How do you approach a chick when she's with another?

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When there's a chick alone, she's easy to deal with and approqch as there the mutual attraction. But how to do it when she's with another chick? Alone I'd simply approach as we've established a little magnet attraction and eyes meeting, and I'd tell her something like: hey I just don't know how to say it or describe it, but it's nice seeing you around.. how's it going anyway and what are you up to.. etc. And we'll have a talk. But when it's two chick is it fine to suddenly just approach one and like totally neglect the other human standing next her. What is rule if there's any to approach a chick when she's with another?

Juan_Curious · Accepted Answer

You never approach one of the two women. You approach BOTH and you must present yourself to BOTH. Never exclude one of them just because the other seems prettier (to you); that's the most superficial thing a man can do, and makes him seems selfish, very complexed and even insecure about his ability to seduce. Plus the fact that they probably are good friends and women pay a lot of attention to their friends' opinion on men. You better have a good feedback, even if you don't get laid that same night.
Also, take in account that if there are two (or more) women together, you have more opportunities to show your real self, as there will never be any awkward silence, because when one stays silent, the other will always bring a subject to talk about.

Don't approach them thinking how desperated you are to get laid. They already know that, as a man, you are very interested in sex. Just make them feel special and lucky that you chose to be there with them rather than with any other woman in the place. And don't forget to be a gentleman with their friends. That's a important rule!!

Iron_Man · Accepted Answer

I don’t unless I get a big signal

224466881010 · Answer

There's a funny relationship with groups of people that contain a girl you're interested in; The more people there are in the group, the more work it takes on the front end but the bigger the impact you can have.

If the girl is alone and you approach her, it at least shows that you have courage but it could also be initially threatening or creepy for her since she's alone and you're a big strong male. But of course it's less intimidating for you. Since she's alone, it can be harder to demonstrate how cool of a guy you are since you're just talking to her alone, and it's hard to just believe what someone SAYS in a 1-on-1 conversation because you could always just be making up lies.

In groups it's weird to just approach a single person. It's kind of anti-social, intrusive because they're probably headed somewhere and people will be crept out. You have to approach the whole group. It takes more work to engage a whole group but if you do, you'll get a much bigger opportunity to prove to everyone in the group (including your girl) that you're a great guy. What does it say about you if you're able to just confidently approach groups of people, befriend everyone and be engaging enough that you add value to everyone's night? It says YOU'RE THE FUCKING MAN. If the girl was alone, you'd have to systematically prove that to her and build rapport in other ways. When you're in a group, the proof is in the pudding. It's undeniable because her close friends all like you. There's no better social proof than that. It's crucial that her key friends like you (the ones with the most influence in the group and on her) because if they do, they won't object when you later try to build a connection with her 1-on-1 or "borrow her for a few minutes" while you two get a drink (cheekily asking permission from her friends can be a great move).

Otherwise her friends will try to "save her" from you WHETHER OR NOT SHE ACTUALLY WANTS TO BE SAVED. But she won't be able to argue with her friends because they're her friends and she doesn't want to be judged by them or create problems.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

I never approach a girl on her own as it’s just creepy n can weird her out. (Different if she acknowledges you).

I far prefer groups of girls to talk to that way they feel more secure and flirting is less hitting on them than it is having a laugh with a group of girls.

just chat to both, all 3, all 6 of them etc.

never exclude one, also with a group of girls you never know which one is interested in you, as often you chat to one and two others start flirting heavily with you.

ThatNoUVAtYourEyes · Answer

Where in the world do girls go out alone? Do tell!
As I was raised/brought up, you'd speak to the whole group - sometimes things would transpire, sometime not. You'd pay special attention to the one you are interested in but speak to anyone who expects it. Much more often than not it was a world of pain and distances and 'friends' sabotaging each other and the usual drama stuff (that you can consider people who are bored and ill intentioned cause, as a sort of social revenge on those who might otherwise enjoy being together (whether the angry are transgender or just hurt I never got to really establish - it is far too much effort)
Nowadays, if she is in company I do not know I tend to avoid contact altoghether. If she is interested she will show up somewhere again.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Study up on th subject… watch videos and read how to… have some things in mind in advance and then just do it with people ulout and about. Practice keeping your energy up and being interesting and engaging and carrying conversation. Then won’t be as hard when see someone interested. In general… be your best authentic self. They will appreciate you more

zeitgeist057 · Answer

Just talk to them both like human beings. Strategically, it's even better if you talk to the one she's with more than/before her.

I think the best flirting is just being a naturally engaging, playful person. You can be playful with both of them/all of them, whoever is there. Two girls, three girls, 7 girls, 3 girls and 5 guys, just make some friends and have some fun. If there's a cute girl in the group that you like, you'll have an easier time getting to know her if her friends like you as well and it's not like you are zoning in on her and ignoring everyone else.

wtf636 · Answer

I don't have a ton of experience with this. But I have developed a pretty basic strategy for situations like this.

1) Involve the group. Don't just walk up to a group of friends and single out the girl you like right away.

2) Go up to them with a question or something like that, have a reason to approach other than "you're hot".

I have always liked a bar with a pool table or some sort of bar game. I can easily go up to a group and say I need someone to play with me. And ask them to join.

If they say yes, then chat up the group while you are playing. Again, take it slow. Maybe some light flirting with all of them. But a round of drinks. Once that is over, you now have a free pass to basically approach any of them after, or even suggest you get a table together, have some more drinks, then you can single out the girl you like a bit.

This is in a bar setting but could be applied to other situations. Just have to be creative.

libsaretards · Answer

I'll just straight up approach her. I'll be polite to her friends but make it clear I like the girl I'm after. If she has even the slightest attraction to you, she'll admire your confidence for approaching her in a group as most guys are not that bold.

Jaumet · Answer

I'm going to assume that you are talking about approaching a chick in a club or similar setting. First, I rarely see girls in club that are not in a group of three or more... with a girl alone is a whole other scenario. The most important thing you must look for when it comes seeing a group of girls, is what are they doing. Now, if you see them kinda leaning towards each other... they are into a conversation and just leave them alone. However, if you notice that they are looking around, tapping their feet to the beat of music and looking over at the dance floor. They want to dance, go ask one to dance. It is the best way to quickly get to know her.

MCheetah · Answer

Talk to all of them at once. You look predatory if you approach a group and only focus on one girl. You got to get all of their attention and impress all of them equally. This might even mean getting all of their phone numbers or social media info. Later on, you just focus on the one you want to talk to. I've done it successfully several times before. In some ways, it's easier than one person because not all of them will reflect you at once (unless they're all bitches). At least one of them is bound to be nice enough to talk to you. The best icebreakers are to ask them questions, like how the place you're in is, or what to order z or even what time it is or where's the restroom. Once you've got them talking, it's easier to build a rapport with them there, like asking for their names, how often they come here, what do they do for a living, etc.

SandyLight · Answer

Walk up confidently, and capture their minds. DO NOT shower them in compliments, or they'll consider you just another simp in the crowd.
When you approach, make eye contact with them all.

"Hey, do any of you know anything about taking an Uber? I mean, can I just call them or do I have to sign up for some stupid app or something?"

They will be talking over each other to be the first to give you their worldly advice. They're probably going to tell you how easy it is to download the app and sign up.

At that point, slide over an un-taken chair, and say: "Hey, I really appreciate you guys helping me out. So what do I do first?" LOL

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Yes its trickier. You have to gain all the girls acceptance. The second you leave if the group goes "ajaja pathetic he has weird eyebrows and was so corny" it doesn't matter if the girl liked you, most girls are too weak to go against their group.

So be friendly with all of them. At the end either ask like a group insta date ie "hey you're going to jays bar? Come to mikes beer world instead they have a free shot and a beer promotion tonight and y'all would get along with my friends who are there already"

Or just ask for all their numbers... small group 2 or 3.

Or just ask the one girl.

Honestly some work better than others based on a lot of details. Too much to write out.

jshm2 · Answer

Depends on you. If you're introvert, then it doesn't matter - you never will approach her anyway.

But as an extrovert you will either engage the whole group and work your way to her. Or you will see who she is close with and engage with her, before nudging the conversation to "and who is your lovely friend here?"

That way the friend is interested in you, and your interest is now too.

Girls are pack animals by personality. Engage their friends, and you engage them too.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

Introduce yourself to both of them nicely, talk to them both for a few minutes. At that point say something like, "I see you're out with your friend and don't want to take up your entire time out together. Then whichever person you're interested in look her directly in the eyes and say I'd like to give you my number so that we could maybe get a cup of coffee some time. If you're interested feel free to text me. If not no hard feelings it was nice meeting you both. And depending on the vibe possibly offer to buy them a round. If you do this correctly it will look like a nice gesture and not sleezy.

Now if she says why don't you hang out with us now then go for it. If not then walk away and go back to your friends and act normal. If at some point you get more looks from them ask them both if they want to hang with you and your friends while you're at the bar or whatever get together you're at. See how it goes from there.

Anonymous · Answer

Try this at your severe risk and the only reason is the New York approach sometime occasionally works you go up directly to the hot chick that you like and look at the other one and dismiss her unless she wants to be included and the festivities later on that evening at this point what you guys are doing is ass kissing and sadly it has been played out that's why nothing is happening got to take a risk yeah I know it's a big fucking risk that's why I have a big nose

anylolone · Answer

Never approach women with the sole intent of seducing, always approach them at least with the paired intention of making friends, with that you increase your chances of getting something good/fun.

Also, good chances that the girl you are attracted to won't be the "queen bee" and nothing pisses the queen bee than their "inferiors" getting male attention.

You have to "befriend" and distract the queen bee to extract the chick who's interested in you.

There's a chance that the queen bee will be interested in you and she will likely interpret your interest in her friend as interest in her if she's interested in you.
Try to appear gay or asexual to the queen bee, they don't take rejection very well.

Also, queen bees don't tend make good dating material, to put it lightly.

t-8900 · Answer

Aaaaaah my social anxiety is triggered. Idc how hot she is, no way. She'd have to separate from the friends so I can break the ice. One girlfriend is fine but multiple others? My dude even if she did like you there's a chance her crew is going to rip you apart. Unless you regularly get your balls busted you're toast

kellytheman · Answer

Give them the same attention you give the girl you like maybe a little more like 60 40 or 70 30 to show the girl you like your interested in her. If you starting neglecting her friend she might consider you rude and annoying and that my destroy your chance.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

You just talk to them both, the way you would anyone else. I have learned not to approach women with any intention besides intending to enjoy my conversation with them.

PoliteSpeaker · Answer

Isolate her through the body direction. She can be near friends and not be with friends. If that's what you wish for. I couldn't answered better when I was 21 though.

Aimée__LJ · Answer

Just walk up to both of them and introduce yourself, tell them they look good, offer to pay for a drink (like physically walk to the bar with them and pay for what they order) ask its ok if you hang with them. Be nice, respectful, don't kick up a fuss if they say no.

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