Why does my friend's wife flirt with me in front of him?

[Anonymous]

My friend and I used to do body building back in high school. He met a girl via internet back then and we all met a few times in higschool but she lived in a different state entirely.

Fast forward to about 4 years and they both added me on facebook. She's a stay at home mom of one and has a lot of time on her hands. He doesn't get on Facebook very often but I'm sure he reads some of her comments.

Me and his wife get a long really well over the internet and comment on each others posts. She's really interested in non important things in life like shopping and makeup and will be dramatic about it. The thing is, it's starting to feel like real life flirting. Here's just one example of what I mean:

Alexandra - You'd be an awesome shopping partner for me then Cj Zanders 😂

Cj Zanders@ Alexandra Lol. I guess so. I'm more of a Macy's guy though. Not much to by at Target lol.

Alexandra - Oh I'm an I'll shop everywhere girl lol.

But my favorites are Victoria's Secret, Lush, Sephora, and Ulta lol Cj Zanders

Cj Zanders @ Alexandra - Oh yeah I love shopping Vicki's Secret and Lush for myself right after I get my manicure and pedicure down the street. No, but really, I can't even fit in half of Old Navy and Holister. Gotta go Abercrombie and Fitch and Calvin Klein. Heh.

Alexandra @ Cj Daniels awesome! We should do a spa day! 😂😂 ... I'm super obsessed with clothes and makeup.

Cj Zanders- I'm not gonna lie, I do like spa days. It's like a mini vacation Alexandra

Alexandra: Cj Daniels then you should move to NC lol Cj Daniels Alexandra Czajka Rakers - haha. I've never been. Maybe. lol

Alexandra - @Cj Zanders - you should come visit. 😂

This is just one example of what seems to be flirting with me to the point she act's as if she wan'ts to literally date me. I'm pretty sure they know I'm straight also. What do you think her thought process is?

[LaVilaine]

That doesn't really seem like flirting to me. I think she's just bored and lonely.

[Asker]

Bored, lonely, and wanting to have fun with someone you find attractive = strong possibility of romanticism. And as I suspected, after 3 months from this original post, she is not happy with her husband nor seems content about her relationship and has tried go deeper with the relationship that we have. Let this be a lesson to you all.

[Anonymous]

Seems innocent to me...

[Asker]

If your man was talking to another woman online telling them they wanted to hang out and come visit them, would you not think there's some kind of romantic possibility with that?

[Opinion Owner]

Nope. I wouldn't think twice about it. My Husband has friends that are girls that he occationally hangs out with (he's a nurse so he pretty much works with all woman). But what you wrote here just looked like 2 people fooling around and having friends. Not even making real plans or anything. This looks completely innocent to me. I've talked like this to both guy and girl friends and so has my Husband... I guess it all depends on what kind of friendships you are used to having.

[Asker]

Hanging around female nurses is one thing. I'll tell you one thing. By the end of our spa day ,(assuming I would even do that) platonic friends would probably be crossed. Thanks for the input, but I think a few guy responses would be to the contrary of this one.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh are those guys married women too? Stop making something out of nothing. She probably views you as safe I have also had conversations like this, a lot, before and after I got together with my now Husband and none of it ever met anything. I usually just viewed the guy as safe and maybe a friend. Go head schedule a spa day... she will def. bail. She was goofing around with someone she thought was her friend but believe what ever you want. If you feel the relationship is inappropriate from your end look out for your friend and put an end to it.

[Asker]

I feel men are less likely to uphold a females purity than a woman would another woman. Saying she will definitely bail if I actually wen't out with her is naive and foolish. Here's a lesson, don't presume innocents of your spouse so much.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I'm good but thanks.

[Asker]

As I suspected, she is not happy with her husband nor seems content about her relationship and has tried go deeper with the relationship that we have. Let this be a lesson to you all.

[Opinion Owner]

lol. oh okay.