My enemy likes my Girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

My enemy likes my Girlfriend? The guy that bullied me flirts with her, puts an arm around her, touches her, holds her hand and says that he loves her. He tells her to leave me for him. They hangout whenever I'm not free. My girlfriend is gorgeous. He is more masculine than me, so fighting him is a Bad idea. He intimates my girlfriend (his looks), who is afraid of saying no to him, but still loves me. I feel insecure about hanging near him, as he has slept with and kissed my ex girlfriend.

[ak666]

You have to calmly but firmly tell him to back off, she's taken.

That said, it's kind of your girlfriend's responsibility to do this too. She's going to have more power in rejecting his offer than you do at this point.

Nevertheless, if she doesn't do this and is a damsel type and your attempts to calmly but firmly tell him to lay off don't work, try to be a little more aggressive and keep amping up the aggression gradually.

The key is to try to still make it so he provokes the fight with you, not you with him if he keeps at it. Then several things can happen:

1) you win the fight (unlikely as you pointed out)

2) you lose the fight in front of your girlfriend, but he started it and you fought back. Hopefully the girlfriend is mature enough to see what a jerk he was, so you basically win even though you lost the fight.

3) you lose the fight and the girlfriend goes to him. In that case, your girlfriend is a bitch and you deserve better.

[ak666]

As others pointed out, you can bring a weapon with you to give you the edge. The critical key here is that you do not start the fight. All you do is firmly protect your girl. It's critical that he starts it so that your girl doesn't leave you thinking you're a brute. Keep it purely defensive and tactical until he starts throwing the first punch.

[mikemx55]

They're not even close friends, if she claims that he is the one that pushes things... then she could just easily step away from him and put a stop to it.

She probably likes the attention of the alpha male anyway.. and if you fight him, she will think you're immature (cause she is the mature obviously... they always think they are). If you fight him, you'll get your ass kicked sooner or later, since you are probably more submissive, and it will only lead to problems.

Think about if this is the kind of girl you want to be around anyway.

[spuitkaas]

Okay a few things here:
- it's weird of your girlfriend that she still hangs around with him. Your girlfriend is not a blow-up doll that he can kidnap to hang around with. She actually agrees to hang out with him and as a girl with a boyfriend, no matter how great the guy is as a friend you just don't hang out with your boyfriend's enemy.
- second of all this is really some sort of masculinity men's fight. He does this because he thinks he can because he's more dominant and stronger than you.
I'm not sure if you really have to fight him. Maybe, but that depends on the situation, but you have to become more dominant. Your girlfriend will react on your submissiveness as well abd not in a good way so look on the internet, change your posture and say something about it.
I recommend to do some sort of fighting sport. Not only to defend yourself but you'll become much more confident.

[YaBaba]

Why in the world would your girlfriend hangout with him that way in the first place?

[Tomsta]

Put your foot down, this 'bully' still thinks he can win by his rules. You have to confront him. You need to show him that you're not afraid of him. You may not want to fight him, but confronting him is a fight intself; if things to get physical then do what you can to defend yourself.

He wants you to give up; if you do something he doesn't expect like stand up for yourself and not take any of his shit he may back off. Failing that if he does fight you you could technically have him arrested for assualt charges or GBH

[SlightlyCrazy]

Go buy some wieghted Sap gloves
They are normal looking gloves with led shit sewn into the knuckles
punch that fucker in the know as hard as you can
Keep pinching him, try to blind and cause as mych spin as possible
Bring a knife or soemthing to that effect, threaten to slit the fuckers throat
Walk away
Good luck not getting arrested
Oooooooooooooor you could get a better girlfriend because what she is doing is really really really wrong

[akadatank44]

Tell your girl to fucking get in line and not hang out with the duche. Whys this guy still around dude. Go beat his ass

[Marinepilot]

Kick his ass or have it done. When you get him down, hurt him. Beat him to within an inch of his life. Trust me, he will back off.

[Dred1614]

Punch the guy. Assert your dominance. That's the only thing that primitive people like him understand.

[DareYouAsk]

If your girlfriend reacts to his actions, then she doesn't deserve to be yours !

[Omar5881]

Go best that guy's ass you're a man