How would you react if your boss flirted with you?

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N192K001 · Accepted Answer

I would react the way I did when it happened a couple of times (or 'when I suspect it happened a couple of times, since given that too many coincidences to not raise suspicion') in my last office-job: question if it's actually happening at all… or if my mind is just making-up the interpretation of normal, everyday things into something else based on some subconscious wishful-thinking… and do the safe thing of carrying-onward with the safest action based on the safest interpretation of what happened.

The discussion on why she eats bananas with a fork instead of eating it normally, a later incident of her asking for a tea-bag (followed by the gasps & chuckles of my female-colleagues), another incident of her saying she 'was looking-forward to sausage…-risotto' (with a definite pause in-between while sitting beside me, also resulting in the giggles of my female-peers nearby), and the time we were alone and she walked up to a monitor in front of mine to apparently study something on screen and while facing me eating her white yogurt in such a way as to get a white liquid-mustache… could have just been my psyche's selectively-chosen and remembered incidences with no relation.

A normal, safe interpretation of these incidence (among others not mentioned) also works. And can generally stand on its own. The giggling of female-peers in time of the my boss's actions, though can offer challenges to the narrative, but it's nothing that other explanations (ex. insider-jokes among them) cannot counter.

Fuentes · Accepted Answer

I've had many i usually use it to get ahead i even had one supervisor who gave me a back massage at work lol me and her did not get along tho but she still liked me and hated me at the same time haha and i had another who would get mad if i talked to other girls and not her we once had a a long convo but that didn't mean anything i was just being nice i guess she took it as me staying after work and talking to her that i liked her, she not bad looking but that's a disaster i piss women off after awhile and then they hate me i know how it would go down and it ain't happening to me hahaha i once even had some gay dude who was my boss that loved black guys and was constantly complimenting me that shit was so weird bro and he touched my back i said fuck no hell no super SuS hahaha i do prefer straight male bosses cause women get weird with me at work.

Puppystarfish23 · Accepted Answer

It's happened a lot and it pisses me off because i feel like i can't say anything or ill lose my job. My manager grabbed my butt in front of paying customers and cctv and said he was trying to borrow my radio from my back pocket when i confronted him even though he had his own radio on him.

Another manger told me he liked blonde's and he only hires women he finds attractive. My reply was "good thing my hair colour comes out a bottle then"

Last time my latest manger, he's 50 by the way same age as mum. Asked if id been checking out his muscles and i said "no I've not really been looking as im trying to do my job"

I've noticed in situations like this were your to scared to report it out of the back clash usually sarcastic comments work best.

SphynxUK · Accepted Answer

When I realised, it really pissed me off. Why would he think I’d be interested? What about his wife? I was disgusted with it all. Damn cheek and a misuse of status.
Found out much later he had been sleeping with one woman (who probably thought she was special) and many more too.
And on work premises. Ugh.

Finchie40 · Answer

Most girls would be drawn to it cuz girls mainly go for a guys status , so him being her boss it probably already crossed her mind that she would do him on his desk or something , As for me I am single and if I had a hot female boss I was attracted to and she came on to me of course I’d fuck her but if I was in a relationship I would say sorry I am already taken , A girl in this situation won’t care what her relationship. is most the time unless her partner has a better job then her boss. But if he doesn’t sorry for that husband Cuz she is going to be all over that boss

laurieluvsit · Answer

Well, might be a little weird since I work for my dad... lol

pleasestopthis · Answer

I'd be pissed for sure for his lack of ethics and professionalism, but I don't know how I would react in such a situation because as someone who is higher in the hierarchy he can make my life miserable.
I know I would try to ignore him and play dumb.

zagor · Answer

I did have an office manager (she wasn't really my boss since I reported directly to the company president) who seemed to be interested in something physical. She was about 6 years older than me, and was attractive, but was a) married and b) had terrible breath, so I was leery of how other parts might smell.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

I've had numerous bosses who flirted with me. "Ewww!" was how I felt every time. I always made it clear I didn't want any part of it, especially being a mistress since each & every one of them were married at the time.

bolverk · Answer

Think about #METOO and the implications and what would be the outcome if she flips the script on you and says that it you who is doing the flirting with her.

Daffodils · Answer

Would have hated it.  A workplace is meant to kept strictly professional.

The_unknown_memer · Answer

It would tempting and erotic but I got to keep my cool and focus on the job and keep it professional  Did it happen to you?

lanadelrey25 · Answer

Positively, if he was good looking to my standards.

navyrobin · Answer

I find it repulsive and cringey at best. Like stay on your lane, perv. Reminds me of the cheating husband flirting with the secretary acting like a dog with no moral compass.

postempestas · Answer

He did... For long time, until I fell for it. Big problem was he was married. That was a big fail for me, my biggest mistake.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Well considering my boss is a male and I’m straight I’d be like

“Wtf bro?”

Now if it was say my job where I worked for a gym and my boss was a smoke show babe?

Mm...

Tough one, cause I half of me would just imagine fucking her brains out, whereas the other half of me would be like “nah, I shouldn’t shit where I eat”

Mad1na · Answer

Report his ass just like I would expect if I did the same.

Agape93 · Answer

Remind him he has a wife and children at home

LowSelfSteem03 · Answer

I flirt with myself daily its apart of my doctors therapy to boost my confidence

sheikalana · Answer

Ignore it pretend I didn't notice and keep it professional as usual.

GoogleWasMyIdea · Answer

I would feel very awkward regardless of how pretty she is.

wanttoknow7772 · Answer

Like MY boss? My current boss? Probably stair at them for a bit with my eyebrows raised and tell them I'm going to forget that that happened. Then I would proceed to do so, and probably have it stored in my nogen for a fun story to cackle at somewhere down the line.

Dracuaw · Answer

That is one thing that I would add to my list of fantasies.

AlexanderAnttila · Answer

I'd react as I do to all non-Christian ladies who flirt with me, we wouldn't work, sorry.

abc3643 · Answer

* ick! *

Anonymous · Answer

It happened to me during my internship. But I ignored and always make a barrier to him.

Dongtai · Answer

Uncomfortable because he’s a guy. I’m straight. Lol.

Trooper205 · Answer

I would be VERY confused. It's a He. He's Married. Has LOTS of Kids. Yeah. I'd be like "Are you... talking to ME?"

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

I would vomit right in front of them, have you seen my bosses? Give me a barf bucket right now.

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

First I would wonder what's going on and then when I realize I would say something to HR.

lightbulb27 · Answer

she did, I didn't take the bait. I'd suggest doing the same, but I recognize we aren't always so fortunate to slow down and think.

MAC1983 · Answer

I would tell her to flirt all she wants outside the office, maybe at her place when the job is done if she really meant it...

Twalli · Answer

No romance in the workplace especially if your position is not the same.

Kmissel2020 · Answer

I would tell my boss that I don’t want to lose my job let’s keep it professional when working.

Bang5luts · Answer

I would be thrown off a bit. It's not because my boss isn't a nice guy, but he's married, I am a straight single Male and as far as I know my boss is straight as well. So it would be a little off putting.

Anonymous · Answer

Well I get hit on wherever I am. And I already know it comes with the territory of being attractive.

KingChris08 · Answer

All of my bosses is either married with kids or is in a relationship so I’d be surprised

TheAfrikan · Answer

If I have had some feelings for her too, damn I would consider that a blessing.

serious · Answer

I wouldn't appreciate that of course. I will excuse myself and leave that place.

DJB72 · Answer

Since the last place I was working the only person senior to me was my wife, it wasn't such a big deal.

DavidFox · Answer

Initially ignore it. After repeated attempts speak to them letting them know it’s inappropriate. If continued notify hr.

Akachan · Answer

Giveth the bonus plus a raise or get this harassment report.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

Chris... you're creeping me out with the long stares, my guy.

Prettygurl12 · Answer

"HOW'S YOUR WIFE, SARGE?"

BCA6010 · Answer

Very creeped out. She has a son almost as old as me.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Self employed *me flirting with myself in the mirror* No this doesn't work

Sakura-san · Answer

Kick his ass! We’re there to work not to find relationships

User626 · Answer

If I was single? My office or yours 😜 if I am in a relationship I would ignore it or say I'm taken.

Show_them_the_curve · Answer

I would flirt back with him

ColHathi · Answer

Taken aback, but very flattered if nothing else. I don't know how I'd respond, but I wouldn't rule out some kind of relationship with them entirely.

BrownBratzDoll · Answer

Flirt back but never give him ass as i HATE powerful men lmaoooooo

biaboss1952 · Answer

That all depends on how he flirted with you in what was going on in your life my life like do I have a boyfriend or not and also just expectations behind the flirting there is nothing wrong with flirting it just depends on the why the how and the who

Phoenix98 · Answer

I'd kindly tell them to stop and not I'm not interested if it persisted I'd take appropriate action.

Unit1 · Answer

Assuming she's female I would probably enjoy it. But not so much if she's unattractive/repulsive.

Shark_61695 · Answer

Uncomfortable and would probably leave if it went on for too long.

seanras · Answer

If I wasn't attracted to them, I would just take it casually but not say anything to give them the idea that I was interested.

Anonymous · Answer

I will tell him to stop his behaviour if he would not stop y Then I will report him to cops

minibigproblem · Answer

Male or female. NOPE he’ll/she’ll have to deal with being called out

Prettysammie · Answer

Nothing wrong with some flirting. I dated a few of my bosses before. No big deal

SkullsandBeauty · Answer

My boss is a old white lady no thanks.

Anonymous · Answer

If he’s single, I will say “ yes daddy” for the cash.

EssenceOfLight · Answer

Rolling eyes and disappointed "don't you have something better to do?" smile

Gedaria · Answer

If she looked like her in the picture, I would let her..

Anonymous · Answer

I flirt back. We have three managers at work, all older, all married but nothing too extreme.

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