She used to like me but now she avoids me,and I haven't done anything different!is she shy?or should I give up

OK so there is this girl I really like. All was well, it seemed that we were well on our way to going out. we txt, go to the park, and stuff like that. It's just that in the past few days, things have been really awkward. It seems like she's been avoiding me. she had know that I liked her for a long time before this, so that cannot be the reason for her acting differently. and I don't know of anything else that could be explain it either. It really seems like she doesn't like me now. Does she not like me, or is she just being shy? or something else? please help, because I really don't know what to think anymore


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  • Ok my guess is that she is into you. She probably likes you a whole lot more now because you guys have been hanging out all the time and its making her nervous and uncomfortable to be around you. It sounds like she is shy. I just about always "avoid" guys when I like them just because I'm nervous.

    The other possibility is that she's not into you and she doesn't want to lead you on. You said that she knows you like her, so maybe she just doesn't want to give you the wrong idea. Just ask her about what's been going on. I mean if you guys are friends she will probably tell you the truth.


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What Girls Said 2

  • She maybe being shy and a bit unsure. You should try to talk to her. She may have got a bit freaked out and need time. Let her know that you are there for her, you care about her and that you are happy for things to go slow if she is not comftable. Let her know that you want her to be happy and that she made you happy.

    You are both very young, so just take your time and see where it goes. Tell her that there is no pressure. I think she still likes you but is a bit unsure of her self at the moment.

  • Give it a little time and normally to get answers... you should ask questions, but don't be to forward about it, you might scare her off.


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  • Its really hard to tell from what you have said. It could be many things.

    She may have been interested in you, but interpreted something you have done in a way that makes her think you don't like her anymore, and now she feels awkward. Girls tend to read into things too much and often make mountains out of molehills, or take things way out of proportion. Try to think of some way you may have offended her or made her think you might not like her anymore, no matter how small or insignificant it may be.

    Alternatively, you may have not done something that she was expecting you to do, for example, there was a party and you didn't invite her to go with you. With girls, sometimes what you 'dont' do hurts them more than what you 'did' do. She may have been offended by this, or she might think she is getting mixed signals from you.

    The only other thing I can think of is that she either has found someone else that she likes more, or someone has bad mouthed you behind your back and she believed them.

    The only advice I can give you is to confront her about it. Tell her you are getting mixed signals and you just want to know where you stand, and ask if you have done anything to offend/upset her, and what you can do to make ammends.

    Good luck :)