She used to like me, now it seems like she is avoiding me?

[Anonymous]

right, I met this girl and we got on fine got her number and everything texted her for a couple of weeks then been going to her house, been round 4 times, first couple times nothing really happened just talked and watched TV but second and third times she started cuddling up to me and we would cuddle and talk etc. she also started wearing my hoodie a lot and has borrowed it, but ever since the last time I was round her house she doesn't text me any more and only replies to some of my texts, we were supposed to meet up the other day but she canceled and said she was meeting up with her friends who she doesn't get to see that often, fair is fair but it seems like she is avoiding me for some reason? all the signs point to her liking me but the past week has been awkward with her not replying to my texts etc. any help or advice would be much appreciated!

[carias1541]

Okay so first thing first. Was there any fooling around involved?

I'm sorry but this sounds like something a guy would be doing not a girl BUT

when a girl does do these things which I myself have found to have done before I can tell you that either you came on too strong or there could be someone else. Another thing that can be happening is that she can be thinking that maybe she needs some space. That one only happens though if you've been texting her too much a girl can sometimes feel suffocated.

Something else that you might want to consider is that she might be wanting you to go to her all the time. Some girls depending on the girl like to play hard to get. When a girl starts doing that or even a guy why bother? I can give you so many ideas as to why she might be acting this way but every girl and situation is different. Her not replying to your texts and only some of them could definitely mean that you might not be that important on her priority list. I being a girl do not give just any guy the time of day as a matter of fact I ignore some of them most of the time because I'm not interested as I might have been at the beginning. Again, Try not to fill your head with all these bad thoughts my advice to you is simply to go to her and be honest with her and ask her what's going on. If she is only interested as a friend its best if you find out now rather than keep going and wondering why she is doing the things that she is doing.

I hope this helps.

[Asker]

No there was no fooling around I would just put my arm round her and she would cuddle up and get close, how should I approach her about the situation? just ask if she is avoiding me or something?

[carias1541]

Well then that's a good thing?

How well do you know this girl?

It breaks my heart to hear this because I've been there and also have been in your shoes

to the point where I'm not too sure what to say. You can simply ask her to hang out and talk to her about things don't bring anything up immediately but do speak to her simply ask her what she thinks about your friendship. Also ask her where does she see you two going with this friendship be as clear as possible.

[Asker]

I know her pretty well been txing her for about 3 weeks and only hung out with her past 2 weeks, she stopped txting me etc after the last time we met and we got really close that time, I admit I may be txting her to often etc so may just lay off the txting for a bit and see what happens, really thought I stood a chance with this girl as she seemed to really like me, not sure what's happened :(

[carias1541]

Don't take it personal. Honestly girls are blind sometimes. Take a deep breath and just let her be for a couple of days but if it really is bothering you the only way to fix this is by talking :(

Communication is key to everything. Lack of communication results in well this. I completely understand you though I'm the same way and get so sad over things like these. If you really like her get to the bottom of things. The sooner you do it the better to avoid any further hurt feelings :/

[BrittanyMarguerite]

It sounds like maybe she's found someone else. When you really like someone, you want to spend time with them, you want to talk to them. If you really like someone, you don't ignore their texts or phone calls. However, if she's found someone else to spend her time with, then you might end up taking a back seat to that other person. You should definitely talk to her about it.

[Asker]

Id hate that to be the case, what should I say to her?

[BrittanyMarguerite]

Tell her that you feel like she's been avoiding you and you'd like to know if you did something wrong. Don't ask her if she's seeing someone else, that will only make you appear clingy or possessive. Just say that you like her a lot and want to make sure everything is cool between the two of you. Let her know that you'd like to see her again and attempt to make plans with her. If she blows you off again, then she's just not that into you.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like she's no longer interested in you. Maybe in the beginning she was or she was trying to force herself to be. But now it seems like she's being childish and avoiding you. Definitely not worth your time.

[Omega007]

Well this world is crazy, girls set the window open for a specific amount of time until they find someone else or other chalenge.. It seems the two of you were getting allong great and she was giving you hints to hit on her.. Next time make a move faster, kiss her.. fool around and let her chase you ;)

[Anonymous]

just ignore her,she isn't worth it

[Opalocka]

Ok, to answer the question, DO NOT TAKE FEMALE ADVICE on this one. When a woman becomes disinterested, you should just move on instead of confronting her. The only time you should talk it out with a girl is if she is your GIRLFRIEND, or if you have put serious time in the relationship. Girls you just met are like revolving doors. They come and they go. If you approach her about why her feelings seem to have changed, she will only lie to you so that she doesn't feel bad, leaving you oc