Can someone be a player and introverted at the same time, and can someone be extroverted but completely incapable of that?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I know it sounds weird, but hear me out.
My father is a person you might call a ''player'', but up-close he's almost shy and reclusive. He doesn't like big crowds and barely raises his voice, and he often stutters. I thought he might be like that because of his age, but people confirmed to me he was like that even when he was my age.
Instead I'm much more istrionic, make myself no problems to smile and hug people, talk with a deep, raspy voice, and I like to mix in with people. But I can't understand at all if someone is flirting with me, and I've been warned that some people did try to flirt with me or mistook my friendliness for flirting. I got told that my grandfather was the same as me, and like him I have zero romantic interest in other women that aren't my wife. I've gotten called a ''block of wood'' because of that, but I don't agree because I move, smile, laugh, and hug.
That's one heck of a paradox, isn't it?

[ChiTown33]

I think you're focusing too much on labels.
I mean if a woman ask me out. Maybe I'm not really into her but I'm free that night and I do like her. So I say yes. The next day I don't call her. In fact I don't follow up in any way. She had a good time. She doesn't understand my inaction. Next time she sees me I say high she tells me to f*** off. I'm confused.
OK I'm kind of introverted. I've had women accuse me of being narcissistic and I think to myself how does that happen? I guess what I'm trying to say was I wasn't interested in her as she was in me. It happens it happ we ns in reverse to me all the time. A woman may find me funny, a good personality, but just doesn't find me attractive.
Well in her mind someone HAS to be to blame. So the guy gets the blame " he's just a player"! If that were true I'd have tried to sleep with her. I didn't! Why? I don't love her!
In summary man what I'm saying is people sometimes just project labels onto people based on THEIR feelings. In actuality the real culprit is poor or incomplete communication.

[malwins]

Uh yeah it is cruel if u don’t like her

[malwins]

Bc she thinks you like her because you invited her

[ChiTown33]

@malwins what do you mean? She invited me. I just accepted because I had nothing better to do.
I do see where a woman can see it as cruel.
Just as I can see how a guy can see it as cruel if the roles were reversed.
But facts are facts. What she's feeling are feelings she creating. She's rejecting her desires. The absolute worst thing that can be said b is I'm NOT communicating my feelings. But technically neither is she. She's just assuming feelings I'm not having based on my actions.

[malwins]

It’s partly true but u know u wrong

[ChiTown33]

@malwins 🤣🤣🤣

[Kaamraj]

Yes, both can be true, however the latter is truer. If a person is quite but a player than one must think, how are they demonstrating or advertising their high value? - That is powerful. However, if a person is extroverted, there is no guarantee that they're demonstrating high value.

[Coulis]

Yes the introvert just observes for a longer time and makes his play from a more analytical place. And the extrovert does it from a more impulsive place and does it intuitively that's the difference.

[btbc92]

Players are not exclusive to just extra verse. Neither is players this exclusive to just males. You can see such examples right here on GAG. Plenty I had to block.

[btbc92]

Extroverts*

[boombastik]

Yeah, I'm an introvert but lots of women like that shyness. As long as you have a great personality and the willingness to put yourself in the position to get what you want. It's still about the one on one with me. Isolate and approach. Or isolate myself and women will approach.

[Anonymous]

"Can someone be a player and introverted at the same time" I would say no. Players typically can't be players with the requisite skills that introverts usually lack.

As for you, just because you're an extrovert and a mixer doesn't mean that you have any game. You can still suck at flirting.

[Interstate]

Player and Intro, no. Extro and incapable, yes. You can't bounce between one side of the fence to the other with your mouth closed. With being Extro and incapable, the we all can be talkative and a good example! The problem is too many choose NOT to.

[Birdlegs]

That’s kinda how I am. I had a reputation to be a “player” in highschool but I honestly don’t even remember all the girls I talked to because the majority of the time I was by myself and didn’t talk to anyone outside of sports

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Any person can cheat doesn't have anything to do with them being an introvert, extrovert or anything in between... it has to do with the choices that person makes in those situations

[boombastik]

Just because someone is a player doesn't mean they are a cheater. Most just hit it and quit it and then NEXT them but are straight up that they just wanna hit it and the women know this about them and either think that they can be the one to change him or just want some good dick. Players may make you think they are gonna date you to get in them pantries in some cases. Sure there are players who take it to different level and will actually date 2 or more girls at the same time but

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Yes there is players they dont commit or tell you what you want to hear until they get what they want most times sex or material wealth... until they realize they aren't looking for someone to complete them but rather someone to add value to their life.

Each person is a complete person on their own.. im talking above about the person who knows is wrong and is in a committed relationship and still makes the decision to temporarily satisfy themselves no matter who they hurt in the process or somehow the person who they are in the relationship with deserves it..

Both genders cheat and/or are players and there's also amazing lovers in the mix we just have to figure out who each person is when their best effort isn't being put forth.. the person is their true self

[Anonymous]

Well about half of the population is extroverted and far less than half the population consists of players. So it's definitely possible to be a non-player extrovert.

Pretty sure the strong-silent type of dude can be a player as well, so yeah--there will be player introverts.

[Anonymous]

Yes he absolutely exists. My current boyfriend was like that. He’s 1.93 cm in height, model body and channing tatum face, BUT he’s shy introverted and not socially adapt. BUT he absolutely was a player before he fell in love with me. He didn’t perceive it as being a “player”, but it’s what he knew and “who’s he really was”.

[Adam1978]

Yes nothing stop those combinations, even if introvert players are less likely to actually play out. He must be really good looking to actually count as a player and not just a ahole.

[Jaysonava]

Easily. Probably players are more likely to be extroverted but introverts are often player if they are good looking enough. Cause they can focus on seduction and not get distracted by all the other people around.

I went out with another extrovert and we just kept chatting to other people, and not each other. It was really annoying.

And then she lost interest in me and slept with an introverted guy who was less flighty. :(

[Sincerly_KittyCat]

Yep, the quiet ones are THE scariest and sneaky ones.

[Anonymous]

Yeah. I used to be and I'm very introverted. For an introvert it's just a bit different to the way extroverts pick up women. Maybe different types of women are attracted to each too.

[Avicenna]

I guess it's possible, but it sounds very counterintuitive

[AdithyaR]

It's possible. Lots of introverts are actually pretty social. It's just that they get drained after socialising and need to recharge.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Yes, but only works for good looking men or men with decent money assuming you're talking about a man sleeping with pretty woman.

[karaspara]

Yes it doesn't fit the stereotype but I have witnessed similar more than once

[Anonymous]

Kinda hard to imagine the player introvert but the non player extrovert is very common

[Anonymous]

Yes I’m an introvert and I’m fucking a married columbian woman. She’s married to a white man. These hoes to where to go when they wanna get fucked right

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Introverts and extroverts have nothing to do with being a player

[Nazgol]

Yeah it's possible. My friends with benefits was like that

[JesseJayNeak]

Nah, a player like attention. And, to get that attention, he has to be assertive

[LemiaOfChampions]

They can pretend to be the shy quite type to make ladies like them

[rienna888]

Yeah I think so. Like they’re cute and got it so they have several girlfriends and flirt with girls but actually don’t really like human contact

[Ellie-V]

Yes, it’s just personality

[Likethesky]

Yes and it's an effective strategy to be a introverted player. But yes Extroverted people can have it harder against people with experience of players

[Gwenhwyfar]

Yes! Both can defo be true.

[he-takes-a-part]

Haha an influencer is in dilemma what kind of place are they running

[robocop666]

if a man looks good women will love him no matter what

[malwins]

Yeah but it doesn’t work the other way around how come?

[robocop666]

@malwins it does

[malwins]

Nope beautiful women are more replaceable than men

[Asianguy123]

No, quiet person are honest usually. I was one of the quietest person in class.

[Anonymous]

I got played by a submissive introvert :/

[Marhaban-1]

I've never thourght about it but I'm sure they can

[zagor]

Absolutely. To both.

[Uptowngirl88]

Yes definitely

[Minahh]

Yes definitely

[msc545]

Yes to both.

[jimmy2]

Well surprise do come in life

[Anonymous]

I am an introvert and a player.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Yes and yes