She thinks I'm wrapped around her finger. So I know what's going on...but I don't know what to do PLEASE HELP?

[Anonymous]

Me and this girl have been off and on together...but never have actually been together. It seems like when ever we start having fun and getting really close she pushes me away then we come back to each other and its not just a friend thing either. this has happened at least 4 times with each time we have been progressively gotten a little closer. I recently told her how I felt about her. That I had feelings for her and cared about her but if I'm some guy she's just gonna string along then that's effed up and she said no to that and hasn't really pushed me away yet but I don't know if she will. And this isn't just me talking to her...we've been out on dates a few times (like 3)i text her.she texts me and she's told me that she wants to do all these things with me in the future

i asked her if she had feelings for me and she said she did. But I feel like she only wants to hangout at her convenience and that she thinks I'm wrapped around her finger. Were are not together and I know she doesn't want a commitment right now...but she still thinks its cool to text this other guy a whole lot and hangout with him..and for me to tell her how I feel about her and for her to think this is cool...really pisses me off. I don't know how to explain this to her without looking like a needy insecure douche. I'm crazy about her and she knows it...i know I can't force her into a relationship but HOW CAN I SHOW HER THAT SHES LUCKY TO BE WITH ME. We have a crazy amount in common and I feel such a great connection with her...What should I do? thank you for any help

[preciousle408]

From a girls prospective this girl is probably a whore!

IF not! Its probably because she is unsure with having a relationship with u. There is a attraction going on between you two but she may not be sure if she wants a relationship because she is afraid. The reason why I say this is because I have been through the same type of situation with a guy for almost 2 years. Him and I were talking on and off never got together and made it official. There was always something about that guy that didn't seem right, but there was an attraction between us! I liked flirting with him but nothing further than that. Maybe its not met to be. If it would happen it would happen a long time ago for the both of u. You Seem like a nice guy so move on the next. find someone that is at your level instead of waiting and wondering what to do.

[Asker]

Well weve done a lot more than just flirt like I said...ill just say that we haven't had sex yet but pretty much everything else. And there may be a reason why she is unsure. There is a guy in another state that she had kind of long relationship with and she has to still have strong feelings for him..but he has treated her like sh*t and recently came into town for the holidays but basically ignored her. That was the reason she said for those times we stopped talking.

[Asker]

So I don't know if she's realizing that this guy is a POS and is sort of exploring her options...how do I prove to her that I'm the better option?