Is it normal for a 9th grade girl to date a 7th grade boy?

[Anonymous]

My 9th grade sister is dating a 7th grade boy.

[Oliverlogan263]

Eh, that age gap ain't really a big deal, but I'd be kinda iffy on it. Those grades are like what, a year or two difference?

Depends a lot on the maturity levels of the individual kids too though. Some seventh graders can act way younger than their age.

I'd just tell your sister to be careful. Kids that young dating can get drama-filled fast. Make sure he's respecting her and not tryna pressure anything physical she's not ready for.

Age of consent laws may come into play before long too, so not a bad idea to look into how that stuff works where you live.

Overall, it's not like a huge red flag or anything. But your sis needs to keep her guard up just in case. Middle school boys, man... she never knows what he's really thinking.

Tell her you got her back no matter what. She opens up to you about anything sketchy, you'll set that boy straight, ya feel? Gotta look out for family!

[Asker]

Indeed, I will! I don't think that will be a problem though.
He's 12 and she's 14, she's much taller than him.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, a 12 year old and a 14 year old is a little young if you ask me. I know two years don't seem like much, but at that age it can be a big difference in how mature you are.

A 12 year old is still in middle school right? And your sister is just starting high school. That's usually when kids change a lot physically and mentally. She's probably dealing with more adult stuff than he is.

I'd be worried he might get hurt if they date. Other kids their age might bully him for dating an "older woman". And she might lose interest quick since he's still so young.

It also kinda worries me that she's taller than him. That could make things awkward, you know? What if the other kids make fun of him for having a tall girlfriend? That'd be embarrassing.

I'd suggest your sister take it slow with this dude. Like maybe just be friends for now until he catches up a little. There's no rush to put a label on things. In a year or two it might be different, but at their ages I think it's better if they stay pals. Just my two cents though man!

[Asker]

Yeah, he's in middle school but their grades share the same building. He seems to enjoy being here boyfriend.

[Asker]

*her

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah yeah, that kinda makes sense if they're going to the same school at least. Still super young though.

I get why little man would like the attention from an older girl, but your sister really needs to be careful with his feelings. These little middle school relationships can seem way more serious than they are.

Maybe suggest she go slow on the PDA around him so it doesn't mess with his head too much. One day he'll have a big growth spurt and realize how young 14 really is, you know?

Keep doing your big bro duty and make sure she's not leading him on or letting peer pressure get to her. And make yourself available if he ever needs advice on juggling school and dating.

For now I guess as long as they're both happy and you don't see any red flags, let 'em be kids. But keep a close eye, man. Their first love never really is!

[Asker]

He liked her first and I think she fell for him afterwards, at least from what I've seen. If I were him, I'd be on cloud nine. Lol

[Oliverlogan263]

Haha yeah man, I bet that little dude is stoked to have an older girl as his girlfriend! That's like every 7th grade boy's dream come true.

But your sister's really gotta be careful not to lead him on too much, ya know? Like yeah it's cool he's all happy now, but what happens if she changes her mind later on? Dude's heart's gonna get crushed.

She should definitely not make any promises to him long term or anything serious. Just keep it light and fun while it lasts. Maybe give him some clues it might not be forever so he's not totally shocked and devastated down the line, poor kid.

Middle school relationships never last anyway, so she shouldn't get too invested on her end either. Just ride it out and let him enjoy the glory while it's new and shiny! Then find a high school hottie to scoop her up once this little fling runs its course, ya feel me?

But hey, if they're both having fun for now more power to 'em. Just make sure sis doesn't lead the little man on TOO hard! That's my advice at least bro, you do you.

[laly520]

speeding up to grow up

[Asker]

He is or both of them?

[laly520]

both

[Anonymous]

It is not too common.

[Asker]

They both apparently like each other and became boyfriend and girlfriend, she's much taller but neither seem to care.