Talking again for the first time in 6 months?

[Anonymous]

So there is this guy who dumped me 6 months ago.. we were drifting apart.. i called him today without thinking of the consequences.. i had a problem and i had no one to go to but him (i know so pathetic duhh) .. i thought he would never pick up, but i was surprised how he talked with me.. it left me thinking.. what if it was a door for a second chance? Am i overthinking? Am i acting pathetic? Does he really miss me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah, that's heavy stuff. On the one hand, getting back with an ex is usually messy and rarely works out long term. Six months is also a good break to really move on emotionally.

But I can understand still having feelings and wondering "what if." And if he was willing to talk you through a problem, maybe some part of him still cares too.

A few things to think about - Why did you guys break up originally? Have the core issues that caused issues been resolved? Are you both in different places emotionally/maturity wise now?

If there's still lingering issues or you're not 100% over each other, it'll likely crash and burn again. But some exes do end up working out once the dust has settled and they grow as people.

My advice would be proceed super careful. Really communicate openly about how you both feel now and what's changed before making any commitments. And don't rush back into it fully - take it slow and see how it feels. Hope this helps, trust your gut above all. You got this!

[Asker]

Well its kind of complicated.. we broke up because of family issues.. both parents were against this relationship.. so at some point he dropped me and told me he can't go far beyond without the love of his family... but deep down i knew he still cares about me

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah I gotcha, that's tough having the parents not approve. I can see why he'd feel torn between you and his family. But yeah if deep down you think he still cares, maybe there's a chance. Just take it slow at first since it's been a while. See if you guys can hang out casual without any expectations and see how the chemistry is. Feel it out without putting labels on it yet. If it feels right again maybe have an honest talk with him about trying again, but also being more lowkey so the parents don't interfere as much. And be prepared if he still thinks it's too messy. But it could work out too if you both want it bad enough. Just take your time and see how it plays out okay?

[sheikalana]

You're overthinking and being silly. Leve the past in the past.

[strateguy632]

not probable. keep looking