Is handsome a compliment?

I was just wondering because I've always been called handsome and never anything else and always hated. to me it was always just something you call somebody that is not gooding but a good person to make them feel better. although recently I've found out there are definitions.

so for the guys, do you like being called handsome?

for guys and girls, what is your definition of handsome?

and I apologize if this is in the wrong category.


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  • handsome is good looking (:

    haha its a good thing when girls call you handsome. that means your really reallly cute, which you kinda are (;

    so be proud to be called that, because most guys don't get that kinda compliment.

    <3

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    • No Handsome is not a compliment! it may have began as a word to commend a guy as a masculine version of beautiful! However in the current society it no longer holds a positive condentation! Only people I ever hear it from is a Mom or someone politely rejecting me! Fact is in reality Handsome is actually used closer as an insult because its used as a white lie line! Personally I have no patience for people saying nice things to make me feel good just be f'ing honest. don't play nice unless u mean it! and Felly Love I am guessing your either in southern states where handsome is still used commonly as a flirt so if so it may be accurate however its not a positive term all the time and as a guy who has dealt with people using it as a cop out rejection line. I would advise all women if truly like a guy avoid the word handsome it'll bring up red flags for a lot of us. plus hurts our tender egos tbh. Its not really a nice term in man language. so try cute, sexy, etc. avoid handsome tho!

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  • Handsome is the male equivalent of "beautiful".

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    • it was in the 1950's maybe but now its not a word men like to hear its very behind in the times its what mom and grandma called us so a cute sexy or hot girl calling us it feels weird and wrong! also its taken adopted negative relations to most men as its often used as a polite way to turn guys down these days! so just so u realize not many men want to hear they are handsome so please ladies stop using the word! It is at the least weird and more often can insult or upset men cause of how it has become used these days!

    • @mefink31 my boyfriend has no problem getting called handsome and neither have I ever heard of this complaint from anyone else.

  • handsome: good looking

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  • Ive always used Handsome as a complement... Means good looking or attractive.

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    • When you say attractive do mean physical, personality or both. some times guys use cute to describe personalty or a good cobination of both. do girls use handsome the way?

    • Usually its physical attractiveness or a combination. I wouldn't use it to describe a personality.

    • I typed that wrong, I meant good looks or a combination of both

  • it most definitely is a compliment. I for one, hate using the word hot, I think it's overrated and overused. I would call a guy handsome

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  • This is a void in the language.

    What we need is a way to compliment a man's physical appearance that would be improper for his mother to use. Handsome is appropriate for his mother to use therefore it lacks the desired emotional punch that you would want from a woman you were sexually interested in.

    Think of it this way: the proper word, if said by a guy's mother, should imply incest. It would be scandalous for her to say it, therefore she would not. The word would convey the desired additional meaning is said by a fellow's love interest.

    Consider this imperfect example:

    What if a woman described her son as "fuckable"?
    Scandslous! Horifying! Right?

    Now let a girlfriend say that her man if "fuckable". That's appropriate and desireable. It also expresses the sense of attraction I think you are looking for. We just need a term with this sensibility that was not vulgar. Hmm...

    Now that I think about it, I suspect this void in the language is somewhat intentional. I think for women there is a desire to preserve ambiguity and deniability. That sounds about right.

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  • I think it is.

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  • handsome is something a mom or grandma would say. unless you're called that when you're all dressed up then that's okay. but for our age I think only being called cute/hot works for us.

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    • Yeah I agree, but even dressed up I still don't like. you are right though there is difference

    • I don't do dressing up anyways unless someone dies or gets married lol. but if ur a hottie my age and not family member I don't wanna hear handsome just ewwww don't act like my grandma girls turn off much

    • I would honestly as a guy rather be called beautiful than handsome cause at least you ain't being my grandma while flirting lol

  • I've always been called handsome by close family and friends, so I guess you could consider them biased.

    I guess it depends. If a girl really likes you, and she says you are handsome/cute/gorgeous/adorable, it doesn't matter whether it is true or not (also remember, beauty is in the eye of the beholder), the fact that she cares about you enough to complement you on your looks should be more then sufficient for you. If you consider yourself unnatractive, you don't get called handsome by family and friends, but your girlfriend/boyfriend constantly complements you on your looks, that's when you truly know what a special person you have, because you know they are seeing past your looks, and truly love you for you. ;)

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    • Nice answer although it doesn't answer the question very well

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    • Im 21 and I use handsome when I truly believe that they are handsome.

    • @jabaybay stop using it cause no man wants to hear u tell him what grandma says just ewww its a total turn off word (this is warning/advice to all girls don't use it if u actually want to make a good impression. this is 1 those words that genders have much different views on tbh in general cause girls never had grandma call them it it doesn't lose value in their eyes but for men its just weird gross and creepy!

  • I think its misused to reject guys while sparing feelings way too often! Because of this it has taken on a less kind nature than its meant as. add onto that that it kinda a dead societal word to begin with and a bit out of date not used by anyone but moms and grandmas anymore it loses its value for girls to use these days. Fact is most guys I know will be insulted by use cause it has adopted that nature by the overuse as a polite rejection term! Ladies don't use handsome if you actually like a guy you will hurt any chances girls because for most men it holds a negative relation to its meaning! Usually cause a girl used handsome in same sentences she hurt him with via breakup or rejection. even if u mean it as a compliment it will 99% time be seen as a rejection and guys gonna be waiting for a but... situation cause of it! Men do not like the word handsome so don't use it ladies!

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  • Handsome is absolutely a compliment.

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  • Yes, I always take that as a compliment and believe it should be. It's basically the male equivalent to "pretty" for a female.

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    • Does matter age the person is that is calling you handsome and do you get handsome by girls under 28. I was wondering because I am 21 and have never got that from a girl my own age my entire life

    • Although I have always avoided girls and there for never had many chances to called handsome or rated in any way

    • No, the age doesn't make any difference. Though I don't get quite as flattered when she's in her 70's :P

  • No. "Handsome" is nothing but sugarcoated way for women to say you're just another average face in the crowd.

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