Can you be a bit of a sweet talker, flirty but still be a good person?

[Still-alive]

He/she might flirt all the time but if you look a little deeper you see that they truly are a good person.

they are generous, kind, humble, the help others out with no strings attached or expectations of anything in return. But they just sometimes flirt for fun just to make the person feel good.

Yes this is possible

No its not possible

It depends (explain)

Updates

+1 y

I always think of Oskar Schindler here, even though he was a womanizer and playboy pretty much he still enfed up
Saving almost 1100 people in the Holocaust. Its just like that saying goes appearances can be deceiving.

Updates

+1 y

So the reason i ask this because there’s nothing wrong with flirting or generally being a sweet talker, but for some they might feel like you’re after something more or in exchange for something, usually sex. But me and i know many of you just do it because its fun and can brighten people’s days.

[TurboKid]

I got my close friends on Mixi who write on my profile. It's a type of social media in Japan but we do things a bit differently in that we only add actual IRL friends on there and they can write their impressions of you.

They write things like this (translated from Japanese):
Guy: "A complete enigma of a person. I can't figure out if he's an asshole or a good person."
Girl: "The biggest idiot I've ever known but also the biggest sweetheart and gentleman if you get to know him."
Guy: "Idiot or a genius? I can't tell, but a stand-up guy."

Things of this sort. I guess I leave people guessing. But I think I'm pretty decent at the end of the day. I don't flirt much these days since I'm married but I was the gigantic flirt in my crowd when I was single. I've also saved lives at severe risk and cost to myself (hospitalized and maybe even a mild case of PTSD). On the flip side, that PTSD thing that followed seemed to make me a nasty person for the following months so I stopped hanging out with people and went hermit until I recovered mostly from it.

I'm not very humble though. I'm a show-off. And I'm also a jackass. I like to laugh so loud and hard that it fills the entire room. But if I spot anyone looking upset, even a complete stranger, I stop laughing and I want to help them out.

[TurboKid]

So yes, I think so. I'd hope to count myself among them.

[TurboKid]

I think my grandfather also counted. He used to cheat all the time when we played games like board games together, and when we caught him, he would always say with a grin, "But I like, cheat, and steal." And while I wasn't around when he was younger, he seemed to be a gigantic flirt and ladies' man. But he was also a paratrooper in WW2, saved lives, started his own business with almost nothing, and got married happily, and took care of a large family. He might epitomize the type of man who has a mischievious side but the type you can really count on at the end of the day.

[TurboKid]

* mischievous

[TurboKid]

In response to the update, when I was single I even flirted with old ladies that I didn't find attractive at all... you know, put a smile on their face, a pep in their step. I think that's not immoral at all.

[shouldnobetter]

I flirt with almost anyone, cafe waitress, bank teller, cashier at the store, even the maillady when I see her. I'll flirt with the appt scheduler, and the life guards at the pool, even maybe the Police Officer as she's giving me a ticket. I'll even be flirting with the 2 nurses in my Urologist's Office next week when I go in for a Teaching/training appt.

I'm just a Senior who loves to flirt. Made it all these years and only been slapped once. LOL

[Still-alive]

So aside from all that how sure are you that you’re a good person? :p

[shouldnobetter]

Oh, you want a good person. I'M SORRY, I robbed banks for a living. I just got out of prison a couple years ago. LMAO

[Wiredone]

Lmao 🤣😆

[Jamie05rhs]

Lol.

[Still-alive]

so would you say you are generous, kind, humble, help others out with no strings attached or expectations of anything in return?

[shouldnobetter]

That's me

[crazyish]

I don't think the two correlate in my opinion because I don't see flirting as being bad. There's a reason why there is something called 'flirting' and something called 'hitting on' Flirting doesn't mean you're seriously interested in someone. It's just a step up from being nice and joking. It's supposed to be light a fun where you can do it with others out of enjoyment and feeling good mutually. I feel like flirting is taboo and taken way too serious these days lol

I'm unsure if it's seen as bad because others assume there's real interest always behind it or not. But it doesn't make you a bad person because others assume something that isn't true. It's all about perspective.

[Still-alive]

Thanks hun you’re as intelligent as always 😘

[TheSpaceGnome]

I agree with the first sentence, the rest no because I use flirting and hitting on as synonyms and I think that doing that without being serious is misleading and wrong, but if actually attracted to the person is fine.

[crazyish]

@Still-alive thanks lol just not too sure about the intelligent part!

@TheSpaceGnome I think most people would agree with you. They see flirting in the same way. But to me that's why flirting and hitting on are separately named because they are 2 separate things. Hitting on is a step up from flirting it's where you show interest by being very direct.

I must not know what people consider as flirting because I hear this a lot 🤣

[AmandaYVR]

I'm not even really clear on what all constitutes 'flirting.' I find it's pretty open to interpretation. (I, myself, tend to err on assuming 'nice, not flirting.') I don't think it's cut and dry at all.
Charming, maybe. Engaging, even. Those might come into play.
What I wouldn't like is someone who 'flirts' (or whatever we should call it) completely indiscriminately (with everyone) just to make everyone feel good, even though they have absolutely no genuine feelings towards you/about it, anymore than every other person. I wouldn't have much to do with that type of person.

[Still-alive]

Well thats pretty much me sooo lol

Its ok i can filter it out for some individuals

[PaynefulPleasures]

Smooth operator/talker✌️

https://youtu.be/JMMKSa8DBME

[Still-alive]

Thanks babe 😘

[Wiredone]

I love that song. Hmmm I never thought that you were weird. I just thought you were very much like me. Oh, wait, does that mean I'm weird? Lol

[Jamie05rhs]

@PaynefulPleasures That's the thing, though. Herein lies the conundrum. If you flirt with a popular guy, he'll think you're weird -- because you ARE weird -- and he won't be interested in you. But if you flirt with another dork who happens to be male (like me), he'll also think you're weird, but he won't mind it. ... BUT he won't know you're flirting with him. (Because he's a dork.)
So it's simply futile no matter which way you slice it.

[PaynefulPleasures]

@Still-alive anytime sunshine 🌞

[PaynefulPleasures]

@Wiredone one of my favs 2
So we're weirdos awesome 😎✌️
@Jamie05rhs I like your theory thank you ✌️👍

[Jamie05rhs]

@PaynefulPleasures You're welcome. :). And thanks for liking it!

[PaynefulPleasures]

Virtual hugs 🤗🤗

[wittymilf]

Hello :) my personality is flirtatious 🤷‍♀️ I’m a loyal married woman but most guys feel empowered in my presence with a belief that they stand a chance.

[Still-alive]

And you’re fine when they flirt back right? Or flirt first? ;) 😘

[Jamie05rhs]

@wittymilf. I don't think I stand a chance, and I don't want to stand a chance. I just think you're a cool person whom I respect, and I enjoy chatting with you occasionally.
(I used to think you were crazy, so I was very wary of you, but then I realized you were just trolling.)

[wittymilf]

@Jamie05rhs huh 🤷‍♀️ I think based on that I must actually be crazy... coz I really don’t troll.

[Jamie05rhs]

@wittymilf Oh. Lol

[DarkCarousel]

Of course! I don’t think that everyone who sweet talks is looking for something in return, although that obviously does happen. I know a couple of guys who sweet talk the elderly ladies and they just love it. Brightens their day.

[Still-alive]

Lol yeah i totally do that sometimes

[Miah02]

I do admit i like to flirt and sweet talk, but beware, this sweet tongue gots some venom wit it

[Still-alive]

I believe it. Venom in and out of the bed hmm 🤔😉

[Miah02]

Lmfao yeah. I'm a a lot

[Jazquee]

I can be a playful flirt yes... but only with friends who are very awear it is only dirty fun talk and it means nothing. Everyone who knows me knows how I feel for my man.

[Still-alive]

good well i may send a flirty comment or two your way. be aware :P

[ThePolishKnight37]

I Flirt with people to make there day or make them smile. I will flirt with anyone from 8 to 80 blind crippled or crazy. Everyone deserves to feel good about themselves, no matter their situation. I am serious in what i say but not in intention, if you understand what I mean.

[exitseven]

Being little flirty does not make somebody a bad person.

[Still-alive]

What about a big flirty?

[exitseven]

There is a line you do not cross. If you don;t cross that line, you are okay. Don;t ask me where the line is.

[Wiredone]

The line is where you make the woman think you really want to be with her, but you're married, and you hurt her.

[exitseven]

@Wiredone I will go along with that.

[Wiredone]

@exitseven 👍👍👍

[Alyssa11]

I'm a friendly person in general and sometimes I can be borderline flirty without realising...

[Still-alive]

Nice ill send some flirtations your way too babe ;)

[Alyssa11]

loool

[menina]

Yes, I believe it's possible. The question is how many people are actually like that?
I guess it's hard to find people who are like that.

[Anonymous]

I have that kinda person in my life you described. Except the helping part.
He MOSTLY helps when he knows that you can help him in the future too. I'll be changing my number anyways after a year and deleting my social media so I won't be contacting him... tit for tat..
I think he treats me better than others because I'm there to inspire him, he loves to have naughty chats with me and etc.

[NathanDavis]

It can go both ways "good" and "bad"

for example I share a few traits and skills with serial killers, but that does not mean I am one

[SamtheDnDgirl]

I enjoy harmlessly flirting and I think I'm a good person.

[Still-alive]

Yes i just can’t resist sometimes miss dnd girl 😉

[SamtheDnDgirl]

I've noticed.

[Still-alive]

What do you think of that?

[Still-alive]

I play a mean game of dnd by the way. Impressed? I think you are heheh

[Wiredone]

Yes it is very possible. I know because the person that you described is me. I would give the shirt off my back to someone if they needed it. My wife says that I'm a big flirt but she doesn't mind because she knows that I would never cheat.

[Wiredone]

Regarding your second update, I just do it because it's fun and to make people's days less stressful. If I make just one person smile a day, I feel good.

[Dnice1]

I don't flirt I just be the good person that I am. You might think I'm a sweet talker though since I'm so nice. 😊

[Still-alive]

Yes very nice 😊

[ChrisMaster69]

Yeah that tends to be.

im naturally flirty

the nice bit is subjective as I am also at times a complete twat.

[loves2learn]

Yup. Totally possible.

[loves2learn]

Re your update: 😭I dunno. 😞

[blindedd]

if someone think you're a bad person because of this-

[Éhmîë]

That's cos I've seen sb behave that way😊

[Still-alive]

Hmmm

[Éhmîë]

Yeahhh

[Still-alive]

Whats sb?

[Éhmîë]

Sb means somebody. It's the short form

[Still-alive]

Ahh you kids these days :p

[Éhmîë]

😜😆😂😂

[Gwenhwyfar]

Sure 😊

[Still-alive]

😀😊😘

[Gwenhwyfar]

I’m a little like that. Moreso online than irl though. I’m a little more reserved in real life.

[Still-alive]

Yeah true for me too. And you’re definitely one of my favorites to flirt with lol. I can tell you enjoy it 😀😉

[Gwenhwyfar]

It’s fun 😊

[Jamie05rhs]

@Gwenhwyfar I'm VERY more reserved IRL. Lol

[Still-alive]

@Jamie05rhs yeah i got social anxiety irl lol

[Jamie05rhs]

@Still-alive I mainly just don't want to be sued or arrested. Lol

[Jamie05rhs]

What the hell's wrong with flirting?

[Still-alive]

Some people just might take it the wrong way or assume things about you that may or may not be true

[Jamie05rhs]

Well, I'm SINGLE, and I'm gonna flirt, damnit! Let the haters hate and the judgers judge.