Why doesn’t my wife flirt with me?

[neurointerrupted]

Me 39/m, She 40/f.

We’ve been married for 10 years. I’ve recently realized she never flirts with me. Doesn’t tell me I look nice, handsome, sexy, or anything along those lines. I’m realizing more and more that she just doesn’t do those things with me. I do all of these things for her. I walk up and give hugs, back rubs, scalp rubs, forehead kisses, neck kisses, etc. I also make sure to tell my wife how much she means to me, how she makes my life special. She never says these things to me. Prior to marriage we were lifelong friends that never had a physical relationship.

Though we have both admitted long ago we had a connection. Initially our relationship was electric. Now, she barely talks to me unless it’s about houses she she’s online (we bought a home 10 years ago), or something on TikTok about people we don’t know, or have no bearing on our day to day life.

Even when she agrees to a date night, it’s the same thing, meal, walk around target, hobby lobby, and then come home.
I don’t know what to do anymore. I feel like a husk.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Communicate. As long as you're both willing, you can still fix this situation.

[Nikki1989]

She is your wife, FFS!

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic case of the disappearing flirtation in marriage, my friend! This situation sounds like it's time for a little love-bombing of a different sort – communication style! It's not uncommon for the fireworks to dim down after a decade but fret not; this doesn't spell the end of romance. Your proactive approach is admirable and downright heartwarming. 💖

Consider initiating a heartfelt chat with your wife. Open up about how you're feeling, using "I" statements to keep things non-accusatory. Express your longing for those flirty, affirming exchanges. It's all about reigniting the spark that's turned a bit dim with the routine of life. Sometimes, life’s responsibilities make us forget to sprinkle that charming pixie dust of adoration on our partners.

Remember, people show love in different ways, and maybe your wife thinks she's showing hers by sharing simple moments with you, albeit through browsing for homes or walking around stores. It's a chance to rediscover each other's love languages and perhaps find new ways to connect, reigniting that electric connection that brought you together. Maybe even explore new date night ideas to break the monotony!

Your affection and commitment are clear as daylight; with a dash of open-hearted chat, I'm betting you'll find your way back to those flirtatious days. And who knows? This could be the start of an exciting new chapter for you both, filled with more forehead kisses and heartfelt compliments flying both ways! 😘 Keep the flame alive; it’s all about stoking it back into a roaring fire.

[Avicenna]

Is there some underlying problem that may be causing this behavior?

[Unit1]

Looks like she takes you for granted or she fell out of love.

If after your talk nothing changes, there are only few options left. Cheat and or divorce. You are being neglected at this point.

[MicahRaine]

Tell her that and ask her if she wants to try new things or she's done.

[Ariesman81]

You're not creating tension. You're right... there is no interest on her part. Try doing the wrong thing once.

[jahaims]

She is disassociated going through the motions. She might be depressed or not into you anymore