How to decline snow tubing for a first date...?

[Anonymous]

So I'm going out with this boy on Saturday. I left the planning up to him, obviously. He says he wants to do something fun for our first date rather than just talk which is fine by me. But he suggested snow tubing and I don't want to because...

1. I'll have to wear a million layers, not sexy.

2. It'll be frigid and flurrying Saturday, enough said.

3. I'm not a big fan of playing in the snow.

4. I hate doing anything active besides working out because I'm horribly uncoordinated and would inevitably make an ass out of myself.

So how do I tell him I'd rather not go snow tubing without looking like a high-maintenance, party pooping bitch?

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+1 y

UGH. GAG keeps putting questions in the wrong category. -_-

[straightdope]

Blame it on the cold. A lot of girls I've known seem to be cold all the time and refuse to do anything in the cold and that's why married guys where I live love to go ice fishing in the winter.

I think you should go through with the date though because if the guy is cool it will be funner than you think. You don't need much coordination to hold on to a tube and at most hills you aren't expected to make it to the bottom without wiping out anyways. If you're in layers you know he's enjoying your company and not just salivating over your body and thinking about sex which women often complain about. Plus if the date starts going bad you can use the cold as an excuse to take off early and if it goes good the cold is an excuse to go get coffee or hot chocolate with him.

[ItalianBro]

I would just tell him "I am not a big fan of the cold, how about something warmer?" LOL, SNOW tubing on a first date... I thought the first date was about talking and getting to know each other. I have snow tubed before and I must say it was very, very, very cold. My feet were frozen and the only fun was the 15 seconds going down the slope. Also the indoor cafe was not romantic and the hot chocolate sucked.

[saphirasilverwings]

I think you should just go for it. You could end up having a lot of fun, and he'll like that you're willing to try new things and get a little adventurous. You'll have plenty of opportunities to dress up for him later, and focusing on just having fun together at first rather than on looks might help you bond more.

If you really can't stand the idea, tell him that you're not a snow person and you'd have more fun doing something else. You should probably have a few ideas so you're not making him come up with a whole plan all over again. But you might be missing out!

[saphirasilverwings]

(That said, I have never been snow tubing. But I'd be glad to give it a try!)

[defiantdragonfly]

suggest something else, or just suck it up and have fun, its an experience

[sweet_18]

Snow tubing would actually be an awesome first date

[GuyAskingGirls]

I think you should just do it. To counter your arguments:

1.) Not sexy but there is something really cute about a girl that's cold and wearing a hat and stuff and being in the snow. It's called snow bunny.

2.) It will be cold yes. All the more reason for him to hold you close to keep you warm.

3.) Come on everybody loves snow. And with someone you like it can be really fun.

4.) Snow tubing takes 0% coordination or athletic ability. You go to the top of a hill and then sit in a tube and ride down. Absolutely no skill is necessary and it's really fun.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

See my point on the single bit? You're hot, guy wants to go out with you, was probably you not having to do too much to bring this up. I'll bet (though I'm willing to say I'm putting a foot in my mouth here), that he was the one who initiated it and asked you out.

And just tell him openly that you don't want to go snow tubing cause it's not your thing. Then suggest some things you're into and ask if there's anything he'd want to do other than involving snow and find something you both are comfortable doing. Just make sure HE isn't settling either cause that might cause resentment lol. Just openly tell him and ask him what he'd wanna do other than snow stuff.

But, for #4, don't worry about making an ass outta yourself. You really won't. You'll just come off as cute to us guys.

[Brando]

Don't be a loser, and go play in the snow like a big kid.

Or you can play it off and be like, "Oh I know! Let's go --" and act like you are really excited to throw in that idea.

[Asker]

Idk though because I feel bad suggesting because I don't want to steal his first date thunder. Hm.

[Brando]

Well dating is cooperation from both sides. If you don't think you'll enjoy snow tubing, just tell him that you'd like to do something else. I'm sure he'll figure out something else to do, since he's wanting to date you anyway.

[snackeyg]

I agree with suggesting something else. Say you don't like Winter activities or being out in the cold.

Those first two excuse are pretty lame though. Don't tell him those. I can't understand saying you hate the cold, but saying "OMG I Have to wear so much clothes ugh" sounds high maintenance and bitchy. Yes I know you wouldn't say it like that but I bet you're thinking it in a simllar way.

[dtaylor31906]

simple be direct tell him you just don't like winter sports.. youdont like playing in the snow.. and you rather do smoething where you can be WARM

[dave216]

Tell him you are too horny to go mess around in a snow drift. That should make him forget snow tubing. :)

[Scrimz21]

1,2,4 are all awful excuses... you should be happy you are dating a loser kid and he wants to do something. So do it!

[cyrus7]

just tell him that as much as you love the idea, your not a winter sport person