When I was in 12th grade I met that guy who was grade 9th, my teacher asked me to help him in studying and he started liking me, I also liked him but I didn't date him cause at that time 3 years difference was quite big. I'd wait for a while, if you have strong feelings to him. He was 14 and I was almost 17.
I still met him these days and he became 20-30 cm taller than he was before and he changed a lot, he was towering at me and I think that I did it good that I didn't start anything with him. I would probably date him now but 3 years ago we were kids.
I'm glad In not the only one haha. I understand, grades make it so much harder to date younger and older people. I think I'm gonna wait, but keep being friends and flirting and hugging and stuff. At least until the relationship. Why do you think it was good you didn't date him in highschool?
I mean I was 17 and he was kid compared to me. I didn't want to have things with kid.
That's makes complete sense. That's my dilemma, I don't know if I should date a kid but he's everything I want
I suggest you to wait. I also like younger guys but not too young and 14 is too young.
Yea I'm gonna wait a few years. But OML, even my friend today was telling me how she knows he's gonna get SUPER hot because he's really cute right now haha. I hope we both are single in a few years
Its a 4 year difference, in the future it won't be weird, i'd guess when he's 20 and you're 24. But at your age, it is weird, not only that but once you are 18, he will still be around 14 or 15... a couple is only expected to do certain things and with that age difference, you could be marked as a sex offender.
At my school, a senior (18) and a junior (17), well, their nude was sent out, and she lost all of her scholarships, as did he, then he got expelled, and was marked as a sex offender.
Just wait it out man, if you can't, its not meant to be.
Like I do get that age shouldn't matter, I 100% agree on that note, but sadly, to society it does. So not only for your own well being, but for his as well, i'd probably only reach a certain base if you get what I mean, maybe keep the canoodling to yourselves and don't do anything sexual.
I love your response! You see, he is 14 and a half and I am 17 so we're more like 2 1/2 years apart (I have a late birthday, he has an early one.) But I understand that how sexual part. The thing is, I dont really wanna do anything until marriage anyways so I think the most I'd do is kiss and hug and stuff, at least for now. We both dont necessarily want a relationship right now because school and stuff, but we know we want to be together eventually. So I was thinking even when he is in grade 12 or so and I'm out of school we could start actually dating.
Society sucks tbh. I get the whole sex offender thing for sure. But its not fair that a guy can date a younger girl but a girl can't date a younger guy unless she wants to seem desperate and like shell just take anyone.
lmao exactly a 25 year old dating a 30 year old is fine but a 15 year old dating a 20 year old (and your case isn't even as exaggerated) isn't ok? Like tf society its the same difference lmao
But yeah that probably would be best and who even has time for a relationship with school LMAO, like I feel I really want a boyfriend but once I think about it i'm like nah i'm too lazy and don't have the time for that ahaha... :")
But good for you not to care about what others may think, if it's love, it's love! I mean i'm head over heels over this 37 year old actor xD everyone's like "that's weird..." i'm like bitch does it look like i give a shit
Exactlyyyyy! And a 17 year old dating a 20 year old is weird but a 20 year old dating a 23 year old is normal. I don't know society is confusing.
And true! We both like each other so much, but honestly, we can just flirt and hug and be all friendly and cutesy without a relationship right now. Once you put a title on it, you're obligated to hangout with them all the time and there's so many more obligations. We both want to be together eventually, just not now because life is too busy for us to handle.
And thank you!! Its funny, I told him the selling point, the hung that finally convinced me I liked him was when he sang for me. Before that, I wished he was older but didn't think of dating him. Now its entirely different. I noticed so much more about him and I fell
Lol popular people are the ones with the most baggage and drama 😅. No. The "girl" will be out of HS and if she is going to college or start working a 9/11 job then she will be more attracted to people in that mindset and surroundings. Because as soon as ur over HS you'll realize that HS wasn't the most important thing in the world
Well popular for being nice and accepting to everyone, not popular for being pretty and confident haha. Everyone in the school is nice to them and thy dont have any drama.
Highschool isn't that important, I know. But there's many guys that like me that are older and my age but thy aren't as caring and dont have all the qualities he does.
Lol oh, is because that's the movies "norm" of what popular is 😅. My mistake.
And yea so if u know that HS is not important then you'll know he isn't the only guy in a billion that u will meet and like. As long as there is a tomorrow, there is always a chance for u too meet someone new, that will balance ur state of mind and goals.
For example if you want to be a singer, u would want to surround yourself with creative people that don't give up on their goals. In contrary to staying with one guy that doesn't matches that mentality and drive to be better and succeeded.
No problem haha 😅 and I know, its weird for a girl to date a younger guy like that and everything. But the thing is, I'venever dated anyone bc II've been looking for the right guy. I would willingly be with him, the only issue is age
Why is it weird for a girl to date s younger guy but a guy dating a younger girl is more acceptable?
Same for me, I don't fall for guys easily and I never dated anyone before (I'm 19) and I tend to like guys about 2-3 years older than me because for me guys my age are immature. But I'm not saying either it can't be done. As long as both guy and girl are in the same level emotionally and intellectual also have the desire to be with each other trough thik and thin, specially in a relationship were age difference is not seen a lot. Since both have to be strong to ignore the society's POV and harsh opinions of people that will strength or weaken the relationship.
I mean if u tend to like younger guys, then that's something u can't really control. Ur heart falls to whoever it feels a connection with. But I assume u are either 18 or close to being 18, and I wouldn't want u to be in trouble with his parents or be caused of something. (Assuming that the law also applies for females) Just know that he isn't the only guy out there for u. U are the only one that can write ur own story
Words can't describe how understanding he is. He is supportive, real, and mature. He said he was afraid to get in a relationship with me in the first place because he doesn't want to lose me if it ever ends. He still tells me the only thing that will separate us is death, he's written me paragraphs upon paragraphs and a song to prove it. I'm just afraid of what people will think. Usually people joke when I walk around with him at school. They say "hey look Clara, you finally found someone that's your height!" (I'm super short so he's still a bit taller than me.) I just turned 17, so he will be about 15 and a half when I turn 18. I wouldn't do anything sexual with him. He asked me how I'd be in a relationship, like if I'd want to hug or kiss or cuddle and I told him yes bc if I'm in a relationship I'll be less stiff. But I clarified that I wasn't into sexual stuff bc I'm waiting for marriage or at least the right time in my life and he knows that and agrees with me on that. I dont think
Well if u two really want to make it work, then both of u should be aware of what u two will face. School is just one fraction of the issue, people will say a lot of hurtful things. And u both have to be strong to face it and not waiver from ur relationship. But this situation is delicate since it involves the law, since u will soon be consider an adult. Like I said, only u can write your own story. Just beware that u have to be strong to face society that will try to break u apart. Once he is 18 as well, then the age difference isn't that noticable
We will be ready eventually. I know we wouldn't take it as far as to do anything sexual. He respects how I'm not into anything sexual and is okay with it completely. I think we'd just kiss and hug until we are both ready (which would either be when we are both adults or in the case that wed get married haha [not saying that'd happen, I dont dream of us getting married or anything haha.]) I don't even know of we will date until a few years from now
We usually hangout in groups a lot at school. But occasionally it'll be just the two of us.
I'm 17, but I am five foot so people think I look younger. People guess I'm anything from 12- 15 because of my height but they save I look older in the face. I guess they'renot lying, I added some mutuals on fFacebook even and when we met in person they were surprised I was so short haha. He looks about his age, but he is taller than me and I know by the summer he is going to really shoot up in height.
Definitely haha 😊 in so lucky I look young
Yea like if we were dating the most wed do would be making out TOPS if that. I feel like I'd only be into kissing at first tho bc I haven't kissed anyone and I'm nervous when it comes to that stuff haha. I'm so lucky he looks older than me. And I'm glad to hear that, it usually sounds weird to other people if a girl likes younger guys
Is not weird. At least in my opinion u can't help who u like. Some older guys may act immature some younger may act older. Is not like a 40+ woman dating a 17 year old lol. Then that tells a psychological problem lol. But little age differences like the one u have with ur guy, is not that big and normal
Yea, I've never liked someone as much as I like him. I dont think three years roughly is a big difference, but it sounds weird when you are 17 and you say you like a 14 year old, someone who just because a teenager haha
I dont judge though haha, he's everything I want. His personality is beautiful, we have similar interests, and he is even more attractive than anyone in my grade 😂 not evenkidding
Wow haha 😂 you know dads, they're always overprotective. I just think about it this way, if my parents are five years apart what does it matter that I'm three years apart?
by the way I'll tag you in my next question to show you what he looks like 😝
When did your parents meet? And I know, even my friends parents are twenty years apart.
Is kinda "destined" lol. My mom first boyfriend was my dad's half brother. And one of my mom's best friend is one of my dad's brother. And when they first meet, my mom was in college. Anyways, my dad came home from Germany to pick up his brother that was in my mom's house. And he had a "love at first sight" once my mom came outside to return him his books/notes. After that, my dad wanted my mom to be invited in family celebrations so he could know her better. Lol but most of their relationship was through phone. Cuz he was mostly in stationed in Germany. And my mom stayed in Mexico
Wow, that must have been difficult. It went well though! I'm glad everything worked out
No it isn't weird i was in 12th grade and had crushes on few 9th grade girls.
Would you ever pursue relationships with them at that age?
If it's just a relationship with no sexual stuff yeah i would
i'm far from a creeper and i want a girl to wait to marriage
before any sex takes place but i want a relationship for love.
Exactly. I dont wanna do anything with anyone until the time is right, which I think is marriage. I'd definitely kiss and potentially even make out with him, but nothing more sexually (except hugs and cuddles.)
Yes i agree with you. :) :) Good luck in whatever you decide :) :)
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It's not totally weird, but it's a little strange, like a 14 year old with an adult I don't know lol. But anyway, the difference will become less odd as you both get older.
I know, that's the thing. He is actually 14 1/2 and I just turned 17 (he has an early birthday, I have a late one) so its more 2 and a half years. Its still weird though bc of the grades and because I'm almost an adult and he's barely a teenager. I don't know what to do really. I'm thinking wait it out until he's in grade 12 or so
Sounds exactly like my mom and dad, the difference in their ages and birthdays haha (and it's not weird at all). Hm that's the tricky thing though, it's definitely doable but the grade difference does make it a bit awkward :/ If he's mature and you're really into him, I'd just date him and if anyone gets curious I'd say "oh I'm like 2 years older but sadly our birthdays are off so he was placed an extra couple grades behind me" and that sounds normal and "enough said." If it feels too strange, I'd wait until he's a few grades higher, but I'm wondering if waiting all through college would be a good idea? Just make sure he's truly the one, or else that'll be a lot of chances you'll be sacrificing.
Glad I can relate to someone then! See yea, that's the problem. If I was 23 and he was 20 1/2 that wouldn't be so weird. Just this whole grade thing messes it up. I'm thinking maybe I'll wait until were both prepared for a relationship, I don't know when that will be, I personally dont feel ready yet. That's a good way to put it though, when we date I'll be sure to say that!
Let's just say he is everything I want in a person. Those aren't empty words either. He is musically gifted and always has music on his mind (no one I know is like this and this talented at the same time, and I perform in a load of cities where I meet a lot of people.) Not only that, but he cares. He shows me he cares. He has had a rough life so he understands when I'm upset and wants to help. He's funny and mature and smart. He's beautiful. There's so many traits I've been wanting in a guy for so long and I never thought I'd find a guy to match, and if he did he wouldn't like me back. But he came into my life after 17years
Awwe, you're really into him, I would wait too then. And yeah exactly, after 20, age difference is almost never weird. Like you said, wait until you're both ready :) This sadly reminds me of when I was head over heels into my high school crush, he was just a year younger but two grades back. Sadly, his family moved away one day to the other side of the country and I never saw him again.. I still miss him and it's been so many years. If I were you, I'd try to make it a little clear to him that you're romantically interested, just a little hint even, and I'm sure time will fly like it always does ☺️
Yea haha, I really do like him a lot. I have maybe liked three guys in my life a lot. But him, I dont know. I see all of his flaws and I know them like the back of my hand but I still think he is perfect for me. I've told him about how I fell for him when he first sang for me when I talked to him on the weekend. He told me he never thought he'd have a chance with me but he wanted to date me so bad. We both know we like each other, now we are just waiting for life to settle down. School is hectic without a relationship, nevermind with one.
I'm really glad to hear that! You seem responsible and mature for your age, in a very good way. I'm rooting for you two 💖👌🏼 School is definitely hectic, it's one of the reasons that I myself have had very few crushes on guys. As long you both truly love and care for one another, I don't think things will be able to get in the way of what you have with each other. It's really rare to meet someone that shares so many interests etc. I'm almost 24 and only now have I just met the man that is so much like me, I never would've thought I'd meet someone like him. However, when I was studying for my law school exams and I told him the relationship would have to wait, and he did wait :) It'll be worth it as long as you don't forget your dreams. Pursue your academic goals and ultimate wishes. I'm sure when you're finished by high school/college, he'll be ready like you.
Thank you so much! You're too kind. I think we will be able to stay together, we talk constantly and support each other every day. I get that, I've never met someone so much like me. Its like all my good qualities and more are his. Sure, he has his faults definitely. But I know his and he knows mineand we still love eeach other 100%. I'm gonna try to make it as a singer songwriter, so I nay do a music marketing course for fun. I don't know though, I guess I have time and I'll figure it out soon.
You're welcome! You sound wonderful, I really hope things work out the way you want them to. You seem like a smart girl, pursue your song writing/singing goals with your eye on the prize, and keep in touch with your feelings as well for this guy. Reading this made me smile, it seems like a very compatible match.
Thank you, you're so sweet. I really hope they work out too. Thank you for all your help and advice. And I'm glad I could make you smile 😊
Awe same to you! Of course :) Best of luck ☺️❤️
Thank you so much again!!
Age shouldn't matter, you love who you love.
Thank you for your open minded opinion!
Find a guy your own age.
But he is better than anyone in my grade, it breaks my heart haha.
What about when are out of highschool?
Don't fool around with kids when you're an adult.
I look like I'm younger than him 😂 its not like I'd be sexual or anything. How come a guy can date younger but a girl can't?
These same rules apply to men.
Fair enough. Only thing is, society doesn't find it weird if a guy dates a younger girl so I thought you were saying that.
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