Is this guy weird or is it just me?

[Daisy_Bojangle2]

So we met online, have been on 1 date after texting for a few days. He wanted to kiss me but I didn't feel comfortable because I dont know him in person well enough yet.(I also have a lack of relationship experience) He kept putting his head and face over my shoulder when I was showing him photos on my. phone. I like him but I like personal space too especially when it comes to strangers.

He said he understands and knows things won't instantly comfortable. I'm terrible at flirting, I feel very awkward when he makes hints or sexual jokes. We got talking about my height and how I'd need to be on his shoulders to see a mirror. Basically, he said he couldn't wait til my legs were wrapped around his head. Then I said I was full from dinner and he said, maybe I needed some belly rubs (I'm. not a dog 😂) Am I weird or is this too much too soon?

I know things happen quickly online,(we have talked about a potential future together ) but we've known each other less than two weeks, our next date is soon and I'm worried he won't take things slow, once I've had a few drinks Ill relax and can imagine kissing him. I do find him attractive and we do connect despite our lack of similar interests. But without any alcohol it will take me a few dates to get comfortable.

[MissStrawberry912]

I’m sorry that is very uncomfortable. He seems like he just wanted a hook up…. Are you sure you wanna go on another date if you guys don’t have aligned intentions (verbally/non verbally)? But I mean if you wanna be casual, go for it. If you wanna continue to date for potential, definitely set your boundary and see if he respects it. But I definitely wouldn’t see a guy like that again because I wouldn’t feel like he respect me, my body, and my intentions. It is abit creepy too…

I do know what you mean about the kisses… I went on a date recently where I didn’t expect it and couldn’t decline on time, but wish I did because I felt awk during the kiss I wasn’t ready for it despite how nice he was… so I’m glad you were able to vocalize yourself!

[Daisy_Bojangle2]

It was very uncomfortable, had to do most of the talking too since I think he was trying to make silences for romantic moments/opportunities to kiss. I didn't actually manage to vocalise it, I just kinda didn't look at him and told him it takes me a while to comfortable with people. He didn't get the hint til I texted him after the date. I've also been in a situation before where I felt so under pressure I couldn't vocalise it, the kiss was just as awkward as you described yours as.

Even still he's still flirting over text, I don't wanna give him the impression we're at that point yet, we may be online but irl were not. Im struggling with what to do atm, we do connect but he does seem very overly sexual too soon.

[MissStrawberry912]

:( aw I’m so sorry… I think if someone makes you that uncomfortable, it’s okay to not continue anymore with this person. He seems creepy imo…. It is very uncomfortable, but I wanna encourage you to express what you’re okay with and not okay with. How you feel and how someone makes you feel is important. I’m glad you’re able to verbalize it in text even if not in-person. The right person will want to listen, respect it, and make sure you’re comfortable :)

[ThrillSeeker01]

It's important for you to set boundaries. Make sure he understands what they are. If he knowingly crosses them, it should be a deal breaker.

[Daisy_Bojangle2]

I just don't wanna lay it on too thick too soon, if I'm too serious about things before we've even been on the 2nd date it might scare him off?

[ThrillSeeker01]

If you don't speak up you'll think you like it and he won't stop. Letting him know your boundaries shouldn't scare off a guy if he's mature.

[ThrillSeeker01]

Thanks for the MHO.

[RasmusAiken]

This guy is even giving me the creeps. I think you need to hit DELETE on this one.

[Daisy_Bojangle2]

Maybe, I'm not sure if I should just go on the second date and see how it is?

[Billlewis]

So, are you looking forward to seeing him again?

[Daisy_Bojangle2]

I am most of the time but with my experience last time it's like he only wanted one thing and too quickly by my standards. I just don't want to feel pressured and want a friendship and bond before intimacy

[RavVid]

Take that time. Men decide quicker then women on relationships so it is fairly normal he is pushing. Plus most men want sex at the earliest.

[bededazzle]

he simply sounds young to me

[Daisy_Bojangle2]

He's 24 and I'm 21

[bededazzle]

well, you are in control. set your limits and stick with them. as a general rule it’s smart not to go too fast

[Daisy_Bojangle2]

Thanks, I am but if he'll listen is another thing, I won't be able to tell til we meet again

[bededazzle]

That's OK. It's possible he was nervous and will chill out. I think second dates are a good idea to make sure how you feel. If you don't like it, it's easy to bail.

[FenixG45]

Go with your gut. It DON'T lie!