Men, what makes you approach a girl in a club?

[Anonymous]

[CaptainOverthink]

I think they get visually attracted and unlike in most other places, in clubs it's still more accepted to approach do maybe that's where it's more likely to happen.
- Alcohol and drugs have a way of making people more impulsive too, maybe if they where sober they wouldn't approach. Some would, some wouldn't.

My biased opinion is that the types of people hanging out on gag are not the ones being proactive on clubs. Just something to consider, gag is not overly populated and demographic-wise it probably scews in one direction or another.

As for myself I do not do that either, tried dome indoor parties/clubbs but it's just not my place.
I do however go to festivals and raves in the woods. But the types of folks out there are usually the opposite if what clubbers are. This is my generalized experience, not the peoples handbook.
Clubbers -> full of themselves, bitter, agressive, indoorsy.
Ravers -> energetic, loving, openminded, outdoorsy.

I do approach girls at those events but I do approach everybody and chat them up for fun. I usually do it without an agenda, it allows me not to be nervous which is also why people seem to like it and also why girls get confused when I don't take the hint, I just treated everyone equally good and with attention, apparently good in any form is flirty. It's a mindfield.
If I did go with an agenda, I'd stumble and come off weird, that's okay in larger festivals where I can just switch crowds when mistakes are made. Smaller parties though, rumors run out of control. No fun on day 2.

[razelove]

I'd say first off would be looks, like why it's that particular girl, followed by hoping that she'll be desperate as well so the night segues into casual sex. Never have I met a woman at a bar and that connection lasted past a month unless we worked together at that bar. Then I'm not going to try to sleep with her because we work together and that's awkward.

Regardless it takes approaching a lot of women at clubs to succeed, and every time you strike out the best response is to cycle to another club to try again, with a minimum of three clubs, then you can wind up back where you started, though 4-5 is best, with a different city for different weeks in similar cycles as clubs do have regulars.

It's alright to be desperate, but it's never alright to appear desperate.

[Pinay_ako]

• If she’s alone
• she’s beautiful/drop dead hot
• if she’s drunk
• if she gives him the “come here” look 👀

[neilsmart]

girl wearing a tight choker

[fader]

Do you?

[neilsmart]

do what?

[Finchie40]

Her beauty mainly , if I find her beautiful my intentions is to get to know her more to see if we have good chemistry and connection together , if all goes well , then my intentions is to hook up with her and continue seeing her more , Sadly that isn’t always the case cuz most people just go to clubs and bars to just get laid , pretty much why people go to clubs and bars , so it’s always a 50/50 chance on whatever happens , so it can either turn into a good night or a not this time kind of night lol I don’t go to clubs anymore , I use to when I was younger in my wilder party days with my friends , we would go to the club to get our drink on and have fun and hopefully hook up with a beautiful girl to top off the night, Good times for sure

[Summeroflove]

I don’t. In fact I hardly ever approach a stranger really. It takes time for me to get to know someone before I really feel attraction.


I just find it better to know someone before taking that step. Also…. Clubs aren’t the place to find good women. Not saying good women don’t go to clubs. They do. Just not where I look lol

[AviatorTom]

I don't go to clubs but if I did...

I would approach a girl if she was dressed sexy, not with another guy, and looks like she looking to be picked up.

[ohsheeT]

Eyes
If she can dance to the beat and rhythm


Evrery thing else just falls in place from hair to clothes smile and so

[Effably]

Impulse.

No but, seriously? When you enter you sort of scope the place. Coincidentally when entering is also when you get the most attention.

You'll get a basic feel for who is interested from there. Then proceed to meet eyes throughout the night. Couple smiles. Basic things like that. After you've both shown a degree of interest an approach of some sort typically happen.

And then there's the cold approach type. But anyone successful with that is probably on the dance floor most of the night. Cold approaching is rather awkward without an activity to aid you both.

[aoihewgf]

Don't go to bars and especially clubs anymore. When I did, I just would be talking to small group went with, and chat with random people around me.

I'd always make sure I was putting off the right energy. When I was pressured to go downtown it showed and id rarely go home with some girl. When I was in the right frame, women would just come to me.

At the time, I wasn't the best at chatting, my game was subpar. So my bud would kind of take over a little and we'd both go home with girls quite frequently.

So my looks brought them over, his smooth and cool game would bring them home

[Anonymous]

She looks like she's alone, or casting her eyes around fishing to make eye contact. If I can get her eye and I smile at her and raise an eyebrow, her reaction will determine whether I approach.

Acceptable come hithers are : smiling back, holding eye contact (optional), or even more brazen like patting the empty seat next to her, raising a glass in a long distance 'cheers', that kind of thing. Don't come over signals, ignore me, scowl, or physically turn away or go to her phone.

[OfMiceandMen]

Not a lot really. I learned from an early age, women tend to blow you off in a club setting. I gather it is more to do with them being there with their friends.

The only time I ever had any luck at a club was when my buddy struck-out badly and I went over afterwards to the same group of women and said, "Don't mind him, he's off his meds".

It made the one girl laugh so hard she snorted drink out her nose. After that I had drinks with same group of girls and danced the rest of the night with them.

My buddy laughed after I told him what I did and bumped fists.

[D_Bone_Steak]

The last club I went to... men are not allowed to wear clothes. So I'd just sort of swing my weiner back and fourth and sip my drink until a chick looked interested. After sex with her I'd just sort of do the same thing again until another chick wanted to get to know me.

[Valso]

I don't go to clubs for many reasons (one of which is the bad sound quality) and even if my friends manage to convince me to go to a club, I don't bother approaching any girls in it bc it's pointless - I know why they're there, what they'll ask and what they're gonna say at the end of our conversation, so it's pointless to even start it.

[Staximus]

I don't go to clubs. Clubs around here are where horny douche bag dudes go to rub their dicks on skeezer's asses on the dance floor. Not my crowd. If I'm some place like a bar or something and a girl starts talking to me, that's cool. I don't just walk up and start talking to random girls. They usually don't like that because I don't look like somebody they want to fuck. That's how it is around here.

[Whatisthatname]

Looks, both attraction and approachability. It's been years since I went to any club though, but that's how it used to be.

[Asker]

What determined approachability to you?

[Whatisthatname]

That they gives you some inviting looks. If someone seem to completely ignore things around them and only talk to their friends, then they don't seem interested in being approached by anyone.

[kakaling]

If you are looking for loyal and faithful love, don't go to the club. Even if you found one, they had no idea what they are doing.

If you are just looking for the thrill of courtship, just go ahead, most likely you will get hurt if you are not afraid.

[RavVid]

Whilst I certainly like looking at scantily clad girls, I'm not that likely to approach a girl that is dressed for attention. Her sticker price is going to be too high.

I more rule out girls first.

[FilmGuy93]

Nothing ever. I once approached a woman in the club to get a cigarette off her, but that was it. Even if the club was a scene so enjoyed, it is still the worst place imaginable to cold approach women.

[Adam1978]

She is between me and the bar is the most common reason. Not that I go clubbing. Because you can't talk to people there, the music is to loud.

[Keishio]

I wish I knew, sometimes it's because I'm drunk and sober me wishes I could have just stayed sat in my seat

[zagor]

When she's NOT with a large group of friends.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I don't go to clubs, and if I ever had to be in one, I'd not be hitting on anyone.

Hitting on strangers is weird, and clubs aren't fun.

[kosmische]

Agreed. The last time i chatted up a dude.. he turned out to be passive-aggressive and sexist af lol even tho he kept looking my way and eyeing me, I took that as Jim being to shy to talk to me. He had issues

[Leme2]

I don't go to clubs, and I wouldn't approach women because I would not want to be metooed or accused of harassment.

[kosmische]

That's not how you get "me too'd" or accused of harassment just by approaching a woman.

If she's uninterested and made it clear about it and you continued to try and talk to her... yes that's harassment lol

[Anonymous]

it can really depend in that sort of setting , generally it be cause i want to meet her specifically or i already know her so feel she's a safe person to try and talk to or do a drink with again

[AdithyaR]

Nothing, there isn't a single person who could motivate me to overpower my anxiety and approach someone 😅

[VikingWarLord]

At least a slightly above average face, and I love when she's wearing tight dresses that show off her tiits and cleavage.

[Heolurt]

The chance to get a date used to be my answer, but I gave up on that and now my answer is nothing, absolutely nothing could make me approach any female in the club or anywhere else.

[tzdc21]

I don't. Clubs are bad places to find the type of girl that I'm looking for

[SirJohn42]

Dont go to clubs. IF i did it would be her personality and beauty. If she is the life of the party. I would have to introduce myself.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t even date a guy who clubs but lets check out the comments anyways

[Googlemyahoo]

I never did. I’d be minding my own business they’d come up to me.

[TooHot2Care]

Booty. Until I stop being horny, it’s more important than food and water.

[LadiesFavoriteToy]

Pussy what else? Unless you are a faggot looking for a rectum to rape then get out.

[Ryfyle]

When I need a distraction after getting a job done.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I’ve went to casinos and bars but I don’t think I’ll ever go to a club

[Jltakk]

I don't to be honest. I doubt there's interest in me anyway.

[Anonymous]

Nothing. I dont go to clubs and approach trashy women.

[8393udjejdj]

Oh boy. I wouldn't approach any lady at a club lol. You don't find wife material there

[Anonymous]

There isn't a Herd of Wild Horses that would make me Approach a Girl in a Club.

[Smashingdoozy]

Sheer stupidity

[art84]

Clubs aren't my thing to meet women.

[jshm2]

Her charm and style.

[fonduegirl]

What do you need to get picked for

[Fireguy17]

her smile and or her eyes.

[Christoff92]

Honest if am drinking to much tequila 😏

[Inquisitive98]

Her energy and personality

[cloud9vortex1234]

I know she wants me to or else I don't do it.

[Anonymous]

Nothing. But she's free to approach me.

[Jmmmfi4]

I literally never do this

[robocop666]

they look at me

[Jamie05rhs]

I don't go to clubs.

[Anonymous]

Alcohol

[peedy]

About 4 to 6 beers

[Djaay]

Alcohol.

[horndog112]

Her assets

[riverrat3]

Hump day

[Anonymous]

Wanting to have sex

[Anonymous]

her vagina