What's more attractive - confidence or cute shyness?

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ADS10 · Accepted Answer

REASONS WHY SHY GUYS DESERVE A CHANCE
1. He will really listen to you. You won't see his eyes glaze over when you start an in-depth comparative analysis of Beyoncé's discography because he genuinely cares about what you have to say.

2. He understands that showing emotion is a thing that humans do. He's there for you, whether your dog passed away or you're watching the beginning sequence in Up.

Carl Fredricksen is obviously a shy guy.
3. His attention to detail is unsurpassed. He will remember everything from your favorite place to get brunch to how you take your coffee.

4. He is physically incapable of bragging. Shy guys like to receive praise and recognition in a humble way, which just makes you want to brag about how fucking great he is.

5. He's basically a human advent calendar, and each day, you find out a tantalizing new detail you never knew about him before. It's very possible that "We've been dating for two years and you never told me you're fluent in French?" is a sentence that could leave your mouth.

6. He doesn't feel the need to dominate every conversation. He's gonna let you finish.

7. He treats everyone with respect. It doesn't matter if he's talking to his boss or the waitress who's covering your table, it's "please" and "thank you" all day and all night.

8. He's never not adorable. Nervous and tongue-tied? More like cute as hell.

9. He gives the best advice. Not only is he great at listening to your problems, he's always there to give honest, thoughtful guidance when you ask for it.

10. He's generally down to do things with you that other guys make every conceivable effort to avoid. Making cupcakes for your BFF's birthday party? He'll help, no questions asked.

11. He's obsessed with surprising you in sweet, adorable ways. Because he expresses himself more through actions than words. Flowers, breakfast in bed, random notes left around your room — he does it all.

12. You feel at ease with him. Intimidating Christian Grey-types are only hot up to a point. When you want to spend the morning lying in bed and talking about Life

Bjorn526 · Accepted Answer

Usually confidence because confidence doesn’t mean extroverted, not at all, that just means “interest in being social” and maybe that interest isn’t a good thing, or genuine.
I find a certain unconscious non-deliberate type of shyness attractive, but what it really is, is a type of usually, introverted academic type of girl, who isn’t intimated by people or insecure, or passively wanting to be noticed, she just is doing her own thing, and content being alone, and she appears shy to people sometimes

Jes2020 · Accepted Answer

I always used to think confidence was more attractive. Then I realized that cockiness usually comes along with that. I’ve dated many cocky arrogant guys. Currently I’m dating a tall, shy, slightly socially awkward guy. I can’t even explain the fact that every single thing he does is adorable. I’m obsessed with the way he talks, the little things he notices that nobody else would, how respectful and thoughtful he is. It’s been the best relationship I’ve had in only 6 months so far. Vs 2-4 years with the cocky rude arrogant guys I dated previously. Shy guys are the best

Fitness-Fanatic · Accepted Answer

Confidence. Not everyone displaying confidence is arrogant and cocky. Most aren't

It's difficult to get to know shy people on a personal level. Confident people are usually open about themselves, their life and feelings. So it's easier to build a rapport with them

KatharsisQ · Accepted Answer

You can easily be confident and shy at the same time, it's a lot about posture, what usually have us instinctively run for the hills is insecurity and the guy giving off vibes that everything is a disaster in his life.

Logan27 · Answer

Girls LOVE ripped, confident, cocky studs. Contrary to popular belief, women do NOT like cute, shy guys that treat them well. In fact they usually cheat on and get bored with those guys. It's actually hardwired for women to sleep with as many "hot babdboys" as possible. It's biological... they need to find the best alpha.

EmilyRose3364 · Answer

A little bit of both, you wanna have confidence but not to much, other wise you may look like a guy who has a huge ego some girls dont wanna be apart of (my opinion)

puzzlez · Answer

Shy cuteness :) The shy/quiet ones tend to have a lot going on in their heads, which is what i find attractive.

shots-shots-shots · Answer

Absolutely confidence, every time. Shyness isn’t cute; it signals low self-esteem or cowardice... neither are good.

SherbertKay · Answer

Confidence without cockiness and shyness so long as he is assertive and will take action when he likes me. I need a dominant male, not some lazy hick.

Moonchild714 · Answer

It depends on the guy some guys can pull off cute shyness and there are guys who's confidence spews sex appeal...

CallaLily3 · Answer

From what I have known, I dont like shy guys. It's just weird. Maybe its just the person I know. My crush is kinda confident ish

Lucy_Mon · Answer

I would say a little of both. I'm shy and I've been told that it's cute, but I need to have more confidence.

Tacomeat · Answer

Girls will say confidence, guys will say shyness.. why? Biology.. next

shortynat · Answer

Confidence, men love it when a woman is comfortable in her own skin

DrinkJavaSeeSharp · Answer

As a dude, for me a shy girl is way more attractive than a confident one!

Caaarl · Answer

Confidence. I'd rather be around someone who can flirt rather than someone who's completely paralyzed.

TwinCKI · Answer

I think girls will like a confident guy because he'll just be easier to be around/talk to

Mi2mi2a · Answer

Being a down to earth guy and comnfident in himself.

ChronicThinker · Answer

Confidence. Cute shyness is for children, not grown men.

jaashley · Answer

I prefer for a guy to be more confident, that way i know where i stand with him

lifelearner011 · Answer

I love confident subtle guys. I don't see them often :(

SC4321 · Answer

Hopefully some girls like cute shyness. Otherwise I'll probably end up alone.

mnoxyz · Answer

Confidence..! And yeah the confidence of being correct... can make anyone go super attractive

aceexp · Answer

Confidence is more attractive, cute shyness is more... cute I guess

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Confidence, but it's totally OK to have shy moments. Just better to have a personality built on confidence than on shyness.

chriscdi · Answer

Girls have different types some like the confident guys 👉😎👈, or some like the shy guys the opposite of me 😁

kaskas19 · Answer

I kinda like a mix of both. But I would say cute shyness if I had to pick.

YangBH · Answer

it's both attractive in moderation. too much is annoying.

ScottSummers · Answer

girls will say confidence they really like that i personally prefer confident over shy girls but shy girls can be cute as well

torwulf · Answer

Confidence. Shyness is a novelty that doesn't last long and becomes annoying m, but for a relationship to work long term, confidence is necessary

Love_yourself · Answer

Confidence only matters until both meet.. but Shyness is a special thing in a guy... Only few people show it genuinely..

Ayer93 · Answer

Confidence makes them more approachable and easier to talk with.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Really flattering how lot's of girls like shy guys. I like cute girls and shy girls. ^.~

Leo3572 · Answer

Guess second one for me. Not too shy, but in a cute way it's pretty attractive.

ryancg · Answer

Confidence. Shyness comes off as insecure and I can't stand that.

MeatPuppet · Answer

Well, since I have zero confidence, I might as well LDAR.

RoseShannon · Answer

I like when somebody confident gets shy and clumsy when they talk to me the first time

Stan_Control_ · Answer

Cute shyness.  But cute insecurity isn't really attractive but on sight, they seem similar.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm dominant, that's why I prefer cute and shy guys, my boyfriend is just like that.

SupMyDudes14 · Answer

Cute shyness bc usually those are the guys that turn out to be the good guys not the players like most of the confident guys.

CT_CD · Answer

Women like confidence and hate shy guys. Cute shyness is okay if you're a girl

little_Snail · Answer

Super Confidence, when he is like Hitler, with his tiny mustaches

Anonymous · Answer

I prefer girls who are self-confident, I don't like shy girls because I'm too shy.

Zahran · Answer

A balance of both though I tend to lean towards shyness.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm ok with either as long as he'll step up when needed.

9teen · Answer

The modest kind of confidence.

Lualla · Answer

Confidence. No doubt.

Goofy_Flamin · Answer

Confidence im the only one who can be shy here 😂

Some_Goof · Answer

Confidence.

steelbunny · Answer

I prefer confidence, shyness annoys me

Serena23 · Answer

Confidence but with some limits.

ghostqueen · Answer

I can appreciate both.

serious · Answer

Well shyness in cute. Confidence is attractive.

deric_97 · Answer

Short term, cute. Long term, confidence.

zoe2187 · Answer

Confidence but not cockiness.

Nivinxus · Answer

Confidence, I prefer it that way.

confussionandguilt · Answer

confidence without arrogance

Anonymous · Answer

Confident.. It is more manly

killa_queen · Answer

Cute shyness is more attractive to me.

Anonymous · Answer

i hate when a guy is trying to act shy. just be u

sunrays1 · Answer

Cute shyness

swifty003 · Answer

Not too confident,, not too shy Seems about right!

Emiliennene · Answer

Cute shyness

Georgediver · Answer

I don t know, but I'm very very shy

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