Have you ever experienced mutual "Limerence"?

Limerence is an involuntary cognitive and emotional state of intense romantic desire for another person. The term was coined by psychologist Dorothy Tennov to describe the ultimate, near-obsessive form of romantic love. Limerence is sometimes also referred to as infatuation, or is colloquially known as a crush. In common speech, infatuation includes aspects of immaturity and extrapolating from insufficient information, and is usually short-lived.

Basically, it is the state of being completely carried away by unreasoned passion or love; addictive love. Usually, one is inspired with an intense passion or admiration for someone. Limerence can be difficult to understand for those who have never experienced it, and it is thus often dismissed by nonlimerents as ridiculous fantasy or a construct of romantic fiction.


Usually if I have a liking for somebody I like them for years and years and usually (more so then not) I end up in some type of relation with the person I like. I never ever experience "kind of like" - I'm either totally into a person or not at all and it's so very rare for me to really, really and truly like a guy. I think maybe over the years I have been Limerent for 5 guys in total but out of those 5 guys I don't think they ever felt mutual limerence - I think my feelings were always much stronger for them.

My latest Limerent 0bject has been the last 2.5 years. I didn't even "like him" at first but he started to stare at me and those stares turned into daily mutual eye contact and little smiles and then that turned into a strange tension between us where we'd stand nearby each other, stare but keep silent and that turned into fidgeting and blushing (on his part) and sideways glances and lingering nearby to hear my conversations, etc. Well he's been my limerent object for like I said, 2.5 years but I believe he's also prone to Limerence and I believe I was his object of desire before he was mine.

The problem with Limerence is the fact that it's such a strong attraction it's really hard to define, ignore and also the risk is so high that you rarely come forward and say that you like the person in fear of rejection and since the "game" is what keeps the high going and the romantic "if only" well the risk is hard to take. Also my Limerent 0bject has been married for like 8 years which makes this game so much more tantalizing but also the risk is the ultimate risk!

I think for the first time in my life I've met somebody I have mutual Limerence with. When we stare at each other we never look away - we just stand and stare with doe eyes - no words - and lately he has been coming around more and opening up by actually speaking a bit more than just "hello and how are you"...

Have you ever experienced this strange thing?

If you aren't familiar with Limerence please don't respond unless you have an intelligent answer!

Have you ever experienced mutual "Limerence"?
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