Me and my ex still act like we are together. What should I do?

[NrrdGrrlSiren]

Me and my ex have been together on and off for the last three years. Nine months ago I dumped him because I found some emails blah blah blah he denied it and he also put off telling me he was taking a trip to visit his first love for a week. He didn't tell me until like two weeks before he was supposed to leave. But anyways.

He still comes from L.A to visit it me, When he is here we kiss, cuddle, hug, hold hands, have sex, go out places, say we love each other. all of it. but we are not together.

I love him so much and I know he loves me but... He is the only serious relationship I've had so I think that's why I cling to him.

I want a new guy. I want to see what other people are like but at the same time I don't want to loose him. He treats me great but I can't get over the things he's done to me in the past. He plays WoW 24/7 He dumped me to meet some chick he met in WoW. He put up a craigslist ad for a girlfriend then instantly deleted it when he found out I knew about it. He's put me through hell and back.

The thing is I know he loves me though.

I don't know what I should do.

[JedHakuro]

This is honestly a hard one to answer and as a guy, I'll be honest with you, it seems like he is only causing you pain. Of course, I may be misjudging him and I apologize if I am.

However, I have always always always believed that a lovely lady, such as yourself, should have enough self respect to take care of herself, be with the best possible guy out there for them, and never sell herself short..

It seems like he loves you because it seems like to him, he's your safety net. A girl that will always be there when he can't come through in a relationship and that is something you have to acknowledge BUT not accept.

If he truly does love you, then he would have never taken advantage of the relationship he was in and he would have cherished you. And I think the biggest warning sign is that he dumped YOU to meet a girl he MET ON WoW!

And it honestly seems like he doesn't know how to appreciate you. You should definitely go out and be with other people and if you lose him because he doesn't want you to do so, well, he's left you for random strangers.

Just remember, you are an amazing person who deserves better than a guy who goes behind you back and hurts you. Take care of yourself and go out and explore the world.

[Anonymous]

"Whe he is here we kiss, cuddle, hug, hold hands, have sex, go out places, say we love each other. all of it. but we are not together." that sounds like together for me. because you don't call each other boyfriend and girlfriend doesn't mean anything. you ACT like boyfriend and gf.