Touchy first date ? Is he just impatient or only keen in getting physical ?

[Anonymous]

Does the guy seems to be only interested in getting physical/out for some lusting when on a first date he tried making out with you, kissed you, put his arms around you/cuddle and yet, he tells you things like he's really interested to know you / you holding a pretty much impt place in his heart now/ because you are very different from other girls etc. And like, even wants to know more about you and your friends.

Is he really interested but impatient, or is he really only into being physical ?



How can I be assured of his intentions ? Because he seems pretty genunine, and I feel good around him but I'm abit skeptical because our texting consists of a lot of flirting and he'd hinted he'd want to make out during our date. What do you guys think ? Do you guys think this(making out) is a tad too fast for a first date ? Thx.

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+1 y

thanks people ! when he lean in I moved my face away to hint that I didn't want to. the max was only hug, nothin else, I didn't want to come across as easy no matter what even if I do have any feelings fr him.

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+1 y

i somehow get a sense that he's pretty impressed with my refusal lol. might be really a test afterall, thx, didn't think of that! and I'm still giving this date a 50-50 to play safe, thx :)

[Blake26]

He doesn't seem like he has his priorities right to me. I wouldn't have done that on the first date, if anything a small hug, but I would have left that to her choice. Especially on the first date, him getting really touchy shows what he is after. I want to show a girl I like her for who she is, I want to send the right things to her, and going touchy crazy isn't one of them, much less for the first time. If you do anything too much it has less value and importance right? So I would say that all his touching is going a bit far, at least for me, I want to show her I care by being polite, nice, and friendly instead of getting a feel for her. It's different with everyone, just how I'd go about it. He is testing you, and if you don't like it's up to you to let him know. If you don't like it but keep allowing it, your telling him it's ok. Then he doesn't undestand you and things could go farther than you wanted them to. I feel like I'm just rambling on here, let me know if I helped any. =)

[Asker]

Hmm I do agree. that was helpful, thank you ! :D

[Blake26]

No problem, glad I could help. =)

[Kickrockslosers]

If a guy tells you that you are special on a first date, then don't believe it. Not because you are not special, but because he doesn't know you enough to have a place in his heart for you.

He surely won't find out a whole lot about you except that you eventually will be good in bed. Guys are just like that, once they get distracted with kissing, etc then they forget that you are a person. Slow him way down so that you get to know about him. If he doesn't want to get to know you better then tell him to kick rocks!

[ALWAYSclassy]

Most guys will say anything lol but I think he's trying to see how far you'll go. It seems like he would obviously be open to getting physical early, but keep in mind if you do that, don't expect a relationship if you like him (not saying it doesn't happen, but don't get your hopes up). I don't personally make out on the first date but I don't think it's too much if you decided to do that. Just hold out on anything past that until you're sure he really cares for you.

[birgitgirl]

great job! ;)