Flirting or friendly banter?

[Anonymous]

My husband and I have couple friends who we spend a lot of time with. We went on holiday to France recently in a campervan together, for example, and they lived with us for a bit. The male friend and I are very similar personality -wise, and so are my husband and the female friend. When we chat over message, the male friend brings sex into the conversation, saying things like "you have a dirty mind", or "is that the kind of thing that gets you excited". He often touches me gently, especially when he's drunk, and today said he was excited to see me because then he could "I’ll get to give you a big hug and lift you off the deck again haha". The other day we were talking about how it had been a while since either of us have had sex, because our spouses are away, and then the next minute he says he's looking forward to having sex with his wife next time he sees her. So, flirting, finds me sexually attractive but wouldn't cross the final line to cheating (he's a real gent). I won't lie, I do find him attractive, which my husband knows and is fine with, because he trusts me. I also would never cheat, but I have to admit, it does turn me on to flirt with this guy

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah sis, careful with that situation! I know it's fun and exciting to flirt a little, but it really sounds like things are risking crossing a line there. A few things to consider:

- Your hubby might be cool with finding him attractive, but actual sexually suggestive flirting is different than just acknowledging looks.

- Saying sexual things could absolutely be sending the wrong message to your male friend too, even if you think it's just banter. Guys are sensitive!

- Little intoxicated touches can easily lead to more if you're not careful. Alcohol lowers inhibitions for everyone.

- How would you feel if you saw your best girlfriend getting all touchy with another dude and talking sexy? Might sting even if "just chatting."

My advice would be take a big step back from all that kinda talk with him out of respect for your relationships. There's plenty of ways to have fun with friends without sexual electricity in the air.

If you both truly value your spouses, it's best to redirect chatter to safer topics so no one ever questions your loyalty or intentions later on down the line. Does that make sense sis?

[Anonymous]

This is just a hypothetical, but if people were to say he was flirting, then what? I mean you already feel like he was flirting, then looking for validation so then you could what? Fixate on the idea of him liking you? You’re playing with fire here, and innocence can so easily turn to other shit. This isn’t a book, it isn’t your favorite show or some juicy event finally happening in your boring life.

[Alex-Snow]

Sometimes the flirting may get carried away. It sounds like both of you would like to have sex with each other but it could ruin a good friendship. What does his wife think about it? Are you satisfied with ur current sex life with the hubby?