Help! I get obsessed with hot guys easily?

[Anonymous]

Whenever I meet or talk to a hot guy, like in real life or online, and we have some kinda connection or are flirting easily, I start to think about them alot! Even if like I'm not dating them. Is this bad? I mean I feel kinda sick sometimes, like lovesick or something to be thinking about them so much. Or is this normal? I find myself really distracted sometimes from my work or studies, and I can't work out if its a good or bad distraction. I mean, I think actually msging and talking to them is a good distraction. But thinking about them constantly: it seems like a bad distraction! :OO

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+1 y

I think I have some kind of issues with this flirting thing in that I'm like addicted to hot guys that are funny, and I keep wanting to hang out with them to hear more jokes, regardless of whether we are dating or not.

[jellysgrl]

well no , I met this guy on a site and he's a really nice person , we swopped numbers and have been talking for at least 2 weeks now . he's really feelin me and I'm feelin him , but there are other guys approaching meand messaging me and I get destracted because they are also hott! so I think its natural for someone cute to kind of throw you off track , but at the same time like I think about him a lot and I can't help myself. he's in college and I'm in my senior year , but at the same time how can I be able to focus when there is always hot guys popping up . like I have a reputation of flirting alot, and sometimes I feel a little helpless when I want to control my flirtiness!

[studmuffin-perfect10]

I'm gorgeous in a rugged looking way so once they see I'm cool they chances me.

it just that my face scares very easy and I'm dark tall and handsome.

[liltabbixxo]

I get that too! I think everyone in their life may experience something similiar. I mean I get happy when a hot guy seems to be interested in me. who wouldnt? It may be a bad thing to be so quick to think about them all the time, but hey it is human nature and nothing that you can really do. Just be careful because when something happens and you like a person that much in that short amount of time heartbreak isn't that far away.

[cheerangelcharity]

don't worry I think I have the same problem too. well at least you're not going after the "bad boys" [I'm assuming.] It's not bad as long as you have other things going on in your life. And also don't like guys just because they're hot but also because of their character, personality, and interests.

[adorkabletmtm]

go out with one

THEN go out with someone you've know for a real long time!

that you might not find "hot" OR "ugly"

just, "normal" and you'll see the difference

[Asker]

What's the different supposed to be? Yeah I've gone out with normal guys, or guys I'm not attracted to, it doesn't seem to work :S

[ArtyC]

You so horny; you love them long time, LOL. Maybe you need to blow off some steam. Find a guy you like, and let nature take its course. Then maybe you can get some work done.

[Anonymous]

Yeah if it's distracting you that's not good. It could also be you're just extremely horny, because I doubt you're falling in love with every hot guy you meet.

[Asker]

Yeah I feel really weird about it, because it will start as a huge crush, like ill feel really happy. But when we are not flirting, ill start missing them. So its nearly like some flirting addiction!! I'm addicted to flirting with hot guys. I'm even addicted to just sitting and chatting alone with a hot guy, but that wasnt just because he was hot, he was funny and enjoyable to talk to. gee, I guess I still have a crush on him :o

[Opinion Owner]

How many hot guys have you been like this with?

[Asker]

You know, the weirdest thing is, I do have sexual urges too, but just generic ones!! like I don't think about them sexually alot, that's only if I'm really horny :P even tho they are hot, well cos its weird like thinking about ur friends sexually right? but I think about them like, oh I wanna talk to them or see them, cos I enjoy that. I'm addicted to TALKING to hot guys omg o_O

[Opinion Owner]

It sounds like you're just obsessed with the attention you get and the self-esteem boost you get from being communicated to by hot guys.

[Asker]

ALL the hot guys I have had fun talking to. Maybe my definition of hot isn't so specific, I'm rarely instantly attracted to people by their looks, so actually this just amounts to like maybe 4 guys or something!! I don't know what happened to me, I think cos I broke up with my ex a year ago, who I was also heavily physically attracted to- I think I'm just starting to obsess about hot guys with a good personality to replace my no good-ex??

[Asker]

I don't think they give me much attention at all, I mean some of its flirting, some of it I can't seperate, its just talking. One guy is really funny and I like talking to him, and sometimes he missays some words, and ends up saying something like 'conceiving', and multiplying, or sex, or gigolo, or whatever like something funny but embarrasing at the same time cos the conversation starts off totally not about sex. And then the other guy we just trade random jokes, is that flirting?

[Opinion Owner]

Anything sexual is usually flirting.

[Asker]

Well the conversation was still usually not about sex. I mean it wasn't a conversation about sexual stuff from my end, cos I'm kinda embarrassed and blush a bit when he's like saying some random stuff whether its some sexual joke or random word he slipped in, but yeah is that him flirting with me, or is it just cos guys talk about sexual things alot?

[Opinion Owner]

Probably flirting.

[Asker]

But he mentioned something about flirting with women in bars and drinking beer, does he really flirt with everyone, or was that a half joke. anyway like I never have much to say to that, I'm just like blushing and hehe, just embarrassed :S

[Opinion Owner]

I would've needed to have been there to get a better idea if he was joking or not, so why not ask him?

[Asker]

I nearly would ask some stuff about it, but it shouldn't be any of my business right if he was flirting with some women cos I'm not dating with him, so I don't see why I should like trample onto his domain or whatever, but since we're joking together basically all the time, like everything rolls into one big joke. its just like 2 hrs of comedy talking to him. Well, and I kinda like that, even tho I have no idea where I stand :S probably as half-flirting, half-comedy 'girl' that he's knows, idk

[Opinion Owner]

Do you like this guy? For more than just his looks?

[Asker]

Yes! Ofcourse. The weird thing is, he's like the textbook 'good looks', as in masculine, fit. My exbfs are kinda more boyish looking. He's so 'manly' in comparison :s. Like ofcourse I just noticed he was good looking that's how he looks, but in the beginning I didn't have a crush on him cos I hadn't talked to him before. But when we started talking, he was always making jokes and stuff. And I started to really like talking to him. Then we talked for 2 hrs of non-stop joking and I got a crush :S

[Opinion Owner]

Have you asked him to dinner or anything like that? Have you two even hung out?

[Asker]

Yeah we had dinner. But I just rung him and said I'm kinda hungry, do you want to grab something to eat. And then instead of burgers, which apparently he doesn't like, we went to a restaurant. and other times, just chatting at a cafe, and once he came to watch a play with me but I had free tickets. All this is hanging out right? well that's what I've been doing is just hanging out with him :D

[Opinion Owner]

Have you been to his place or taken him back to yours?

[Asker]

No, cos we're just friends? He hasn't invited me over yet, he has a guy crashing on his couch. Plus um, he mentioned he came out of a long relationship and isn't looking for a relationship, so I mean. yeah that's the situation :o. Do you think he would? I wouldn't mind just hanging round at his place anyway since we're friends :D

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not quite sure what you want from this guy but if you want to spend time with him at your house or his, I'd ask about it.

[Asker]

Wow you know, after several paragraphs, I thought you would understand that I like this guy not cos I want to have sex with him, but because I like talking to him, and I think about it a lot. I guess guys don't have this feeling or what?? :s

[Milton]

oooh my goshhh I'm the same!

exept maybe not alwayyys distracting haha,just always on my mind

but no,i don't think its that bad:]

[studmuffin-perfect10]

I'm gorgeous in a rugged looking way so once they see I'm cool they chances me.

it just that my face scares very easy and I'm dark tall and handsome.

[michelle29]

well, if you don't want that thing to happen all over again, then why not keep your distance on guys like that. ANd if you can't, just force yourself not to think of those guys whom you are into.