Do you ever deliberately NOT ask a person questions about themselves so as not to unintentionally ‘lead them on’?

[Still-alive]

So a lot of people say when a person is interested in you they will ask you questions about yourself. So im wondering if you ever consciously avoided asking someone those types of questions so you dont accidentally indicte you’re interested in someone when you aren’t?

Yes i do consciously avoid asking someone questions about themselves to avoid ‘leading on’

Its not a conscious thing. If im not into them im just not interested enough to ask them things

Idc ill ask anyone questions about themselves. I dont see that as an indication of interest beyond a friendship

I never ask anyone questions about themselves either way actually

[VIVANT]

No there’s all kinds of things I avoid but asking questions is how I talk I would not know how to communicate otherwise 😂 great I didn’t know I was leading anyone on 🤦🏻‍♀️

[VIVANT]

It’s weird too if you don’t want to talk to someone why sit there & not ask question lol just didn’t hang out then/ it’s super bizarre

[Still-alive]

i dunno just often times... on here at least ill ask another person questions but they do not ask me anything back sooo... yeah i feel like i drive the conversation most of the time lol. just wondering if its ever deliberate

[RedStiletto88]

I really won’t ask someone questions if nothing about them interests me in any way.

[user1516]

Listen, when I’m not interested I DON’T ask you questions at all. I don’t care enough to do so and if you notice the girl you’re interested in getting to know does the same then buddy you need to move on.

[user1516]

Women are pretty firm with their feelings and decisions so you don’t need to second guess anything.

[Still-alive]

Not all women in my experience

[Summeroflove]

To be honest I find questions more invasive then anything if I don't know someone well. I think sometimes I overreact a bit but it kind of bothers me

[Summeroflove]

You are right about your comment. And women who aren't really aren't worth your times. If someone can't be direct with their feelings and want you to be a mind reader. Man or woman... They really aren't worth the time

[CrazyGirl2]

I didn't even know that was a thing that girls do! I mean if I really don’t like a guy, it’s unlikely that I would be talking to him. (And I don’t just mean like as in romantically)

But I guess the answer would be NO. Because I’ve asked people questions about them, or their life when I didn't really like them, and I never even imagined that my asking them questions about themselves might lead them on.

[ShellyB]

I could answer this in different ways depending how I imagine the conversation but I said "yes" because I do go into a mode where I am trying to avoid leading somneone on or getting asked out and that mode does include minimal conversation and questions.

[SomewhereElse]

I never thought about how it might get misinterpreted! Damn. I ask everyone a whole bunch of questions, male, female, child, old people... I'm just curious, I actually feel neutral towards pretty much everyone :D Very few I actively like or dislike, 95% is neutral.

[DizzyDesii]

Yep. I dont ask them questions about themselves if im not interested, but also because im a sucky listener with a bad short term memory thats not often curious rather talk about myself

[DizzyDesii]

I chose D

[pass_the_celery98]

just out of curiosity if you say hi to a guy at work and you smile or ask how a guy is doing every time you see him and he responds with "im good" and she says something along the lines of "that's good to know that you're doing good", is that an indication you or a female in general would be interested or genuinely care about him?

[DizzyDesii]

@pass_the_celery98 a person HAS to be interested to ask daily. I’ll prob ask once a week and thats just to be kind. But i do get asked daily, i just dont ask about them daily cause i dont actually care to know

[pass_the_celery98]

I don't know I work with girls and whenever Im in they'll ask me how's it going or ask me to do tasks to help them here and there I guess just to chat.

[DizzyDesii]

@pass_the_celery98 theyre probably interested and competing for your attention. But dont give into it until one states that specifically... besides its not good to mix business with pleasure

[pass_the_celery98]

oh i'm not looking for a one night stand or something and i try to be cautious with how to approach a girl and her feelings.

[DizzyDesii]

@pass_the_celery98 no i didn't mean a ONS. I dont believe in those. I meant dating someone from work... be careful with that

[pass_the_celery98]

meh, if it didn't work out i wouldn't be mad at the girl and i would be able to be cool still with that person. I don't take dating that seriously especially in 2022, shit happens, and thats fine.

[DizzyDesii]

@pass_the_celery98 if you dont take dating that seriously you need to carefully choose who you’re messing with because thhey may. But i was worried about you. My concern is for the girl. If you breakup, she may do some crazy shit at work which then affects you

[pass_the_celery98]

Nah usually y’all girls break up with us dudes I’ve learned to accept rejection and move on.

[pass_the_celery98]

So it’s ok lol

[DizzyDesii]

@pass_the_celery98 we only breakup when its dragged out and taking the guy too long to do it first lmao. Trust, i rather be broken up with so i dont have to feel like the bad one. Thats where self sabotage comes in

[pass_the_celery98]

I think women initiate divorce and break ups more. I’ve seen my sisters do it, I’ve received it from other girls I’ve dated, and even convos with my guy friends go through the break up and feel like shit. This thing I’m dealing with at work I think it’s just possibly something that sparks the liking of two people. But I don’t plan to be with the company long term it’s just something I’m doing while I do grad school.

[DizzyDesii]

@pass_the_celery98 all im sayin is if the girl is down for temporary fun too then it is what it is. Just dont lead her on

[pass_the_celery98]

I wouldn’t lead on a girl. If I did and she openly said I did. I’d be like ok 🤔 well you can’t emotionally hurt me but I’ll just take a swift kick in the balls and we’ll call it even…

Her: deal!

Her: 🥾 🥜

Me: 🤯😳😐😑🤢😭 …FUCK THAT HURTS!

Her: good! You hurt me 🤷🏻‍♀️

It wouldn’t get to that point because like I said I’m not a player and I wouldn’t hurt her that way. I’d be mature about things if I felt nothing was progressing.

[pass_the_celery98]

disregard the last thing i said, but overall, i understand what you said.

[hahahmm]

It's not that I avoid asking questions. More like I listen way more than I speak. From my POV I do ask questions but from the POV of someone who talks a lot, maybe they think I'm "avoiding" something.

[hahahmm]

Usually anyhow.. sometimes there's convos where both people speak a lot too.

[Lynx122]

No when I find someone interesting (not necessarily romantically/sexually just as a person) I'll ask them questions and if I don't then I won't. I might try and keep a conversation going if it's dead or so but I won't care as much.

[menina]

Honestly, I've never thought about this. I still ask them questions about themselves even if I'm not interest in them that way.

[menina]

*interested

[SaoirseS]

Not a conscious thing if I ever do. I just go with the flow of the conversations.

[Sevenpointfive]

of course i do. if i'm not interested in her i make it known. and i make it known more if she doesn't get it

[Sevenpointfive]

sayin' bitch get me a keystome!! ahaha bitch

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

When I come out of my shell from being shy than I will ask a girl questions to get to know her.

[AndrésC64]

I don't do it so as to not lead them on, I do it so as to keep them from talking. Never ask questions of a boring jabber jaws.

[melanieeeB]

Nope

[Still-alive]

So do you always ask questions back or?

[melanieeeB]

Not always, I will ask questions, if I really care and wanna know or to make conversations but asking questions isn't how I show interest honestly

[melanieeeB]

Well not only and directly

[KittyKat90210]

Nope, asking someone about themself doesn't mean I'd leading them on

[BoobMan]

Not really. When I don't ask someone questions about themselves it's because I'm GENUINELY uninterested in them.

[Kiran_Yagami]

No. If you desire information, query about it.

[llorando]

Yes i do consciously avoid asking someone questions about themselves to avoid ‘leading on’.

[malwins]

Yeah I’m tryna play down damn near every conversation w men

[Zolly99999]

Yes absolutely

[Dinosaursandanime65]

I’m too Chad for dating