Yes guys like him clearly exist. I girl I liked recently fell in love with someone else. I am happy for her, even though it hurts. When you care about someone else, you want them to be happy, even if you would prefer they be happy with you, instead of someone else.
It is easy to develop strong feelings for someone after 2 months, especially for guys. We don't have to worry about the dangers of pregnancy like women do, so men typically fall in love a lot faster than women.
Either cut him out of your life completely so he can get over you, or date him. Whatever you do don't make him your friend. That would just hurt him more, by giving him hope that you might change your mind in the future. He does come off sounding like he lacks confidence, but he also sounds like he would be good for you.
You said you don't like him anymore. You said you don't feel like dating anyone. Then you ask if you should keep him. It sounds like you want him to be the guy friend that worships the ground you walk on, and stays in love you unconditionally as you screw guys that treat you like crap. Then you will run back to this guy for an ego boost, before going back to the bad boys. Otherwise you would just cut this poor man loose.
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I'm sure you realize he won't be available forever. When you are ready to be with this guy (if that happens), he may have already found someone. I think it's odd that you had an argument with this guy that actually had a positive impact on your life (cutting negative ties with previous partners/higher level of self respect) and instead of trying to work it out, you retreat. Guys like this do exist. It seems like this guy really likes you (in other words strong feelings) and you are afraid because you've never encountered someone like that before. There's no special measuring tool for how long it takes to develop strong feelings it all depends on the people and their interactions. I think you should clear your mind before bed and sleep on it. Then make a decision sometime when starting the following day.
Final advice: Combine logic with emotion and feelings. Live your life. Fear is your ally. Face your fears head on and you will be emboldened.
I could be all wrong. This is all just my thoughts and opinions. Wish you the best.
Sounds like your not considering his feelings.. first of all when you're in a 'relationship' with someone or whatever you two are, you should never bring in ex's and the passed people you slept with. Fair enough if you didn't know he would react like that though. Secondly you know he has deep feeling for you, so you shouldn't try and string him along especially if you're not sure if you want to be in a relationship with him. And as you've stated below don't hold on to him just because you hate losing contacts (as you said in the comments below).. try and consider his feeling and either let him go or ignore his insecurities and be with him maybe.
Lol by the way you said you had sex on the second time of meeting and then you said it's the first time being with someone and it wasn't for the sex.
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You started to date a guy and after an argument about previous guys you slept with you realised you don't want to date a guy like that. You seem to feel a bit guilty because he's a nice guy, he didn't want you for your body, he even said he is ok with not be with you just to so you can be happy.
In my opinion you never liked him enough to date him so on his first mistake you had to let him go, it's a choice you are allowed to have.
I don't understand why you freaked out when he said he had strong feelings for you, isn't this what most/all women want?
I bet he's has is hart broken cause not even being friends with you he has managed. He seems a good guy and you seem to know what you want, apart from that bit where you said: "I dont want to lose him but I dont want to be his friend or girfriend either".Lol can I ask why you were talking about others you slept with? If he asked, you should have immediately told him thats inappropriate and none of your business. If you brought it up, then you clearly dont give a shit about this guy and you should just apologize and lose his number.
Wow what a nice guy, hmm." He was the first guy I dated who wasn't just after sex"
After what you posted that sounded very hypocritical, did you know that?
Anyway most of what you just posted contradicts itself. You are not thinking logically at all, you are just acting on your emotions.
Good luck with the mess.Well... i can't advice you on anything major but if your not searching for any partner then what you did was sensus communis.. on the contrary i feel bad for the guy.. he might have thought your the one, again he should have at least told you that he was a virgin before sleeping with you and leaving you to decide.
Either date him, or leave him alone. Third option is friendzone that is only there to make you feel good about yourself. Don't be a cunt. Let him go if you don't want him. Let him heal and find someone new.
He seems like a good guy. However, everyone has their own bad side when it comes to jealousy. Look at all the murders.
If you don't want a relationship then just don't talk with him anymore. The decision is yours to make. While reading this, I kind of got the feeling that you're playing mind games with him a little. I don't know, could just be me though.i think i understand the emotinal complex you are in. So okay, stick to you decision if yu feel its the best for now. And let time show you a way. Time heals and time shows.. take your time. dont rush anything.
You messed up. Keep him and say you were right. Or ask for a little break before you start again.
So you list everything good about the man, and then you dump him? Way to go!
Leave him. Like you said, you don't want to date and he is insecure about the opposite sex
Most girls say that I'm one of those guys but most girls just want a guy to treat them bad
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