Wife flirts in club?

[Anonymous]

Me and my wife went to a club at the weekend and the more drunk she got the more guys she danced and flirted with I'm not an over jealous guy but then she asked if she kissed any of the guys would I class it as cheating. I asked her why? She replied that she likes the idea of being with other guys. Nothing happend but it has been playing on my mind for a couple of days what is your opinions?

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Just to add an update to it all the part that's playing on my mind is I didn't tell her no and would have allowed her. I'm trying to figure out if I would have reacted the same sober lol not sure weather or not to explore this further or say I domt want to take the risk of it damaging our relationship

[Anonymous]

Some people are calling it a kink and are pretending like this is fine, but trust me when I tell you that this usually doesn't end well, because it's not just another harmless kink. Those people don't understand why men or women do this.

This is bad. If she's doing this in front of you what it means is that she no longer respects you. No woman who respected the man and loved him would do that or ask that. However she doesn't feel like upping and leaving - yet. Maybe she doesn't realise that she will eventually, or maybe she's monkey-branching as in she won't let go of you til she has hold of another guy.

Either way it's very often the same outcome. Couple decide to agree to this. She has sex with the other man/men. The more she does this the less she respects her husband, the more she prefers the other man/men. Usually one in particular. She starts to see her husband as more of a brother if she still cares for him at all, but she loses all sexual attraction to him.

That's what happens when you go through with it. There was this guy on here a while ago who used to go on and on about this, and I told him that this would happen to him. He was so sure that it wouldn't. A year later it did.

Now you say you're not sure whether to explore it further because you don't want to damage the relationship - if she's suggesting it your relationship is already severely damaged. You're in the damage control stage already. If you don't agree to it she's likely to cheat behind your back. The fact that you said nothing about it made you look like a pussy to her.

I doubt that you'll take the advice because guys in this situation almost never do, however if I were you I'd be coming up with an exit plan. I'd already be plotting and planning for divorce.

[Anonymous]

She doesn't value you.
I would try to flip this on her and make her a cuckquean.
Tell her that you'll think about it if she let's you fuck one if her girlfriends in front of her.
Then afterwards change your mind.

[SueShe]

When you are drunk, you lose all your inhibitions that normally hold you back from doing something in a sober state indicating that a fantasy is just waiting for the right opportunity for it to happen.

A flirt, by definition is ""a sexual behavior involving spoken or written communication, as well as body language, by one person to another, to suggest interest in a deeper relationship with the other person".

Now, to me it is clear that your wife has clearly indicated that she is up for a new kink in her life and your jealousy is more than justified. It's up to you to make the right decision on the path to take and the measures to implement from now on.

[HappyWife33]

Sounds like both of you may have a bit of a fetish here. Call it sharing, hotwifing, cuckholding, etc. I would have a good conversation with her about it and see if that is a direction you want to go. If you are uncomfortable with it then you need to be up front about it now. Either way, good luck and be safe 😘

[Avicenna]

You are way too passive about this. Yes, its cheating.

[CaseyBlack]

I want a guy who will share me with all his friends.

[Anonymous]

She wants other guys. Being drunk isn't an excuse for what she did.

[EverythingTheySay]

A little advice leave her and keep her as sex tool

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[EverythingTheySay]

brake up with her and tell her if she's up for sex she's welcome to write an message or whatever... She have the thoughts of cheating you she might aswell do it at some point if she haven't done it already

[Asker]

Thanks for your reply