Best way to approach girls in a bar?

[gdmswh369]

I am in college and I was just wondering what the best way would be to approach a girl in the bar. feedback from girls and guys would be appreciated.

[Anonymous]

To be honest, I don't like it if a guy approaches me in a bar and tries chatting me up. I immediately assume he's just after sex or something. However, if the girl is anything like me, I like it and would feel much more drawn to you if you just act casual and friendly around me. Don't ask me loads of questions about myself or whatever. Just be fun. Also, I wouldn't try approaching a girl on her own or on your own. It's better if your with a group of guys and she's with a group of girls or something. That way, it seems much more fun- just a load of people chatting to each other rather than you specifically trying to pull a girl.

Ignore me if you like because I know not all girls are like me. I'm not prude or uptight or anything, I just don't like the feeling when I know a guy is checking me out and approaches me with the pure intention of getting in my pants. Or even if he just thinks I'm hot or whatever- I'd rather you approach me because you feel attracted to my personality (not that I'd expect you to actually know me- I mean by the way I'm behaving with my friends or something).

Once before me and my friend were out having some beers and these two guys approached us and just asked for a light. We ended up hooking up and I felt really comfortable with it because it was just so relaxed and casual rather than about SEX. We just chatted about tv, stuff that's going on in the world, etc etc. Had fun. That's the key. If you can make a girl smile and feel comfortable around you.

Sorry this answer is so long and probably unhelpful but it's the way I feel at least :)

[trukita]

If this is a laid-back kind of place, I think the best approach is to just go up and introduce yourself, perhaps ask to buy her a drink. Girls love free drinks, so it's at the very least a conversation started. Be funny. The only guys that I'll talk to (and have any interest in) at a bar are the ones who make me laugh for whatever reason. Keep it light, keep it casual. Don't talk about yourself too much, let it be an equal conversation. Have fun!

[confusedinma]

If I were you I would just walk right up to her and introduce yourself. "Hi I'm XXXX. I saw you from across the bar and wanted to say hi." I don't think you really need any fancy pickup lines. If the girls interested she will stay and chat with you.

[Anonymous]

try to be sober and talk to them without puking on their shirts. also remember to not talk about other girls in front of her while you're semi-drunk. I've had a guy do that to me, I punched him and he went down at the bar. it was the best

[Kayaking]

It's very risky, dude. Better to have them approach you. 1 in 100 guys have the skills to consistently approach. They are usually the funniest, best-looking, best-dressed or can dance. The rest of us ... it's mostly luck. If you are not THAT guy, the best advice is to chill and make sure you are having fun with people around you. Having a girl/girls in your group is very helpful, like a gal pal or somebody from the office.

If you approach, it's very helpful to pick something you overheard, or that she is wearing, or something about her and have an interesting, sincere take on whatever it is. Like, noticing a detail about her and having a take. Knowing that those shoes are hand-painted or picking up on her tat or piece of jewelry having a unique story or message or that she is an artist and having the depth to understand the difference between oils and water color or that song she just picked on the juke box etc. etc.

[UltraDramatic]

Above all, remember one thing: pickup lines are cliche, trite, and usually don't work. If you're going to approach a woman, the best you can do is say hello and tell her your name. Most women, if they're interested, will speak with you at least for a minute or two. If they're already with someone or not interested, they'll usually tell you (BTW, be prepared to be rejected A LOT!)

It never hurts to offer to buy a drink for a woman, but this could also backfire, especially if the woman you're interested in is just there to get free drinks from men. Some women are manipulative enough to be that way and won't give you the time of day after that.

Be yourself. I would wait until you have some kind of eye contact with the woman before approaching her. If you find yourselves looking at each other more than once, and your gazes linger for more than half a second, then I would take the chance and approach her.

[MixMinus]

Here's rule number 1. Never ever buy a woman you don't know a drink in a bar! Here's rule number 2) Never buy a woman you don't know a drink in a bar! If you break rule number 1 or rule number 2 you will go home with a lot less money and you may get 1 or 2 numbers out of every 10 drinks you buy. Have them buy you drinks!