What's the best way to approach girls at a nightclub? Are there etiquettes I should know about? Will girls use me for drinks?

[poneglyphs]

Never been to one so I am just curious. What's the best way to approach girls at a nightclub?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

So going off my personal experience and some friends there's a few answers to this.

If you're like me and you're not the most suave person ever. I like to go with one or more friends, mind my own business but keep an eye out for who's peeking looks my way. I might wait for her to get a drink at the bar so I can "just happen" to be getting my drink at the same time as her and then you can strike up a conversation.

The thing that's important to know is that if she's interested in you, she's looking for an excuse to talk to you too so the topic can be so dumb as long as it builds to something fun. You can ask her what she's getting and talk about how you're a bartender somewhere or ask her if she's feeling OK after she just got off the dance floor doing some silly shit with her friends. Make an observation, crack a joke. Get those defenses down so you can have a conversation.

Some guys can just seemlesly enter a group of women. I've seen a lot of guys make idiots of themselves trying this, it's only some very charismatic people who can do that regularly. At least in my experience.

Being used for drinks happens a lot where I live but when people from out of state come here they tell me it happens way more in New Jersey. So I'm guessing you shouldn't have to worry too much. Just keep escalating the conversation to ultimately leaving the club or getting a number or something and if she isn't budging, then you can be pretty sure she just wants you to buy her drinks.

Which by the way my rule is don't buy a woman more than one drink the first time you meet her. She came there with money. The move is to get her to stay with you a little longer to give you a chance. If you need more then one drink either she's using you or you're getting her drunk. Let her get herself drunk don't do that yourself. I just find that skeevy.

[Anonymous]

This is a show I used to watch years ago called Key To The VIP. It’s a show where there are hidden cameras in a club and guys are given challenges to complete while they try to pick girls up, and the one who gets the most phone numbers wins.

It’s cringe but if you watch some of the good guys you can get an idea of how to approach women. Your interactions should take a lot longer than with these guys, but you’ll get an idea of what your energy should be like.

In this one watch “Cajun”, not Mitch. This is how you do indirect approaches. Notice how he comes up with random ways to open conversations and how he keeps conversation light and fun. Also notice how laid back and confident he is:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/XPiZCaTWcQ8

In this one watch Kyle rather than Mark. The judges were off here, Mark has bad game and he creeps the second girl out which is why her friend pulls her away, the fact that they couldn’t see how uncomfortable she was or that she signalled for her friend to save her is ridiculous. Anyway Kyle though, he’s a good looking tall dude which probably has a lot to do with his successes, but he shows a good example of how to be more direct in your approach:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/iFkd-p6Vi3M

In this one Justin is a good looking “nice guy”. Rob is a scumbag. Watch how differently the girls react to them. in my opinion Rob has the better game here and I’ve pulled the same kind of stuff. A good example of why sometimes you should be bold rather than overly cautious.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/rRd61TocJS4

[sheikalana]

I know every woman is different. But if you want to approach me at a club do not touch me ever or I might spill my drink on you. Make eye contact if I look at you and smile back it's safe for you to talk to me.

[poneglyphs]

Oh, okay, should I go alone or have a friend with me?

[sheikalana]

What do you mean? Go to a bar alone or approach a girl along with a friend?

[poneglyphs]

Yeah, go alone and approach girls at bars or clubs?

[sheikalana]

Try both.

[poneglyphs]

Kk, will do and have fun

[vald9inches]

@sheikalana is there ever a time when it's not safe to talk to you? 😂🤣🤣🤣

[vald9inches]

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[vald9inches]

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[sheikalana]

@vald9inches well, ideally I don’t want to be approached by any strangers.

[vald9inches]

@sheikalana i am just teasing you lol i know your harmless 😊

[OliviaOfTheScots]

As corny as it sounds getting our attention from further away and letting us decide is in my opinion the best way

[poneglyphs]

Umm okay?

[OliviaOfTheScots]

Sorry?

[TwinTonyz]

Mmm! Yes! The herald's call.
From across the way one does so project his affection, most earnest and grand!

[jerdanro]

And the signal is eye contact, yes? When a woman makes eye contact and then looks down or blushes it is a sign of interest. Or if she's aggressive, sustained eye contact. Olivia, is that correct?

[vald9inches]

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[vald9inches]

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[bamesjond0069]

Pimp tip. Don't ever buy a girl a drink unless you dont give a shit about her. Example:

Girl: how about buy me a drink, you're cute.
Guy: haha I don't know you. You can buy me one though. Ill get the next round if you can make me laugh.

Guy: who all doing shots? Jack mike jeff ben me ok so 5, hey you and hey you y'all doing shots with us?
Girls: ok yeah
Guy: bartender i need 7 shots
Girl: thanks my names stacey
Guy: hey i gotta piss *ignore her* *go talk to another girl*

Guys who buy drinks these days come off as beta asf and get used for free drinks. Do not buy a drink for her first unless you're ignoring her ass and just bringing her into your group for your friends or for an attempt at later.

Shit even if she says "buy me a drink and ill suck your dick in the bathroom" id say "buy me a drink and ill let you suck my dick in the bathroom". Its probably just a shit test anyways so dont get too worked up tiger.

Good luck.

[ChrisMaster69]

Fully agree with @oliviaofthescots with this one.

when out sharking, make sure you make eye contact and see if there is any chance of an opening, talking is limited, so you need to make sure they are happy to accept you before you get there.

count drinks at table to work out how many there are, what drinking etc.

make sure if you are with a mate that they are not a fucking social hand grenade or fucking idiot.

be nice, don’t overly show off.

you are not the only shark in the club.

Girls are allowed to talk to you first, so don’t shit yourself when a girl chats to you first.

[poneglyphs]

Cool, so what are some things I should say back too them? Should I flirt with with them or just talk to them normally?

[Anonymous]

A bunch of guys have been asking about this. If I have time later I'm gonna write a whole take on how I used to get laid in clubs so look out for it.

To answer your question briefly it entirely depends on you and your personality type. Whether you're more introverted or extroverted, your sense of humour, your type of girl, what you want (numbers to set up dates, to get laid that night etc.). Your approach will be different depending on those things.

[Opinion Owner]

I hit send before I was finished.

There's indirect vs direct for example. Some guys might prefer to go indirect, starting conversations/interactions without showing interest right off the bat, reading her signals before doing so. Others might prefer to cut the shit and go direct, just let her know right off the bat.

The one thing you must understand is that while you don't need to be an asshole you should drop the nice guy crap. In a club it's all about fun and creating sexual tension, it's not about being polite and soft. You get girls in the club by being exciting, not by being really nice. It's the guys who go in trying to be perfect gentlemen who get used for drinks. They buy the girl a drink, she gets bored, she excuses herself to go to the toilet and doesn't come back. Maybe she pegged him as a sucker from the get-go if she could tell he doesn't get it.

[poneglyphs]

Kk, will wait for that my take also if you want you can pm me?

[Pete671]

Learn some dance moves, get on the floor and boogie!,,,
Let the girls approach you for a dance partner, but yes you will get hit on for drinks, if a girl invites you for a drink it means "I want you to buy me a drink", just say you don't drink and you're not looking for a hook-up, they will then say "are you gay or something?" thus challenging your masculinity, don't fall for it, just walk away and get back on the dance floor lol,,,
But imhe nightclubs just not worth the hassle, if you looking for a girl do something much cheaper like voluntary work,,,

[Wise4myage]

Say hi, introduce yourself and ask if you can buy them a drink. If they say no thank you, than move on to the next girl.

[poneglyphs]

Kk, but can people get annoyed if I ask too many girls?

[Wise4myage]

Then don't ask that many.

[poneglyphs]

So, what's the rule of thumb how many should I ask or flirt?

[Wise4myage]

Their is no rule, just reduce it if you think its too many.

[poneglyphs]

Okay

[EssenceOfLight]

You don't do that. They will approach you if you have lot of fun and don't focus too much on them. Enjoy the time, enjoy the beat and don't care about girls who observe you. There are better opportunities and places to find someone special than night clubs.

[Anonymous]

If you are looking for a hookup
Look at her body language = She will be open very open lot of touching less of clothes on the body, lots of expose of cleavage, no panties, spreading of legs on the couch specially if someone is looking etc etc

[poneglyphs]

Oh, okay so are hookups easy in a nightclub?

[Opinion Owner]

@poneglyphs - Yeah dude Lots of, only got to keep an eye on the body language that's the key!

[poneglyphs]

Oh, okay will do. Can a girl just tease me and just leave me hanging?

[Opinion Owner]

@poneglyphs - Many people come out to pubs - to enjoy and forget all the stress be it their work, family life, husbands etc etc - so many options available to you - you will find a variety of women starting form 18 - 45. 35-45 are easy catch and preying on young men for physical satisfaction. 18-30 a combination of money and sex.

Looking for a quick and experience fck - 35-45 should be your catch.
Looking for a young babe and hot pussy - 18-30 you should have some cash as well to get them interested so be ready to pay for their drinks and demands before taking them to bed ;)

[poneglyphs]

Oj, okay. Will wish me lick on my endeavors

[Opinion Owner]

@poneglyphs - Oh, okay will do. Can a girl just tease me and just leave me hanging?
No you cannot let her do that to you, you got to flirt back, you need to show her you mean business right there, flirt with her back get a bit physical touch her around her hands, slowly to the hips and grab her and take her to the dance floor, women love men who can dance. its a big turn on if you have good dance moves to add to that you get more physical during dance so you have full access to her hot body, try and feel her from the back and show her daddy is taking her home tonight for some business :)

[poneglyphs]

Oh, okay.

[Opinion Owner]

@poneglyphs - Good luck

Point in life to always remember -

If one says no - Leave her and move on to another. Lots of pussy available in town so keep a broad mind and hit on all unless you find someone you like and can stop there or continue to enjoy with others thats a choice you have to make.

Best of Luck!

[BossBilly]

Dont pour anything in her drink, dont whine, recognize the competition u face, yes you will pay for the drinks and u will do it like you already knew this. Those girls are usually pretty awesome

[Jamie05rhs]

"Will girls use me for drinks?". Yes. (If you let them.). (Though it may be worth it; I don't know. That's up to you.)

[BentAssassin99]

And this is how we know ur forever a virgin

[poneglyphs]

Uhh, okay but still you didn't answer my question?

[BentAssassin99]

Oh I didn't need to. The answer is in the question its self

[GnatSocks]

Nah friend, he's getting out there (well if the clubs are open he is). Maybe he should hold back on the anime girls, but props to him for doing something about it.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Let everything flow naturally. Forced chemistry is extremely awkward.

[EyesOfGod]

Precall the police just incase lol