ll look for opportunities to run into you at random places so I can strike up a conversation when we’re alone. It might feel like you’re running into this guy all over the place. Trust me, it’s on purpose.
Paying Attention to You: I’ll pay way more attention to you than other girls, and I’ll remember everything we’ve talked about because I want to have something to start conversations with you in the future. HOWEVER, I can get nervous, and then I might pretend to ignore you since I don’t want to screw up and say/do something stupid.
Being Helpful: we want to take care of you and get you to like us. Give us a chance to be chivalrous and we won’t disappoint
Nervousness: if I’m close by a girl I like, I might fidget and not know what to do with my hands. We shy guys might stutter or say really stupid things. Just bear with us.
Mirroring: watch if the shy guy copies your posture or gestures. You can test this one by doing some move on purpose – then watch if he does something similar a couple of seconds later.
Watching the Competition: for example, if a shy guy is talking to you and then another dude walks up and starts chatting with you, we’ll go quiet and try to evaluate your relationship with him. In that situation I’d be trying to figure out which of the two of us you are more interested in.
IMing: shy guys like to use the internet to talk to girls because it removes some of the pressure of dealing with girls and gives us time to collect our thoughts. If he friends you on Facebook and IMs you first, that’s a good sign.
Bottom line girls: do NOT wait for shy guys to make the first move in communicating interest. You’ve got to give us some kind of green light to pursue you romantically or we might not do it.
As for things that turn me off for sure:
- insecurity
- calling/texting too often
- making fun of our friends or interests
- putting me in “just friends” category
- wearing ugg boots
- wearing too much make up
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I'm a really shy person, so usually I can't hold eye contact with anyone (whether I'm interested or not) and when I see someone I like I tend to avoid eye contact altogether in fear she'll see right through me. If we were to talk I tend to focus my attention at an inanimate object but making sure that I can still sense the girl's movement within my peripheral vision, and I tend to reply with very short answers in fear I'd say something wrong.
Turn offs for me would be if she is loud and obnoxious, or really self-centered so that everything have to relate back to her and if she smells bad... lol
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Guys are as different as snowflakes. I physically touch a lot, tease, everything is a joke to me.
As for the second question - everyone is different. Some guys don't like a girl that talks too much, others like her to carry the conversation. Some don't like a shower of compliments to make him feel comfortable, some need it to feel comfortable. If you are interested in the guy, mold to him. There is a difference between nagging and play-nagging, too. I like a girl with a sense of humor, playful - she can turn nagging into bantering which is fun. Worst thing you can do is spill your problems out to us, we want the first interaction to be fun - not an emotional drag. Follow?
A couple tips, do not talk about your problems, put up too much of a chase (a little is great), ignore our jokes, refuse to show interest.The first signs a guy show of attraction to a women, is simply talking to you or somehow have a desire to continue the conversation; be it asking you for your number or be it giving you his e mail. Things that turn off a guy would be being to eager, and too easy to connect with. Keep most of your personal info to yourself be a mystery and you will become desirable. If on the first conversation you have you give out all your info including your address and where you keep your stash of pads then its over. Trust me I've had that one come up many times. hope this helps God Bless.
The first sign that I know myself that I like the girls is when my heart starts racing, and I can't stop thinking about her.
The first sign that I actually let out and express is when I aske her out though.
If you wanted to turn me off, when I make joke, casually put in the phrase, "Oh my gosh, you are so funny, you're such a great friend." You can also do this if I do a nice gesture, and substituting funny with sweet. By you saying friend, that lets me know that I crashed and burned.I'm a shy guy.
Usually I get to know her first, and if I'm attracted to her, then I'd probably admire her from afar when I'm not talking to her (admire, look away when she looks back). I usually smile more around her too.
I hate it when girls make me do all the chasing or play games with me- I absolutely have to be the one to ask her out, or I always have to be the one to text her instead of the other way around sometimes.Most and for most guys who are shy like me who used to be and sorta still am, have a tendency to do more awkward things around you if we like you than not. Recently I fell hard on my knees for this friend I knew for a while, roughly 5-6 years and I never seen her in that light. Nor does it make it any better to have my best friend to have a crush on her and knowing well through text messages that she doesn't like him back. We started texting a lot lately and she's started texting ilys and <3. But chances are shy guys like me start liking girls before they realize and it's most likely ones who you would not expect. Turn offs are having really late text messages, uncertainty, idks, abnormal behavior, and bad smell.
The first sign for me is I don't seem to say things right. I'm literally speechless. One turn off for me would be eating with her mouth full, or being loud like a "ghetto girl from the hood".
once I notice them, I just kind of watch them, get to know them without actually becoming friends (group work in school, labs are great) if I can see them as a potential girlfriend ill ask them out on a date.
Physical attraction comes first with both males and females; as a general rule.
An immediate turn off would be completely dependant on the physical preferences of the individual.idk about the first question...but as for the second question: if a girl says something mean, or acts genuinely conceited, I would immediately be turned off.
Probably when I start getting butterflies every time I see or think about her.
Instant. The second I see her smile at me.
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