She acts so tough, how long should I try to crack this nut?

[Anonymous]

. I am dating again after a bad breakup and I am seeing 3 or 4 women. The one logical choice for me seems to be the one that is closest to my age and that I am most attracted to and the one that seems to have good morals. well of course the one I pick seems to be very apprehensive and she has apparantly been burned badly before and has trust issues. I really think she is a sweet girl inside but she is not affectionate unless I ignore her physically(like sit away from her. then she will come near me and touch me for a bit)I know that she cares a lot about me because she tells all her friends and family about me and she tells me lol that I am beautiful. I love when she runs her hands through my hair. It gives me tingles and makes me hard. We enjoy sleeping in the same bed but we have not even really kissed. she always brings me in the kitchen to make me food(I never eat all day. too hot to) cause she knows I am starving and do not take great care of myself. She is always looking at the calender in the kitchen and counting the days that we have known each other and looks at me with such adoration. how long should I wait to gain her trust and affection?

[kaw17]

Be patient, supportive, and be there for her. Prove to her that you are not going anywhere. Don't try anything physical until you can tell she is ready. Do nonsexual touches like guiding her with your hand on her back or fixing her hair. This helps build trust and attraction because it shows you respect her. Listen to her but don't push her. She wants to know you will consistently be there and that your feelings for her won't change. Most of all, give her your time.

[yeahwho]

Whats the actual agenda here? Do you want a relationship or just sex?

[Asker]

relationship

[yeahwho]

I see. Then be up front with her and let her know your wish to be exclusive and see what she thinks. If she accepts, great and if not then you will not allow her to waste your time. You need to take the lead on this or she may never come around. You want an equal respect from her.

[sumina7]

If she has been burnt badly in the previous relationship, you may not be qualified to help her and she may need psychological counselling. It is possible that you may waste a lot of time and things may not improve. She seems to be like an elder siter taking care of you but not romantic (because of her previous issues).

There is no harm in looking at slightly younger women with less emotional baggage.

[Asker]

well actually she is the youngest of the 3 or 4 I have dated lately. she is 29. Another girl I talk to is a 21 year old and we actually are hot for each other and she is a fanatastic girl but there is no way I will disrespect her parents. they would really flip out and their culture is extremely family oriented. my x wants me back also but she treats me like crap. I know I know there is a pattern here. I was thinking a single women in her mid twenties. Maybe asian? I know it seems stereotypical

[Belgie]

I would give it a few months, but only a few months. And I'd let her know very very early on, that the relationship has a time limit built in to it. At 36-45 or however old you are, there's simply no time to waste on a relationship that won't go anywhere or a woman who can't be intimate.

[playa_pan]

I don't understand your topic title & topic story. Are you stating you want sex?

Then ask her...