Girls, why would you start acting distant with the guy you are seeing?

[Anonymous]

I've been seeing this girl for abut 2 months now, I recently told her a few days ago over text that I wanted to talk to her about becoming official boyfriend and girlfriend. Since then I have seen her once and we couldn't really talk about it because her friends were around. I invited her out to lunch and she said she was tired and said I could go to her room if I wanted, so I did and her roommate was there so it didn't happen. It's been 3 days and it seems like she is avoiding me and not even texting me anymore. I saw her at my fraternity house last night after not texting or talking at all that day and she just acted like it was nothing. I said hi to her and she just gave me a quick hi and left. Then I texted her later and she didn't seem interested in talking to me. I texted her goodnight later and she didn't respond to that. I don't know what to do...

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I asked her out to the movies before she started ignoring me and when we talked last night she said she still wanted to go...

[verychatty30]

to begin with you have only been seeing her for 2 months instead of wanting to become offical why can't you just leave things the way they are, give her some space don't text her unless she text's you.

your both still young so why don't you focus on having fun live ur life to the full then later think about settling down!

you need to stop texting her as the more you do it comes across like ur desperate and believe me girls hate that just as much as men do.

[Asker]

It was her idea to start talking about becoming official...

[verychatty30]

Well if it was her idea and she in now avoiding you then maybe she has changed her mind if like you say ur going to the movies then good but if and I mean if something happens are she gives you an exscuse as to why she can't go then walk away as ur waisting ur time.

i do hope however that you both have a good night and that everything works out for you

[ArtistBboy]

Your trying wayyyyyyyyy to hard to get ahold of her. You should have gotten the hint that something was wrong when she started to ignore you. Now you are simply being creepy in how often you are approaching this woman man.

Take it from me, move on bro, otherwise she may call the cops on you

Best regards,

ArtistBBoy

[Asker]

I haven't been approaching her or texting her since she started avoiding talking to me.. all I did was ask her if she was still going to the movies with me like we set up before she started avoiding me and she said yes, so that's why I am so confused.

[ArtistBboy]

If she said yes, don't worry further- just let her know what time you are going and be chivalrous (be a "knight in shining armor" - and ask if she has a ride).

There's no reason to overanalyze the situation and try to contact her repeatedly, especially if she already said yes =)