What's your go to move for showing interest in someone you are attracted to?

[Missgingles]

It can be the way you ask for someone number or the way you show signs etc.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I don't have one.


I take years to show interest, I have to know everything about her as best friends to even know of I'm interested.


By that time, she already knows me well enough to know exactly what my type is, just from regular conversation.


So by the time flirting is even considered, she already knows if I will say yes or not.

[Missgingles]

Thats smart!

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yes, but unfortunately women who share my gaming hobby are so rare that this does not occur often enough to have anything but piss poor odds of finding a compatible wife.

[Missgingles]

Maybe try to ask a woman out and see what happens?:)

[TheSpaceGnome]

I don't know any women who I'm compatible with that are single, in the US, within 0-10 years of me, and are not famous, so I don't have anyone to ask out.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I've met ones who are famous, taken, or in other countries, so I know my standards are achievable, but these women get snatched up pretty quickly.

[Missgingles]

I see. Well maybe there are some women who are friends of your friends?

[TheSpaceGnome]

Unfortunately no, most of my guy friends are half my age, none of them know artistically talented older women who enjoy challenging video games, science, sci-fi, fantasy, technology, and anime/cartoons.

In fact almost all of them don't have female friends at all, or older sisters at all, and for the few who do, they are all not a match for me.

[Missgingles]

Damn:(.. well maybe try to go out with your friends. See if you find someone?

[TheSpaceGnome]

I've tried to make friends my age, but most of them are boring sports junkies, jocks, or casual gamers or hate anime, and the fact that I only get along with scientifically minded atheists is a factor as well.

[TheSpaceGnome]

All my friends are in other states, I don't have any local friends, met them all gaming online.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I met friends locally when i was still in school, but as an adult, there really isn't a way to do that except bars and clubs, and I hate parties and alcohol.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I want an adult shut-in nerd-geek-artist who will go to the zoo and arcade with me, and play hard video games and make art and science projects with me, and binge anime until 3am.

[TheSpaceGnome]

She also has to never want kids.

[TheSpaceGnome]

and not smoke or drink or do drugs.

[Missgingles]

I see! Thats sweet. You'll find her soon!

[dolemite89]

i like to tease and start funny arguments with girls it’s usually pretty disarming

[Dinklex3]

I usually just tell them. I'm pretty direct and suck at words.

[Missgingles]

That's Great!

[dustybiker]

Bluntness. I tell them. I liked the expressions it creates.

[Missgingles]

Nice!

[dustybiker]

Thank you for mhg. 😎

[Missgingles]

😊👍🏻

[Avcfhcic]

Being extra shy at talking to them 😂
I'm very shy with girls in general, ones I like I'm either quiet or quite loud and chuckly.
100% fail rate

[Missgingles]

That's sweet!:D

[Avcfhcic]

Hmm.
I'm just awful at chatting with girls, especially ones I like

[Missgingles]

Well thats cute in a way. I guess if the girl notices it and likes you she could ask you out instead.

[Avcfhcic]

Yeah I can't see myself being asked out 😅
I don't ask girls out anymore because I just expect a no. I know it's a terrible way to think but I've been rejected like 6 times

[Missgingles]

Everyone has been rejeted. You shouldn't stop because you've gotten some no's before. For every 10 that says no 1 says yes :)

Keep asking!

[Avcfhcic]

I just want to hug and cuddle a girl 😅, pretty sad eh?

[Missgingles]

Thats cute. Maybe download a dating app and take it from there or just keep asking someone out the way you do. I have no idea on how to cause never did that as a woman lol. But yeah you'd find someone to cuddle with.

[Avcfhcic]

Had tinder twice and it just ruined my confidence because I got no matches unless it was a fake account...
Honestly don't know what to do 😐

[Missgingles]

Well maybe try for more serious dating sites. Where you focus on personality. Like christian dating apps etc

[Rangers]

I don't play games and I'd hope that she doesn't either. I'll get to know a bit about them to gauge our compatibility then just ask her in plain English if she's feeling it and ready to make it official.

That's how I got into my first relationship (didn't work out though) and my current relationship which we're still together

[DryGermanGuy]

https://youtube.com/shorts/csoTdc7CNME?feature=share

[Missgingles]

😅 whats your move?

[DryGermanGuy]

Spill my drink on her boobs. 😛
„Whoooops!“ 🫣

[Missgingles]

🤣 that ever worked?

[DryGermanGuy]

I guess a lot of things work, when both persons are tipsy. 🤫
I would not try it in a church setting, of course… 🤔

[Missgingles]

Yeah that make sence! Better to do that at a bar/club

[DryGermanGuy]

Nooo, I seem to remember, it was more like a beach party… 😉

[RagnarRedbeard]

It depends on the situation. In most cases I’m direct and I’ll just tell her I find her attractive. In other situations I’m more indirect at first and I’ll show it through body language, voice tone, eye contact.

[Einzelgeist]

Being even more shy than I usually am, best you'll get from me is a quick smile and eye contact.

[Iron_Man]

If they give you the proper signal you have to talk back but I’m guilty of being too shy in the past and not doing nothing

[TroyDT]

Smile and say hello. Why complicate it?

[justFriend]

i try to talk with his :)

[Missgingles]

Talk with who?:)

[justFriend]

so i mean, If there is someone I like, I try to talk to them. :) ahh my englishh :S

[Missgingles]

Cool! Thats Great. Dont worry about your English. Just keep writing it and you'll learn more.

[justFriend]

thank you i can trying :) with your helping..

[Anonymous]

None

[Missgingles]

Same! XD

[J2ohhhhh]

I'm a toucher

[Missgingles]

In what way?

[J2ohhhhh]

Now thinking about it I don't really show interest, just gradually increase the level of intimacy till she follows through.

[J2ohhhhh]

What works the best on you?

[Missgingles]

Okay cool.

Well i'm crushing on someone so now nothing works on me lol. But normally I'd prefer when men are straight forward.

[J2ohhhhh]

Aaaww a crush story. Are you friends or just regularly see eachother?

[Missgingles]

We used to be friends. We talked every day before. But now not so much..:)