I have been confused since because of the rapid turn around with her decision when she was literally asking me back one day and the next day not so excited about my decision to take her back. She has been ignoring my calls, texts and emails, but sometimes will rarely respond to my texts and would tell me that she "wants her space and asks that I respect that and that she is still very angry with me". This has been going on for 2 to 3 months now. Even though she is ignoring me, she knows I still talk to her cousin (we are friends and it was her cousin who actually introduced us to each other) but asks her cousin about me and how I am doing.
Does she still care about me even though she ignores me and rarely responds? If she wonders about me, why not ask me directly rather than go to her cousin. I can't understand how 9 years can be ignored and think that she doesn't love me or have feelings for me anymore. She isn't giving me answers. I still love the girl and want to be with her. How do I get her back? Any expert opinions? Thanks group, I appreciate your help.
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Well truth to be told, I think maybe the "fire" or passion or whateer may be gone from herheart or whatnot... BUT on te bright side maybe this will work..
If you haven't seen her recently, maybe that's why? I mean, they say that love grows in absence or whatever that random BS is but really, when I don't see someone for a while, the emotions I had toward them fade because I don't SEE them.
sure, I'll talk to them, but it isn't the same as talking to them face-to-face.
when you have time, try and pay her a surprise visit and take her out for a night and it might change her mind.
just choose ONE day not to think about your grades or school and focus COMPLETELY on her.
make her feel like she's the only one, the only thing you think of. it'll make her feel special.
and also, remind yourself and HER as well its NINE years you two have spent together.
but NEVER forget that woman ALWAYS need love and attention.
i understand academics is important too, it's really important to me as well. but if you really want to keep her, grab her and hold on tight, academics, you can try again and make up for it somewhat, but once a girl is gone, she's gone.
SHOW HER HOW MUCH YOU CARE.
dont just text and call and email, the receiver can find it quite annoying if you just pester them. eventually, they'll just stop reading whatever you sent and just delete them. believe me, I know.
i hope this helps and I hope your 9 year relationship will turn out to be even longer[: