How to ask somebody about themselves without being nosy ?

[Anonymous]

How do you ask a person to talk about themselves without it being nosy or awkward? examples would be nice.

[ZebuZebra]

Most people love to talk about themselves, but only when they feel they can trust the other person. This takes time. I think a good way to get to know someone better is to ask their opinion on things. Or say things like: does it also happen to you that--- . I also think it's important to let people be the protagonists of their own stories. Sometimes, when someone tells a story that has happened to them, someone else will have an even better story that happened to them. It can be very annoying and it would be much nicer to ask the first person about their experience. Never ever repeat something that someone has told you in confidence to anyone else. When I tell something of my private life to a friend, I always know that they are likely to share it with their significant other and so I share only those details I don't mind them knowing.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the situation, and what your relationship is like. It's difficult to be able to give advice with it being such a generalized question.

[Asker]

what if we are friends how do I pop out the question?

[Opinion Owner]

How close are you? If you're anything less than the type that keep in contact at least a couple of times a week, and depending on how personal the question is, there's really nothing you can say that won't come off as awkward, and uncomfortable. If you're close enough, just ask them (manipulation isn't attractive-well meaning or not). Or, try to just subtly put the question out there. Like, lead the conversation in the direction so they come to their own conclusion and give you the answer you're

[Opinion Owner]

looking for.

[Asker]

thanks that helped

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for the BA. :)

[PoeticFlower]

Just say, "So, tell me about yourself, what interests you in life?" or "So, tell me about yourself, what hobbies do you enjoy?" Adding a little smile at the end of the question could help the other person feel more comfortable talking to you. Make sure you acknowledge what they say through the conversation with eye contact, maybe a simple nod, or a "yeah" or "That's cool/interesting" Then you can always ask them why they enjoy that hobby or why that particular thing interests them. Just be relaxed, friendly, and show that you are genuinely interested in knowing who they are.

[Anonymous]

it really depends on what you wanna know.. if its just like their dis/likes then just be like hey I've realized I don't know all that much about you and I was hoping that maybe I could get to know you better.. just say something like that then hopefully they will open up a bit more.

[Asker]

thanks

[Opinion Owner]

if its just hobbies you wanna know about then you could always just ask them what they like to do in their spare time.. it should give you some clues as to what they like. its not all that of a personal question to make someone bothered by it.

[523206720]

Bring about topics that are related to their life and volunteer information about yourself, this might get them to volunteer information about theirs. Also show interest and make them feel that you have the ability to understand them and help them with their problems.

[abundantlyrich]

depends on the type of circumstances you're talking about?

if it's at work... you can always ask other people what do they know about this person...

[Asker]

like friends how can I ask about themselves, how to pop the question out?

[abundantlyrich]

depends what you want to know, give me an example. You may start with a question indirectly related to what you want to know

[Asker]

what about something about hobbies?

[abundantlyrich]

Oh that. Just ask what do you do in the weekends. I'm sure they wouldn't mind telling you that. It's not that personal such as asking for their virginity status

[Enideqa]

I say just start a conversation, and ask question within the conversation, that's what I usually do to get to know someone, in the end most people are pretty open.

[awagner3]

I think if you present it in a playful flirty way then it will definitely not seem nosy (depending on the situation of course)

[Trendii]

Find something to bring up. Ask general questions as a conversation starter

[JamielovesKU]

So, tell me about yourself...

[tiredofwaiting]

So tell me a bit about yourself.

[Anonymous]

Just ask her a question about steak