How? Because I think introvert and introvert make a better couple. Same with extrovert and extrovert.
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Anonymous
(25-29)
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Depends on the individual. For me, didn't work. I valued connection and long talks about many things. He wanted to go out and couldn't hold a conversation. Even if we did, with his busy social life always had a schedule. Go out to play, to party, to hang out, always had a friend coming to him or get him. If given the choice he'd definitely choose the going out or just being with me ( unless sex was on the plate). And I couldn't get a little sad even because I know my personality is difficult and he needed more. I guess I just dated the wrong extrovert for me. In an objective way they could work well, maybe complement each other personalities.
Yes it can! I dated an extrovert and things went really well. However, things ended (not because he was an introvert lol)
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Anonymous
(18-24)
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I would say yes, it can.
Let's see.. To keep it short and sweet, usually introverts are reserved whilst extroverts are outgoing creatures overall. Introverts take time to warm up to someone whilst extroverts become friends at the first meeting overall. Introverts are lone wolfs whilst extroverts are social butterflies, stereotyped.
So on a dating scenario, what could happen with a introvert x extrovert couple is that one of 'em would be more social than the other, wanting to hang out quite frequently whilst the other would rather be in home and get a rest, or maybe one would want to almost everyday invite friends to come over whilst the other one just wants to have a peaceful and relaxing time. Ig I can say that could happen, though it's generalised. A extrovert x extrovert couple would basically be social butterflies together. And a introvert x introvert couple would basically be lone wolves together. With the exception that now they're not really totally lone. So, A introvert x extrovert couple could have some disagreements on the long run out of their personality differences, though if the couple have the same values and are mature enough to respect each other and find a balance between their introversion and extroversion they'll be fine. An extrovert could help an introvert to go out of their comfort zone whilst an introvert could help an extrovert to value and enjoy alone time more. In all the situations the couple would have disagreements and similar, it's the same after all. If they can live (respect/tolerate) with their differences they'll last and if not, it's not gonna work unfortunately. If the couple has a good connection, some similar interests or values, respect each other that's what really matters.
Very individual. I'm an extrovert and do well with introverts. I've dated several and am with one now. For whatever the reason that tends to be the case.
I don't think the introvert/extrovert part really matters honestly. I think the masculine/feminine balance matters. A woman needs her man to be a man regardless of whether or not he's introverted or extroverted.
A girl may be extroverted and like to talk more. That doesn't mean she needs a guy who talks more. If anything that might get in the way because she likes to be the one primarily talking.
All that aside. Introverted versus extroverted is really about how you process information not how you are so much by your personality. Each one does tend to lend itself towards a personality type, but that is not your personality in and of itself
In terms of personality I think they might complement each other and serve as means of growing and learning. Of course they could also match poorly but since they choose to date in this theoretical we can assume they are a good match to some extent.
As for the problematic part? If one alwayys wants to stay home and relax and the other wants to be at the newest public opening? I see how that might spell some problems. They do not need to do everything together though. Also I feel that most introverts might feel more inclined to go for that tiring social experience knowing they have their own chatty guardian to save them when it gets too much.
So basically as long as they do not restrict each other I think it is a reasonably good match.
Yes, my boyfriend is an ectrovert while I'm an introvert. It's very convenient because he always talks to strangers and arranges things so I don't have to. Frankly I didn't know that an extrovert would want to be with an introvert but he thinks it's cute. I was with another introvert before and things were definitely more calm but also more stressful because we had to fight over who will make that phone call...
There's actually some evidence to suggest people who differ between the intro-extro scale are more likely to be compatible due to tempering/challenging each other's social habits It also is more exciting when someone is not identical, those couples tend to get stale. Research suggests finding a partner who is mostly similar to you in values along with slight variation in attributes is the optimal combination for a successful relationship.
Yes. Introverts might need a bit more time than extroverted partners to ‘recharge’ while alone but that’s something anyone decent would understand and respect, regardless of whether they’re introverted or extroverted. (Based on the cartoon you posted, sounds like you’re confusing introversion with social anxiety.)
I think it can. I was dating a guy who was super extrovert who loved raves and partying/ venturing out in nature. And at the time I was just really timid and shy but he slowly helped me bring out that side of me too. He brought me out and I grounded him. He liked my homebody ways and i enjoyed his random crazy dates. We dated for a year and it was getting more serious but I had to take care of things on my own and had to let him go. Despite that seemed like it was going well.
An introvert sometimes likes the openness and friendliness of the extrovert. The extrovert allows for the introvert to be more open to them, and thaws out the relationship. If you have both introverts, then it's more difficult for them to get to know one another. Look at the movie Rocky with him and Adrian, and you see what I mean.
This is a really good question because the moment did I read this I said to myself yes you can work as a matter of fact it would be the very first compromise that you have any relationship both willing to try something new and make it work I love this question
It will work as long as the superficial extrovert deems the introvert to be worthy. I had too many of these kinds of relationships. Let me tell you what happened. Every single extrovert I ever knew - all of them, every one - turned out to have failed ridiculous dull boring lives. Never failed once. Have yet to see an older extrovert who is anything but miserable. Good luck with your extroverted lives. Suckers
It doesn't matter. Having a good connection is what really counts. There is a saying that opposites attract and before I get battered for the statement, I will say "to an extent"!. What is this extent? It's possible that the difference in lifestyles allow for experimentation and "adaptation". What both of you do is probably vastly different... Gamer Vs Rock Climber, Party goer Vs movie night. Anything can be fun with a companion. As long as both of you are up for it, that's key!
Yes it works, however introverts with their superficial shyness annoy an extrovert sometimes, even thought they are presentable and don't need to hide in the shadow.
I think it will be a perfect fit. Like lock and key. But some things are dependent on individuals. Like the ability to listen and give opinions afterwards and all such small things.
I know couples who are introverted who are married to extroverted- they seem to be just as happy together as introverted couples and extroverted couples. In fact , introverted/ introverted seem to grow bored with each other quickly and extroverted couples are always seem to be vying for “control” of things- making life a constant struggle. It all depends on how much love you feel for each other -
Sure, on paper they look like a great match, but love/feelings has to be what is driving such. If you don’t have that, one side will eventually take dominance, which can have detrimental consequences if it persists for a long enough time.
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