How to approach girls in a club?

[Anonymous]

What is the best way to approach females in a club, say they are dancing in a group of four. I don't want to approach them and make them scared just be friendly.

[AlekNovy]

I've invested years in this stuff. I've tried every technique, way of being, stuff to do at the club... And at the end I have the simplest answer for you.

-Master the skill of eye-contact. Like I said, I have tried and master EVERY single way of approaching and meeting women in clubs... And at the end, it all comes to the eye-contact. Seriously. Years ago, no way I would have accepted it, I would be like (wtf, what eye-contact, what do I SAY!?)... But seriously dude, you have to master communicating with your eyes. (google for a guy called cory skyy, he explains this stuff nicely)

-Walk into a club with many cool guy friends and attractive female friends, this will make you more approachable and less of a threat. This way its 100x easier for you to approach girls, as you're already proven to be "safe, not a pervert or sex maniac"

-I know you don't wanna hear this. But you need to master the skill of SOCIALIZING, not approaching girls. If you walk into a club, you need to be able to master the bouncer, the barmen, the women you like, the women you don't like. Only after you've made friends with everyone, do you move in on the girl you like. It might actually seem like hard work, but its actually EASIER. The hardest thing on the planet is to make a move on a girl, lone-girl, and convince her that you're attractive enough to talk to. Its much easier to just be the super-charismatic social friendly guy, and just be friendly to everyone (just friendly, not hit on them)... Then, getting the girl you like the best is just a matter of picking her. Lol. Its that easy.

[tex151]

This happend to the me the other night I was at a club with friends who were all guys and we were talking checkin out the place and one of my friends goes hey man look at those chicks, there's five of them and there's five of us what do you say? So I looked over and damn they were all perfect 10s sitting there at a table all by themselves and no guy in the place walked up to them. So I said well guys lets go talk to them, and my friends were like well what do we say, and I said it's simple go up to them and say hi my name is. and introduce yourself.

Well the problem was no one in the group except for me and one other guy actually had the balls to do that, so I told them ok that's it I am going in. I walked right up to the table tapped one of the girls on the shoulder and introduced myself, they all introduced themselves and one girl said you want to dance? And so we walked to the dance floor and danced had a good time and I even got her number.

So what are you so afraid of, is it that they might reject you who the hell cares if they do or don't it's not like you ever have to see them again if they do. Next time you go to the club and see a hottie just walk up to her and talk to her, because if you don't then you will never know, and you will always sit back and wonder why that guy got the girl and not you.

Sure their will be times that you will get rejected I've been rejected and so has every other guy in the world, but that doesn't hold me back, I just say ok well talk to you later and move onto the next girl.

[Becca1234]

If by approach them you mean dance/grind with one of them, then you definitely need to be "smooth" about it. (lol). I HATE when I'm dancing at a club and all of a sudden some dude is groping on me from behind and I have no idea who he is or what he looks like. Start dancing near them, and try to dance across from the girl you're most interested in dancing with. At the same time, introduce yourself to them and make some small talk with them (it'll obviously be hard to have a full fledged conversation because it's so loud in there but a couple sentences goes a long way!) After dancing by them for a while casually ask one of them to dance. They'll most likely say yes. Then from there just go with it and have a good time! Oh and be confident. If you're unsure, then the girls will be unsure and it'll just be a mess lol.

Haha oops I might have just totally misinterpreted your question. Sorry if that's not what you were asking lol. Hopefully it'll help someone out though hah.

[flgurl75]

I agree, I totally get annoyed by guys who just come up behind you. you can't see them you don't know them. they start grinding all up on you without and inventation. total turn off for me most likey I will just move away from them if they can't even approach me respectfuly, I'm not interested.

[madcat44]

don't start dancing with them, you would freak them out! lol just aks one of the girls, "HI, can I join you girls?" just be casual and friendly, don't be too aggressive or it seems like you just want to get into their pants. or you could wait till they sit down and then you could walk to their table and introduce yourself. its not like you need any good lines or catch phrases to get a girls a attention, just introduce yourself and be confident.

[ns-para]

You'll need a few things first, and you'll need to avoid a few things at all costs.

You'll need at least one good wingman (or wingwoman.never underestimate how helpful a trusted wingwoman can be when meeting other women).

You'll need to be dressed well and nicely groomed.

You'll need to have confidence and be totally comfortable in your own skin.

You'll need to coordinate with your wingman/woman so that you guys end up dancing close to the group of girls but not with them.

Then you'll need to look to see which one(s) notice you and make eye contact and, hopefully, smile. Then you have your in. Smile back, keep dancing, and then casually approach them and simply say "Hi!" Let natural conversation take over from there.

AVOID pickup lines. AVOID setting up an "accidental bump in". AVOID charging head on or doing nothing at all. I think a lot of men underestimate how observant women are, and they know right away when someone has ulterior motives, or no confidence.

They're not looking to go home with anyone that night, but if you are friendly and create some attraction, you will get to go home with someone's phone number.

Oh ya, NEVER EVER try to flock shoot (hit on all of them until one gives you her number). Instead, choose your target and know that if you don't get her number, you're not getting anyone's tonight.

Remember, say "Hi!" like it was the most casual thing in the world, and let her do all the talking. Ask questions about herself, so you don't have to ramble on and bore her.

[That-Guy]

Start hip thrusting as hard as you can to their butts, they love that.

[Just-A-Random-Guy]

Agreed lol.