I don’t feel comfortable talking about this to someone I know so I felt talking here is appropriate since no one will find who I am?

[Slythesmith]

I’ve been dating this guy for six months now, and I absolutely love it, he’s very kind and considerate. And i think that am starting to fall for him. The only issue i have is that he is extremely experienced, he has dated a lot of people of both sexes, and i on the other hand had never been in a serious relationship before, I’ve never hooked up or even kissed someone else.. like am as inexperienced as it can be, and it makes me self conscious..

He once joked of my bad kissing skills and laughed it off but honestly it made me feel shitty, I don’t know why. The thought of having sex excites me from a far, but when we get to it i get immensely anxious and i push him off.. the pained shocked look on his face makes me feel guilty.. i know I shouldn’t be afraid and he will never hurt me or force me to it.. but I’ve had a fucked up brother who harassed me when i was younger..
I don’t know how to get over it or why am I scared to share this with him.. I truly want to but the thought of repulsing him haunts me.

And he think it’s because of him.. ever since i cried one time he didn’t touch me as freely, fearing for a negative reaction on my end

I hate this situation so much and i hate me for hurting him like this.. i feel like my actions are manipulating him to believe the worst of himself

[introvertedHeartache]

Everyone was or is experienced at one point in their life. He wasn’t born experienced and most likely felt the same way you do now when he had his first time. The important thing is that you are comfortable and feel ready. If you don’t, it’s only going to make things awkward. To the person who said you need to work on your relationship with yourself.. 100% agree. Do you masturbate? I was in your shoes dating a guy a lot more experienced and I too also got anxious about sex. But he assured me that me not being experienced excited him because he got to teach me all the things he liked. Sex is all about communication. Ask him what he enjoys. If intercourse is too much for you then start with other forms of physical intimacy like hand jobs, bjs, playing with his balls. W. e he likes that you’re comfortable doing. Then when you’re in the moment and feel it’s right you can do more. Take baby steps. That’s what I did. Also find out what you like too and I guarantee you he will enjoy exploring your body just as much. But he shouldn’t make you feel bad by calling you out knowing you’re inexperienced. He should just tell you what he likes so you can learn.

[MrsTurkleton]

Tell him all of this and take it from there…. let him show you what he likes…. watch porn together…. experiment..::

Nobody is born experienced at anything, it comes from doing things over and over until you’re good at it.
You aren’t going to disappoint him. Rejecting him will. Relationships are about being open with each other. It’s hard to have one without that

[Sandeeppingping]

Tell him honestly how you felt, that you understand that you are not experienced, but he and society would have judged you 60 times as much if you were actually experienced so it's a lose lose situation and you dislike being judged even if it's jokingly, apologize for overreacting (if that's the accurate term if not:for acting the way I did), and move on with it, think about it this way, I also dealt with it, I kissed a girl I barely cared about not because I was a player but literally because I was afraid that the girl I loved who's more experienced than me will get turned off or whatever, did that a few times, kissed that girl, now we've been together for 3 years, you're lucky you're doing that with someone who actually cares about you

[Truthatanycost]

'He once joked of my bad kissing skills and laughed it off but honestly it made me feel shitt'

People need to stop spending time with others that put them down in any way period. People are meant to bring each other higher.

'I don’t know how to get over it or why am I scared to share this with him'

If he was the right person this wouldn't be an issue.

But it sounds like you need to work on the relationship that you have with yourself, and healing the past, than focusing on one with another.

[Light909090]

Just Let Him Fuck you ignore your Fear and Relax while he Fucks you tell him you want him to go slow you have a pussy which makes sense you’d be scared having a Big dick inside of your hole sounds like a scary thing But just relax ignore the Fear till eventually you Know there’s nothing to Fear make sure he wears a rubber but your only Afraid because people are naturally afraid of the unknown It’s human nature to be afraid of the unknown ounce it’s no longer unknown territory you won’t be Afraid anymore

[Guy13]

Oh my. Obviously 🙄, you are not comfortable and you should be comfortable. No rush just take it slow. Be safe.

[Emanon25]

Who makes fun of you in anyway, isn’t respectful.

[d3n0939]

wow so hard. poor girl!

[Iron_Man]

Find yourself a church guy