Crowded trains and buses?

[Anonymous]

if you are on a crowded train or bus and a man is behind you, and is pushed on you, and stays there. what do you think?

[selfishstars]

I live in Toronto, Canada and take public transportation often. It can be really busy and crowded at times, so much so that you are pressed against the people around you and it really can't be helped.

To me, it depends on the context. As I've said, sometimes it can't be help, but most people are polite about it. They brace themselves so they don't bump into you as much if the ride is bumpy, and apologize if they do. If there is some extra space, they try not to be pressed right up against you.

On the other hand, I once had a guy who had an erection and kept trying to press it up against me. The bus was crowded, but not so crowded that he couldn't help it. I felt angry and violated.

[Asker]

was he in front or behind you

[selfishstars]

Just curious, does it matter?

[Asker]

nt really , y didn't you say something to him?

[selfishstars]

This was a number of years ago and I was a much shyer and non-confrontational person then. I was afraid to speak up for myself. I just moved the first chance I got.

There was a question like this one yesterday about a guy at a Christmas Eve party who was pressed up against a girl and got an erection and was asking if she liked it since she didn't say anything and let him do it. This is why questions like this upset me---just because a girl doesn't say anything doesn't mean she's consenting to

[selfishstars]

it or likes it. Sometimes women are afraid to speak up for themselves.

[Asker]

o I dee

[Asker]

i see

[katiesmuff]

Well I guess he didn't have much choice about it either so as annoyed as I might be I would let it go! If by some chance I began to feel a hand or other stubby object on my bum I would most likely give him an elbow in the side or stomach and a very loud "Get the F*ck Away from my Ass"!

[Asker]

supposed more people come on and he is pushed further on you and he gets an involuntary erection

[katiesmuff]

Good hard slap in the balls with my fist probably would take care of that little problem! Would be a day or two before he got a chubby again.

[Asker]

but it really isn't his fault

[Mcstarr]

Well if it's crowded then theirs really nothing you can do but just deal with it just like if it was a girl being pushed behind me so I wodny care enless their getting hands on. But if the person doesn't feel comfterble then they should consider using a bike or getting a car

[Asker]

wat if he got erect?

[Mcstarr]

Then he got a boner it's not very hard for guys to get them he could be thinking of his girlfriend or something or he just likes what is I in front of him so it could be somewat flatering just depends on the person some will speak up some will just stay quiet and some will not care cause what are the chances of you seeing that person again. I personally wouldn't care probably cause I'm used to guys hugging me from behind and they always say I have a nice big a$$

[Asker]

well one time this happened to me and the woman was waering leggings and no underwear and my d*** pushed a little between her butt, you wouldn't mind tht?

[Mcstarr]

I wouldn't because I always have guys playing around with it but not everyone is the same and I wear thongs when I wear leggings and things just happend sometimes the fabric is very thin so we can feel everything

[Asker]

o OK, this woman could feel it cause it was between her. she didn't say anything she just looked

[Mcstarr]

She either 1.liked it or 2.was shy and didn't know what to do. Did you do this on purpose or did it happend cause it was crowded and bumpy? And did you get a boner?

[Asker]

yes I had a boner. and it was because of the crowd and pushing

[Asker]

has a guy ever done this to you with a boner

[Shaun]

Funny, I've been on REALLY crowded buses before and I've somehow managed to NEVER press my junk up on a stranger.

[martyfellow]

In myyounger days I'd use this situation to get close to women! 'Oh, sorry."

[Asker]

how did they react?

[martyfellow]

Either they'd give me the death stare, or they'd giggle. They of course pretty much suspected it wasn't an accident, but since they couldn't prove it, what could they do?

In the pool I sometimes accidentally slap their behinds when we're sharing a lane. Same idea.

[Asker]

did you stay when they looked, did you ever get a boner

[martyfellow]

No,nothing as serious as that! Just having fun!

[Asker]

o ok

[tyt_2012]

This happens a lot in crowded buses and trains, people being groped and sexually harassed, it disgusts me

I think why the hell is he not moving away...does he want me to report him to the police...

[Asker]

he is not doing it on purpose its the crowd pushing him on you, if he gets an involuntary erection what do you do

[tyt_2012]

I would try to move away as far as I could so we`re not touching...I`m sorry but I don`t mingle with strangers on crowded buses not in a sexual manner anyhow

[Asker]

once I was on a bus and I had to stand behind this lady who was sitting on a low seat, the bus got so packed tht I was leaning forward on her back and I couldn't help it, she realized tht so she didn't do anythingm after a few min I got a hard on and I pressed hard against her back , she looked around several times and whispered something to her friend, what would you have done

[tyt_2012]

*sigh* move away or put a bag behing me so your touching that and not me

[Asker]

but wouldn't tht look too obivious

[tyt_2012]

I can care less about looking obvious, sometimes you have to be obvious with slow people which is funy considering I`m slow myself, who are you anon?

[Asker]

why do you want to know who I am

[tyt_2012]

I just do? Pffft meh

[Asker]

sent request

[genevieve]

Unless he had a booner or was touching me, I wouldn't think anything at all. This happens to me all the time and I guess it's hard to avoid using public transportation

[Asker]

suppose he gets a boner during the ride

[genevieve]

Well then I'd hope he'd have the modesty to turn away. Otherwise I'd be a bit offended and go away mayself as soon as I could

[swizzcris]

after this very uncomfortable time when a guy got a hard on behind me I started wearing messenger bags when I use public transportation so they rub on the bag and not my butt

[Asker]

how did tht happen

[ihatework]

i think it's ass whooping time

[Confused75]

Stays there? Peeeervert.

[jenstacks]

That guy is a wierdo.

[Asker]

but its not his fault, how is he a weirdo

[jenstacks]

cuz I don't know him that very very uncomfortable, you'll just freak the girl out

[Northstar]

When something is inevitable then enjoy it

[Anonymous]

Harrasmeeeeeent!

[Asker]

what do you do?

[Opinion Owner]

would move away for sure!

[Asker]

ok

[Anonymous]

i would move forward