Why girls ignore guys rather than speak.

[Anonymous]

OK I've noticed that girls rather ignore a guy because they don't want to chat to them rather than just say, look I'm kinda busy and I can't chat right now. Because tbh when girls do that, they lose my respect and I get rude...why do you do it? do you think the guy is so low that you shouldn't even answer him? ohh no he is quiet and shy he deserves some torture because he is a minor and girl normally enjoy hurting shy people because its what? fun? If you don’t want them then delete them no need for that sh*t.

I'm starting to realize that being nice and polite to girls has not f**kin value, this is what happedn b4 I deleted her...

I said “hey so & so..you been OK?” 30min no answer (she is answering my other friends tho)

I asked my friend I said ask her question see if she answers (I thought she left her comp.) but nope..he said I been talking to her for the past 20min…I'm like OK…so I said what's the point of having me in your friends list?….no answer…I said hi, she ignored, I say hey, she ignored, I said YO BITCH…she said “excuse me?” I then deleted her and every time I see her I tell her how fat she is, it feels f**kin great taking the piss…

So ladies if you do that then you are the ones who make players and jerks out of nice guys..do you want disrespect? Because its not difficult…ignoring people, is hurtful did your mum teach you that?

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+1 y

no one likes even creepy girls who are always checking out guy's profiles and niffing around for more infomation about them...im no creepy...im just a shy guy and the girls who do that, I got to know them very well they just turn into b***ches..

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+1 y

Thank you for comments they were very helpful and I woun't take that so seriously...this case is officailly closed :)

[udolipixie]

1) why do you do it?

my time is too precious to waste on some guy who wants sex.

a guy may be shy, awkward, or quiet but that doesn't make him any better than a jerk.

Both their goals are sex and the sole reason they approached.

That's not a bad thing but don't try to deny it.

Everyone except asexuals want sex.

2) do you think the guy is so low that you shouldn't even answer him?

it maybe polite to answer him but I'm not required to.

why should I be inconvenienced just because that person is nice?

the fact that a burglar didn't kill you doesn't mean it's okay you got robbed.

you're projecting your own insecurities on this one about the thinking he is so low.

I barely register the guys I brush off

3) you may be shy but you're not nice.

You're a nice until no guy.

The kind of guy who respects jerks and wants to be one.

You mistake your politeness and shyness for nice.

You think nice will get you sex or whatever you want.

When it doesn't you become a jerk to get it.

And don't blame girls for making guys jerks because a guy also has the decision to wait for a girl who likes him for who he is a nice guy.

4) do you want disrespect?

only those that get off on being disrespected.

[Asker]

My time is precious too. you can?t just label men for wantin sex, I no girls who cheat & they hav bfs too. Is 1 d*ck not enough? Lol, If it wasn?t for more sex then what? So you think ?every guy? who talks 2 you want sex? I thought being polite was a way to show pure intentions, but I never said I am so nice why can't some girl just let me f**k her, otherwise I would have said that..However getting sex is not so difficult nowadays, you just have to be a jerk :P I was curious about the behavior not sex.

[udolipixie]

I didn't say women don't cheat.

They're people of course they cheat.

Non asexual men do want sex. Everyone does.

No matter how nice a guy is just remember he wants sex just like any other guy.

I'm not saying that's bad.

I'm just saying if I want to ignore a guy who wants sex no matter how polite his approach is that doesn't make it wrong. Rude but not wrong.

You asked why I ignore guys well I ignore guys that aren't attractive enough for me to want to have sex with them.

[Asker]

Thank you miss...they are just not worthy to have sex with OK I get you "everyone wants sex but not with everyone"...but for a guy who doesn't talk much & says somethin doesn't deserve to b ignored just because you don't want to have sex with him, who said he does?, let him make his move then reject the guy, if he talk 2 much say your busy then block the guy.. Mayb he has a crush on your best frend & he has qstn he can't ask her directly. Guys don't always chat to girls for sex, is that what girls think?

[udolipixie]

My girls and I do.

Guys have yet to prove us wrong.

So why should I waste even a second giving him a verbal brush off?

And I was talking about random guys not close friends.

[Asker]

Those were girls I used to know from college & they were behaving liked that online.

I can add you as a friend and not even want sex from you, cos I know enough girls but if I get all flirty then you can reject me if you don?t like what you see. But nyways so much has happened since I wrote this question. Thanks for your comments :)

[KryHeart]

The only time I ever ignore guys when I'm online is when I get really tired of them. I mean, there are some guys who try to talk to me EVERY time I get online (within seconds of me logging on), but then they have nothing to say - so I just start ignoring them, because it's awkward for me and it never even develops into a conversation. It's like I have to try to keep talking to this guy when I don't even want too just so I won't be rude. But then, if I say "sorry, I'm busy" every time he tries to talk to me, I'll feel like I'm obviously avoiding him. Soooo I just ignore him.

Or there are times when I know that the guy has a crush on me and wants to flirt with me, and I don't want to lead him on or pretend like I'm interested and it becomes difficult making it clear I don't feel that way about him. Then I ignore him and try to avoid him physically, too, because I guess I kind of hope he just forgets about me, moves on, finds another girl, etc. Something.

[Asker]

I understand what your saying..and I agree with u, you can't give attention to a guy your not attracted to cos it will be a waste of time. but I guess you accept the same done to you too right?

However...Im not going to lie I "was" among them guys who quickly talk to a girl who comes online..the problem was lack of experience with girls (sex wise)...girls have too many options that's why they get picky about who to talk to...so I now don't care no more cos I don't go for any girls in the friend circle.

[Asker]

cos there is too much politics involved.

[Anonymous]

i'm sorry you feel that way, but don't you think you're making a mountain out of a molehill? just because someone didn't want to chat with you doesn't mean it's the end of the world. people aren't obligated to respond to you just because you want them to. you shouldn't let this torture you, get to know new girls if the one you want to talk to isn't working out for you.

you shouldn't let something like that hurt you so much. don't take it personally. girls really don't like guys who are overemotional and get butthurt about small things like this. its not that serious!

[Asker]

Don't be sorry, I can tell you do that and you think its acceptable, don?t you understand that ignoring people is rude? ..u said "girls don't like guys who are overemotional"? so its all about what girls want? Just cos she is a girl doesn't mean its OK 4 her to take the p*ss & what, I'm not allowed to stand up for myself? if they get away with it once, then they will NEVER respect you...so you hav 2 stop them right there!

[DonMichelle]

Usually these girls who stay silent think highly of themselves, vain, high maintainance. They're used to having guys throw themselves at them and instead want change... these girls like to chase, not to be chased! You pestering them will just make them close even more, not only do you have no appeal to them your now starting to annoy them but rather than say 'leave me alone' (usually because they infact like the attention, don't want to upset you or in most cases are very concerned about thier reputation... they don't want to be seen as cruel, damage thier image and possibly have other boys/girls who would take thier interset find out what they're like)

[Asker]

yeah I believe you are right...i just don't take that seriously no more, because there is no need to be pissed of, its just that I'm normally a polite person and I just got pissed off...but now I get it, thanks for the comment.

[DonMichelle]

No worries man! Don't let sh*t bother you ;)

[Cyhhgg]

Just wanted to say even though I get what you're saying, you still stepped out of bounds by feeling entitled to the same courtesy you extended.

Here's the truth (whether you like it not), no one on this planet owes you a thing. If they ignore you then they lost yout respect. Leave it at that. You don't make the situstion better (by proving you havr respect) by name calling or lashing out irrationally.

Just accept and admit to yourself that you acted, like someone that's hard tp respect as well.

[Anonymous]

I will only ignore a guy if he ignores me. Its happening to me now, everyone says he acts like that because he's attracted to me. I don't understand it, be rude to me or ignore me and I will do the same to you. Why should I go out of my way to be nice to someone that's rude? I'm normally friendly with everyone, but if you act rude you will get the same response back. I agree with you 100% if anyone is rude to you then they deserve your royal treatment. After the first or second try, don't bother with there sorry ass. I can't tolerate it.

[Asker]

Thank you, someone, at last..lol.. there were people who actually blamed me...im like what? I got disrespected and its my fault...nahhh, lol

[Opinion Owner]

Your welcome. I'm shy myself, but I'm still friendly. It used to bother me when I was younger, because I couldn't understand why guys/girls were rude or mean without knowing me.

After a while it got real tired, and now, I could care less. One less ignorant asshole, I have to deal with.

[Asker]

lool, exactly arogant assholes...they just gv bad day & I think that's their aim because its delberate...but anyways, I made new friends so its all good now :)

[rallz93]

Well...there are nice girls and not so nice, typically , but not everybody wants to talk to you. Maybe you're too boring or you did something that didn't end up onn her good list.

You receive what you give.

And by the way , you don't sound like a nice guy to me."the nice guy" is just a facade.

[Asker]

perhaps..thanks for the comment prity lady :) bye.

[kiss_me_Kate]

If she ignores you she's not interested.

There is a difference between being polite and creeping.

Part of being polite is knowing when to politely walk away. Just fold with some dignity.

Anyways, I would never ignore someone rudely. I would politely state that I was busy or simply not interested. If I was interested in them, I would not ignore them or blow them off.

[Asker]

im not interested either, we were just friends, if I'm interested I will say it early and get my answer cos I don't like to think about it. But does that mean just because I'm not interested in a girl I should ignore her and make her feel unwelcome?, no, I didn't even speak to her regularly to say I annoy her.. but yes its nicer to be direct and speak up than stupidly think I can read her mind..anyways she got replaced by new friends. But thank you for your comment :)

[kiss_me_Kate]

If you don't speek to her regularly you are not friends. You are acquaintances. If she did not enjoy making your acquaintance, she will ignore you the second time around. You should not overstep your relationship limits with her by being overly fimiliar. She feels comfortable on her own (or as you have noticed, when no speaking to you). Move on.

[Asker]

I have moved on, she has no value & she's bn replaced already...i honestly hate people who think the whole world revolves around them (they gv out negativity)... if a girl slaps a guy she shouldn't complain getting slapped back...but anyways thanks for your time. your answer was helpful.

[kiss_me_Kate]

so someone you never had any sort of relationship with/knew is being "replaced"? Sounds like you're a bit delusional. And your best answer is only selecting what you want to hear.

[Asker]

its no longer important, good luck with your life. lol

[Anonymous]

a lot of the time girls ignore guys because they don't like them on a personal level or have tried to speak to them, the guy won't shut up or says something that offends her, doesn't listen to her, or just don't have common interests. To be totally blunt, it's like a -if it's not worth it (to them) they won't bother.

[Asker]

I spoke to some friends of mine who are quite good with the ladies...and it turns out I took girls too seriously..now I have enough female friends, so its not really important to me no more, I'm learning a lot from my friends & my brother so I understand what you saying... thank you for your comment tho :)

[Opinion Owner]

That's awesome! Social-life is a never ending puzzle.

[Asker]

:) I guess so.

[Shrugs83]

I stay silent because once I told a guy politely to leave me alone and he called me an ugly pig bitch and made this huge scene. Now I just ignore men and stay closer to my girlfriends or whoever is out with me.

[-StillWater-]

Because they don't feel like speaking at all. And explaining why they don't want to speak would include speaking, and it might take more time than an actual small talk for politeness sake.

[Monalisa77]

Would you hate it if someone who genuinely liked you looked at ur profile to find out more about you?

Boys do this playing with your mind aswell as girls.

[PsychedelicZebra]

I can't remember where I heard this, but it pretty much sums it up, much more nicely than I could in my own words: here's a tissue for your issue.

[Asker]

its like she is saying "i know your giving me attention and I ignore you deliberately because you are nice and nice people don;t deserve any respect and I am insulting you just to hurt you because I can"...ohh but whenever I retailate by insulting & deleting then they say "ohh you are so rude and I hate to be your friend" ( I say OK go f**k yourself b***h) ...its OK for them to take the piss.

[PsychedelicZebra]

it's the stuff you say. strange things like "“hey so & so..you been ok?” ...makes her sound like she's depressed all the time... why not "what up" or "yo"

"what's the point of having me in your friends list?" well that tells her you're insecure/jealous/needy

"every time I see her I tell her how fat she is, it feels f**kin great takin the p*ss " sure it feels great it's still burning bridges. She'll tell the other girls what a creep/how vindictive/twisted you are, which sure won't help.

[Asker]

i didn't say hey so and so...i just said that cos I didn't want to say her name here so in reality I said e.g. "hey lisa"..i always say names...but anyways, if I don't have a reason to chat I don't, I'm not desparate and insecure either cos the conversation dies anyway its just to say hi...but its just like I hav never been disrespectful do I deserve that kinda treatment? cos I didn't ignore her why am I the bad one?

[PsychedelicZebra]

You're not the bad one, what I'm getting at was that your reaction was bad. Like the girl above said, sometimes you just have to play it cool and not act too interested. Otherwise, it seems like you are demanding her attention, and she'll think you're clingly or too high-maintenance. Now and then you have to wait for them to initiate the conversation.

No you don't deserve disrespect, agreed, but also don't take things so personally. Just seems like you made a "no big deal" situation bad.

[Asker]

fair enough I understand what your saying, I know my limits and I don't speak always..but I just didn;t like the way she ignored everything...i just didn't like it..but thanks for your answer, its well said...and its all over now, she now knows who I am and I don't need to be nice no more.

[Anonymous]

girls want challenge. Simple as that. You have to make the initial move but after that fall back and ignore them. Easier said than done.

I know it sucks to be ignored but you can't let it bother you.

[Anonymous]

Yep she taught me that.

Mom said: never talk to strangers Aaaaand creepies.

[PsychedelicZebra]

I'd be pissed if I found out my daughter was talking to creepies...

[Opinion Owner]

see even my dad would be so pissed off.

[Asker]

why do you add them to your friends list then? your mum teaches you to desrespect nice/shy people you know? what a bad mother. Then, you deserve the same treatment to be hurt/disrespected/ ignored too (u like that?)...its ugly hearted girls like you that give women a bad image...and guys think they should treat even nice girls like b***hes.. your not nice.

[Asker]

(to the girl) so you think every shy guy you know (or don' know) are creepy? should I say every girls who are like you are sluts? is that nice? not every girl is a slut but there are many tho...

[Asker]

PsychedelicZebra...if I found my daughter chatting to creepies I would be pissed off too...but you don't seem to understand (ur just takin her side)...im talkin about why girls ignore without a reason when you get along very well and you know her too from work, if I didn't know her, I wouldn't care less, cos b***chs come & go...i just want to know why would a female friend ignore a guy without a reason especially when he treats better than the others? then why add me?

[Opinion Owner]

Ok listen:

sometimes when a girl ignores you,she is just trying to hint to you that she is not interested.now I don't like to be ignored so I don't ignore peoplE.

she doesn't want to lead you on or she is playing games or she just got tired of talking to you.

so your reaction should be cool and be calm and don't straight up tell them to f off Or bitch and stuff that's gives them a bad picture about you.

if you want them to get the idea just do the same when she message you.

[Asker]

good answer...it would be more appropriate to say "hey I'm kinda busy so I might not reply" or we chat another time...than ignore/play games...etc...wouldnt ignoring people give a bad image of girls? (alot of girls do that...im not a master pick up artist to know all these stupid rules)...but anyways I don't see why people add others when they ignore them , in conclusion the more disrespecful I get the more the girls listen...its a f**ed up world

[Opinion Owner]

Yea but that's it,lots of girls do that but that's their reasons.

i know it is so annoying.

But well! that's a fked up world and most people don't care about what others will/would feel if they got ignored!

so when someone ignores you that way just don't bother messaging them and do the same to them.

Sometimes people have bad mood so they just only talk to people they are comfortable with.

[PsychedelicZebra]

"i just want to know why would a female friend ignore a guy without a reason especially when he treats better than the others? then why add me?" - she may be involved in another conversation and likes to focus on one at a time, she may just not be in the mood for your sense of humour, she may just want a break from you...

"in conclusion the more disrespecful I get the more the girls listen...its a f**ed up world" unfortunately yes, sometimes the only way to get the dense women to respect you

[Asker]

im not going to let no chicken s**t like that think she is powerful over me...why can't she say "look I'm kinda busy?" ...nyways she lost a friend (I remember even sayin..."something wrong with sayin your busy"? no reply at all)..so f**k her.

[Asker]

and to the lady...yes, it is annoying when people ignore, and since they don't care what people think/feel then I guess my actions/insults doesn't need an appology, she deserved everything I said to her...anyways its all over now, I punished her enough...nyways, thanks for the comments.

[Opinion Owner]

You better change the way you treat others because this way! you will lose lots of people/friends,learn how to be calm,you want respect?respect others so they respect you in return!

Your welcome.

[Asker]

you don't understand do you? read my question above again, I am shy, I don't speak much & I have been plite towards females all my f**kin life & I feel that its not worth it, cos "i was treated badly" and even tho she ignored me (bad treatment right genius?) you still blame me like I'm the bad guy who treats people wrongly..its like your tryin to say that its OK to be a p***y & roll when a girl says so..BS its wrong. take care.

[Opinion Owner]

No,i understand but the way you talked "no answer I said hi, she ignored, I say hey, she ignored, I said YO BITCH she said “excuse me?” I then deleted her and every time I see her I tell her how fat she is, it feels f**kin great taking the p*ss Etc!"

I would ignore you.

Read your question and the way you taked the situation. damn you just hate people so quick and for the dumbest reasons.

Give people million reasons before you just insult them for not responding to you.

dont just directly insult them.

[Asker]

i insulted her so bad she will never ignore anyone again...so case close, ignore me all you want...good luck with your life.

[Anonymous]

they don't like confrontation