What does a backrub mean?

[Anonymous]

I've been hanging out with this girl a whole lot the last few months. I really like her a lot. We've messed around a few times--nothing serious.

She told me Monday that she just wants to be friends and she's going to see this other guy. I was planning to respect that. But yesterday, we ended up spending the whole day together (AGAIN!). Around midnight we were watching a movie at my place, flirting nonstop as usual and leaning up against each other. Then she asked me to give her a back rub, which I did. I was pretty turned on before that, so after a couple minutes, I started kissing her shoulders and cheeks... Then she flipped out and got all p*ssed off. Probably not my best move of all time, but I want to know:

Was I out of line, or is was that a reasonable response?

[Little-Hippie]

You weren't out of line at all.

Her intentions with you are far more nefarious than your intentions with her.

You seem to be looking for a romantic relationship with all the aspects of a romantic relationship.

She seems to be looking for a friendship with none of the aspects of a romantic relationship except for the ones that benefit her, and not you.

So she gets all the perks of having someone there to be her emotional tampon and do favors for her. Meanwhile, the other men that she's seeing get all of the romantic and sexual benefits of her.

Furthermore, she's even managed to make you feel like YOU have done something wrong.

No sir. Pure iniquity on her part.

[AlanHB]

You're just fine mate. Basically she just wants everything. You for back rubs and emotional support, other dudes for sex and stuff. That you want more is not your fault, and she shouldn't be spending all this time with you if it's not going anywhere. Don't apologise.

[AlanHB]

Best answer! Thanks.

[Anonymous]

You were not out of line. What you did was perfect! :)

[Asker]

Thanks! I appreciate that.

[Anonymous]

in any other case I would say that's out of line..but it sounds like she was sending signals and being little miss flirty. she should've known something like that would happen.