How to know if a smart, shy, confident girl likes me?

[Anonymous]

I don't want to write out the whole story, but, essentially, I'm a college student and I kind of like this girl in my second semester literature class, but I can't tell if she likes me back. From what I can tell, she seems to only have one really good friend, who she spends the vast majority of her free time with, which is why I'm characterizing her as "shy", although antisocial would probably be more appropriate. She's not the sort of shy girl who is socially awkward or anything like that, as far as I can tell. Anyway, I've done what I would consider flirting with her a few times and initiated conversation with her and we have quite a bit in common, which is awesome, but I don't know. Sometimes I'm worried that I'm kind of intimidating or something. But then whenever I see her and her friend, the friend makes it a point to wave at me or talk to me. I know this is supposedly a good sign, but I also wonder if it's possible that she's doing it to mess with her because she actually doesn't like me. Ah. I don't know. Does anybody have any suggestions?

[miki94]

First it could be that the friend likes you.

Second I have that girls personality so here is what you should do: If you want to date her and get close to her you will have to "push" yourself into her world. She might like you a little bit but you keeping at bay and just flirting a little bit will not change anything. You have to understand that you have to make the first move. She may be a bit antisocial, but trust me she is not completely clueless or shy, she is just happy in her "safe-zone". Once you hang out with her a bit, ask her out, and then breach this zone by taking the initiative in a romantic way, you will get a straight answer. Charm her by being yourself and be nice. The answer will be either flirting with you or discarding you by reducing the contact to a minimum, AFTER you tried being closer to her. No matter how antisocial, if you try to get close to her, she will NOT push you away.

If there was any other way to approach this girl, you would have described her as social and easygoing, so there you go. And yes, her friend calling you over could be to tease her because she likes you. This on the other hand can not mean she is teasing her because, she doesn't like you because female friends just don't do that and it makes no sense.

A word of warning: Considering I'm quite similar to this girl, you might want to know that if I like a guy I tend to challenge him or even be a little bit mean to him because I'm kind afraid of admitting I like him. If he confesses and asks, I'd definitely tell the truth (whatever it is), but if not, I'd cover it up as much as I can while trying to act "normal".

[slipslender]

hmmm...maybe after casually talking to her during class, you can be invite her out for coffee... it's not as nerve-wracking as a first date, and you can feel each other out on a one-to-one basis...you sound like a really good guy :) I'm sure she'll say yes!

[diosadelanoche]

How well do you know the friend? If you and the friend aren't super close, I'd say that's a pretty solid sign. Also, how does she respond when you talk to/flirt with her?

[empire]

you have to ask her out...you worry too much.its is too soon to worry so much.Nobody really knows if she likes you.There are only clues.Thats the way it works.Just get her phone number...talk to her...and ask her to hang out(ask her face to face if possible).Dont try to guess...just do it!ACT!