How do I ask a girl out I've been friends with for five years?

[SPNSW82]

I've been friends with this girl for five years. And have always liked her. I also asked her out once about four years ago but got turned down. But now I think both of us have changed a lot and I think I might have a chance. What I'm afraid of is that she will say she just wants to be friends and I really am afraid it could make things awkward if I ask her if she likes me. I want a way to show her that I care about her more than just a friend and seep out of her "just friends" zone.

[chosen1]

...i say just hit her up about it. be straight up and ask her...but make sure you make it clear that you want to be friends either way the situation goes...she might say no at first, but it'll go through her mind over and over after she actually knows the scenario. if she says na, then move on...it'll be hard, but you'll never know until you actually ask her dude. I'm in the same situation with a guy I've liked and hooked up with for over 5 years...Ive always been the chick on the side...not the actual "arm candy"...which totally sucks ass, and kinda isn't relevant to your situation exccept the fact that the time frame is kinda the same...no matter how hard you try not to like them, they will always be in your mind, even if YOU'RE the 1 in another relationship...it sucks dude, I feel ya...but grow some balls, and take a chance. AND DON't DO IT IN A TEXT!

[hottywitabody]

girls like straight forward guys jus tell them how you feel now! its easier for both of you guys so you know the truth to thy own self be true ..anyways but dnt ever do it front of her friends cause shell try to b kool and laugh about it but sometimes girls really like you and I agree with the girls below take it up a notch say the movies or bowling something you can help her out with make it funn and not awkward and should be good:) GOODLUCK

[J0lyluvszux3]

I think that if you really like this girl you should tell her what you really feel for her and that you want to be more than a friend to her, no matter what your fears are you should take a chance with her because you never know what her answer might be, maybe she likes you back.

[Phantom_operator]

Simple, as her if you can take her on a date. Let that be the first step. Show her your true gentleman side that she has never seen to the extend. You asking her on a "date" lets her know consciously that it's not just friends. So how she looks for you, keep on her eyes the whole time. I just went through this with a friend that I have been friends with for over ten years and asked her out six years ago go shot down, went about my life and met up again, but always kept in contact. One thing is for sure, show your confiendnce in yourself. Good luck

[Tdieseler]

Gifts.. could help...also remember her important dates..(women love that)...but nothing will be more to the point than telling her how you feel and what you want...

[gigglechickbabe]

Ok, don't tell her what you want, it would make you seem puching and obnoxious! But other than that Tdieseler is right!

[Xenesis24]

Why all these stupid games??...mannn jus go for it already....daaaammmnnn...5 years....geeezz

[Gregs]

Do you actually get laid?

[Tdieseler]

Talkin to me? or SPNS?

[liveyourlife09]

your question made me smile!

i think you should start by just taking your relationship up a notch, like going to the movies alone and just act chill and normal. give her the feel of being in a relationship with you. build it all up; you've already liked her for five years, what's just a little bit longer? then ask her out in a really sweet way. take the time to think everything out. I think you have a chance!

[Softballlover]

Well if I were her I'd say yes. If you've been friends for five years then he probably is thinking the same thing as you r. As te guy, you should make the first move. Girls are kinda shy when it comes to things like this. They really want you to speak up, but they don't say that

[Goodfella]

If you think you have a chance, I say go for it. It's been four years and like you said, you both have had time to change. Don't ask her if she likes you flat out but if you want to ask her out make sure she knows you mean as a date and not 'hanging out'. If there's anything there then you should be able to figure out from there.

[gigglechickbabe]

Aww, I think that's so sweet. Girls LOVE sensitve guys. But DO NOT flat out ask her out. And don't put too much pressure on her waiting for her answer. When you plan on asking her out, show her the fun and sweet side of you. Go do something fun and spend the day with her. And I was thinking just don't do it in one day, give it some time.

[Gregs]

read the "lets just be friends" story in my profile and also passing women's test stories I wrote

[ilylyssx]

i'd go in for a kiss first to see if she likes you back. and then go from there

[Anonymous]

I think it won't hurt to ask if she does say no then it will be the same as last time you will still have your friendship and everything so don't be afraid to ask.