How would you restart a conversation with your crush if you didn’t talk for several months?

[Anonymous]

Say if you haven’t talked to someone in a long time would you dare pick up the conversation or just leave it? Last time we talked it ended up awkward because I was upset about something he did. I wouldn’t really know how to start a conversation out of blue. Have you done this before? I’ll probably not do it but I was just curious.

[Pistolpete90]

"Hey stranger... long time no see. How are you going?"
That's a good start. I initiated an email a few weeks back, got a reply back within a few minutes :)
If there's something between you and last time you spoke, he upset you, chances are he's not sure how to connect with you if you're still upset or if you want to hear from him.

[Asker]

Hmm I don't know. Tbh there was a reason I was upset with him. I think I’ll wait till like September at least to reach out.

[Asker]

I mean he had kind of ditched me because he was too shy too meet. Would you bother to talk to someone like that again?

[Pistolpete90]

You'd be surprised. If he is into you, he'll he happy to hear from you. Guy I mentionned above had an incident were he upset me, he was looking for a sign that I was open to communicating with him.
If you like him, maybe reach out sooner rather than later. What would you think if the situation was reversed and he reached out in September? Probably "wtf is he messaging me for after all this time?"

[Asker]

I see what you mean but he also put a year in between before messaging me again. And also if we are not actually meeting up in rl it might be frustrating like before

[Asker]

Do you think he might me into me even though he’s not wanting to meet up?

[Pistolpete90]

Ah, in that case, move on. If a guy isn't putting in any effort before the relationship began, that's what you can expect when you're together.
My friend married a guy like this, she is not happy and is miserable. Go with someone who makes the effort.

[Pistolpete90]

If a guy is really into you, believe me you'll know it. There won't be any games about his interest and feelings for you.

[Asker]

Haha she married him? But like he had to love her to wed right?

[Asker]

And also I still get angry at this guy sometimes for leading me on. Like we messaged for a good 2 months but he would never be able to meet... like why play with someone’s feelings it you don’t like them anyways? RUDE

[Asker]

And also he would make meeting up much harder than it actually is. He would always be like. “When your free?” like wtf is that supposed to mean

[Pistolpete90]

He's treating you like an option. I would recommend you move on to someone who'll move heaven and earth for you.

[Asker]

There’s no one like that for me rn

[Pistolpete90]

There is, but you might miss them if you're chasing a lost cause.

[boggboss]

Hay... Not heard from you in time hope you are keeping safe in current times how are you keeping.

[Asker]

Would it be alright even if the conversation ended on a weird note back then? I was calling him out for not properly asking me out lol

[boggboss]

If that comes up apologise for acting like a fool

[Asker]

What do you mean if “that comes up”? I don’t what I would apologize for because he was kind of being sluggish

[boggboss]

If he thinks he was right and you think you are right why would u want to message him lol

[Asker]

I mean just to chat. I was just thinking it doesn’t matter who’s right or wrong. But apologizing would be extra I thiughy

[Asker]

Thought*

[boggboss]

U say it just to chat and it don't matter who is right or wrong but it shows a inability to disagree on a subject and continue talking after which at that point talking is pointless as it will happen again

[Asker]

Maybe, another choice is wait for him to talk me again. Or maybe I would find someone else by then

[boggboss]

But that's the thing why do u think he will message u first if the last interaction was u moaning at him lol

[Asker]

I feel like guys don’t care what you told them last. If they become bored they will message out of desperation

[boggboss]

Lol that's desperation of action not because they want things to go anywhere with the girl lol

[boggboss]

And that also implies that he is talking to no one else

[Asker]

Happened to me recently with an asshole who had blocked me 2 years ago because he wanted to “move on” from me. This pig was messaging on an anonymous chat until I noticed it was him and then I politely told him to fuck off. You never know what guys want or when they will message you again even if they were a dick to you before. Bipolar some would say. Depending on how rude they were I might talk to them or straight out block them. #lifelessons

[boggboss]

No I think it's pretty obvious what they want

[Asker]

You mean sex? Yeah pretty much or they got lonely and regret loosing the connection with you

[boggboss]

Lol I'm not sure about that but I guess we can live in hope lol

[Asker]

Which part are you not sure about?

[boggboss]

Wanting to connect with you that's a rarity at best

[Asker]

You mean they only want sex? I’m just confirming lol

[boggboss]

That's and or entertainment at the moment

[Asker]

By entertainment what do you mean? Like chatting?

[boggboss]

Yes talking or seeing if they can real u in for sexting

[_no_one_]

I followed her on insta so i replied to her story and then our conversation started.

[Asker]

Did you not follow her before?

[_no_one_]

I followed her after introducing myself to her face to face coz i used to think that if i follow her like that then she would not even notice me so.

[_no_one_]

I guess you should try to seek his attention

[Asker]

I recently followed him again. I had blocked him after the weird conservation back then. He followed back but I don't know what he thinks.

[_no_one_]

Dm me

[_no_one_]

It sucks to talk like this replying in opinoin thing

[Asker]

How can I dm you?

[_no_one_]

What is ur XPER?

[Asker]

Three maybe you have to follow me back? I just followed you

[_no_one_]

Ok got it