Setting aside more detailed and more significant categories like Myers Briggs personality types and friends...
Do you think opposites attract for the best match or should introverts date introverts and extroverts date extroverts? And why? What do you prefer?
As an ambiverty extrovert, I sometimes wonder if dating an introvert really is the best match, as they say. Extroverts and introverts have very different preferences on communication a lot of times and our preferred environments for recharge are so different that a ton of work has to be invested to make space for each other's differences. If the extrovert likes discussion and talking and being around people and noise, this could easily overwhelm and annoy introverts on a daily basis. Likewise, I know the way some introverts shut down or avoid conversation at the depth and intensity I prefer would make me feel alone and rejected in the relationship, causing mega problems.
The struggle really even starts before that for me, as introverts often take longer to open up. I crave depth and intensity and always gauge compatibility based on the conversations I have with people. If I can't get much from the introvert or they say things like "I don't like being around people or talking much" (actually happens) then... I'm left wondering how on earth this would ever work and it feels like a waste of my time.
But am I missing something? Is the opposites attract scenario really the best?
Do you think opposites attract for the best match or should introverts date introverts and extroverts date extroverts? And why? What do you prefer?
As an ambiverty extrovert, I sometimes wonder if dating an introvert really is the best match, as they say. Extroverts and introverts have very different preferences on communication a lot of times and our preferred environments for recharge are so different that a ton of work has to be invested to make space for each other's differences. If the extrovert likes discussion and talking and being around people and noise, this could easily overwhelm and annoy introverts on a daily basis. Likewise, I know the way some introverts shut down or avoid conversation at the depth and intensity I prefer would make me feel alone and rejected in the relationship, causing mega problems.
The struggle really even starts before that for me, as introverts often take longer to open up. I crave depth and intensity and always gauge compatibility based on the conversations I have with people. If I can't get much from the introvert or they say things like "I don't like being around people or talking much" (actually happens) then... I'm left wondering how on earth this would ever work and it feels like a waste of my time.
But am I missing something? Is the opposites attract scenario really the best?
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