
- I would react the way I did when it happened a couple of times (or 'when I suspect it happened a couple of times, since given that too many coincidences to not raise suspicion') in my last office-job: question if it's actually happening at all… or if my mind is just making-up the interpretation of normal, everyday things into something else based on some subconscious wishful-thinking… and do the safe thing of carrying-onward with the safest action based on the safest interpretation of what happened.
The discussion on why she eats bananas with a fork instead of eating it normally, a later incident of her asking for a tea-bag (followed by the gasps & chuckles of my female-colleagues), another incident of her saying she 'was looking-forward to sausage…-risotto' (with a definite pause in-between while sitting beside me, also resulting in the giggles of my female-peers nearby), and the time we were alone and she walked up to a monitor in front of mine to apparently study something on screen and while facing me eating her white yogurt in such a way as to get a white liquid-mustache… could have just been my psyche's selectively-chosen and remembered incidences with no relation.
A normal, safe interpretation of these incidence (among others not mentioned) also works. And can generally stand on its own. The giggling of female-peers in time of the my boss's actions, though can offer challenges to the narrative, but it's nothing that other explanations (ex. insider-jokes among them) cannot counter.Is this still revelant?
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- I've had many i usually use it to get ahead i even had one supervisor who gave me a back massage at work lol me and her did not get along tho but she still liked me and hated me at the same time haha and i had another who would get mad if i talked to other girls and not her we once had a a long convo but that didn't mean anything i was just being nice i guess she took it as me staying after work and talking to her that i liked her, she not bad looking but that's a disaster i piss women off after awhile and then they hate me i know how it would go down and it ain't happening to me hahaha i once even had some gay dude who was my boss that loved black guys and was constantly complimenting me that shit was so weird bro and he touched my back i said fuck no hell no super SuS hahaha i do prefer straight male bosses cause women get weird with me at work.Is this still revelant?
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- It's happened a lot and it pisses me off because i feel like i can't say anything or ill lose my job. My manager grabbed my butt in front of paying customers and cctv and said he was trying to borrow my radio from my back pocket when i confronted him even though he had his own radio on him.
Another manger told me he liked blonde's and he only hires women he finds attractive. My reply was "good thing my hair colour comes out a bottle then"
Last time my latest manger, he's 50 by the way same age as mum. Asked if id been checking out his muscles and i said "no I've not really been looking as im trying to do my job"
I've noticed in situations like this were your to scared to report it out of the back clash usually sarcastic comments work best.Is this still revelant?@Primrose21 i know it's scary and sometimes i feel guilty about not speaking up because if i have a daughter i would hope god forbid if a man treated her like that she'd speak up but i personally can't be bothered with the black clash of complaining because all the other male colleagues will eventually turn on you and call you a bitch but at the same time that's why they know they can get away with it with me.
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@Puppystarfish23 I totally understand. Sometimes speaking up might even cost us our jobs and unfair treatment.
- When I realised, it really pissed me off. Why would he think I’d be interested? What about his wife? I was disgusted with it all. Damn cheek and a misuse of status.
Found out much later he had been sleeping with one woman (who probably thought she was special) and many more too.
And on work premises. Ugh.Is this still revelant?
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3662- Most girls would be drawn to it cuz girls mainly go for a guys status , so him being her boss it probably already crossed her mind that she would do him on his desk or something , As for me I am single and if I had a hot female boss I was attracted to and she came on to me of course I’d fuck her but if I was in a relationship I would say sorry I am already taken , A girl in this situation won’t care what her relationship. is most the time unless her partner has a better job then her boss. But if he doesn’t sorry for that husband Cuz she is going to be all over that bossReact
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- Well considering my boss is a male and I’m straight I’d be like
“Wtf bro?”
Now if it was say my job where I worked for a gym and my boss was a smoke show babe?
Mm...
Tough one, cause I half of me would just imagine fucking her brains out, whereas the other half of me would be like “nah, I shouldn’t shit where I eat”ReactLike
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- I've had numerous bosses who flirted with me. "Ewww!" was how I felt every time. I always made it clear I didn't want any part of it, especially being a mistress since each & every one of them were married at the time.React
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- Well, might be a little weird since I work for my dad... lolReact
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- I'd be pissed for sure for his lack of ethics and professionalism, but I don't know how I would react in such a situation because as someone who is higher in the hierarchy he can make my life miserable.
I know I would try to ignore him and play dumb.ReactLike
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- I did have an office manager (she wasn't really my boss since I reported directly to the company president) who seemed to be interested in something physical. She was about 6 years older than me, and was attractive, but was a) married and b) had terrible breath, so I was leery of how other parts might smell.React
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- Would have hated it.
A workplace is meant to kept strictly professional.ReactLike
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- I find it repulsive and cringey at best. Like stay on your lane, perv. Reminds me of the cheating husband flirting with the secretary acting like a dog with no moral compass.React
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- Report his ass just like I would expect if I did the same.React
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Hey dumbass clearly you did not read the question the question is clearly asking a hypothetical that is your boss flirting with you not suspecting they are flirting clearly your reading comprehension has not surpassed kindergarten. No wonder why you flunked a lot. Let me guess you have a problem with social qeues don't you you little snowflake.
- Remind him he has a wife and children at homeReact
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If he’s suddenly begun flirting with other women, then yeah he clearly needs to be reminded. He’s a family man so that is way out of his character.
This has nothing to do with Germans. How the hell did that even get brought up? <—— that’s a rhetorical question.- Show All Show Less
Germans are actually the most polite people in Europe, I can say from personal experience.
Italians and French tend to be the most rude actually!Exactly. My uncle lives in Germany and I’ve had 0 issues with them. They’re so polite, friendly and considerate. ❤️
Yes, it's part of their culture. They are traditionally hospitable and very concerned about making people feel as comfortable as possible, and disregard all the stereotypes about them.
In my personal experience, my fellow "native" Italians always made fun of my accent, for the mainlanders French the dialect I speak is not proper French so I got a lot of flak by them; while the Germans are the only ones who never made fun of my stuttering German and have always been patient with me.
But for some reason our German friends and my fiancée (Austrian) always tease the hell out of each other in their language but it's all good fun.
- Since the last place I was working the only person senior to me was my wife, it wasn't such a big deal.React
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- she did, I didn't take the bait. I'd suggest doing the same, but I recognize we aren't always so fortunate to slow down and think.React
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- I would tell her to flirt all she wants outside the office, maybe at her place when the job is done if she really meant it...React
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- It would tempting and erotic but I got to keep my cool and focus on the job and keep it professional
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- I would be thrown off a bit. It's not because my boss isn't a nice guy, but he's married, I am a straight single Male and as far as I know my boss is straight as well. So it would be a little off putting.React
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- He did... For long time, until I fell for it. Big problem was he was married. That was a big fail for me, my biggest mistake.React
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- I wouldn't appreciate that of course. I will excuse myself and leave that place.React
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- Initially ignore it. After repeated attempts speak to them letting them know it’s inappropriate. If continued notify hr.React
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- Giveth the bonus plus a raise or get this harassment report.React
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