Flirting vs playful banter: How do you tell the difference?

[fanoftheanime]

What are the differences between flirting and playful banter and how do you tell the difference?

[vivmatt]

It's a feeling. If you're laughing and having fun, it's just playful. But if there's a mood building and you both have a smirk on your faces while looking at each other, it's flirting.

[Some_Goof]

I think prolonged eye contact? Also as someone said in playful banter they make fun of you but in flirting they compliment you.

[PrincessGrail]

Spend more time reading romance novels and less time watching anime.

[fanoftheanime]

Reading novels puts me to sleep.

[PrincessGrail]

They teach you about flirting

[fanoftheanime]

I see, thank you for the recommendation

[PrincessGrail]

Welcome

How long you liked anime for?

[fanoftheanime]

For about 12 or so years

[fanoftheanime]

Woops meant to put four about 22 years or so

[PrincessGrail]

You’re my age

I remember when I was in middle school having to explain to people that anime was “Japanese cartoons”

[fanoftheanime]

Haha, yeah those were fun times. And now there are a lot more people who know about anime. What was the anime that got you started?

[PrincessGrail]

My boyfriend made me watch Akira when I was 13.

I’m not a big fan, but I’ve watched a couple things.

[fanoftheanime]

Gotcha

[markscott]

It can be very difficult to tell, because both often involve the same actions and words. Sometimes the only way to tell, is to assess these actions over time.

[Boppy]

Over time?
How so?

[markscott]

@Boppy : Over time, you get to know the person better, and can more likely read when they are being friendly, and when they are flirting. The better you know the person, the better you can read that person.

[Logorithim]

Sometimes it is because of who is doing it, but you need to develop a feel for it.

[Billie_]

Playful banter is usually sarcastic and making fun of you. Flirting is almost like a of voice and complimenting you, even backhanded.

[nathansom13]

You can tell by how much attention they pay to you. The more the attentive, the more the flirtatious.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Eyes. Look at their eyes.

[PrincetonKing]

There's not a lot in my case it's just different words for me

[dog1712]

I always do playful banter and get accused of flirting

[Anonymous]

I thought they were the same thing.

[crazy8000]

It's the same. the question is if it works.

[Mickey9999]

Body language