Guys, Why are guys weird with texting?

[Sebby84]

Iv been seeing a guy for close to 4 months always attentive with texts as much so now as it was in the beginning but as soon as he's out with other people i dont hear from him not even drunk texts….. things between us are generally great but if im drunk the person i like is still always on my mind and i always reply and respond.

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Do guys just prefer not to be bothered when out or busy it always makes me doubt things and my mind goes into over drive

[CloudMassacre]

I’m weird with texting because I don’t like texting, my jobs are dirty af so I’m away from my phone, and I just don’t have a sense of instant urgency for text messages. Like, I don’t like just sitting there and texting someone, I’d rather arrange a hangout and talk in person if I’m talking to someone that much

[Sebby84]

he's a wedding today…. we aren't official and he didn't get a plus 1 so my last snap was 5 hours to him i didn't expect much communication from him today but he's been able to put a pic on his story and still leave my message unopened it just makes me feel a bit shit but i know what you mean he's not in a position to talk to me all day but a check in would be nice

[CloudMassacre]

I’d rather wait to read something when I’m done with my bullshit so I can be more focused on what they say and how I respond. Like sometimes I’ll be busy and I’ll quick read a text but have to do other shit. So that just looks like being left on read. I just think text receipts create unnecessary anxieties. Back in the day you would send a letter or leave a message and wait. I think the instantaneous nature of the internet has warped peoples perceptions of time and made them too impatient

[Sebby84]

Even if you have time to be online on facebook and making snap stories 🙈

[CloudMassacre]

During a wedding where people post pictures n shit to update their weird online shit, no. Like, holding down a record button and dancing the phone in a panoramic shot is not the same as sitting down and directly messaging someone

[Sebby84]

Uv reassured me thanks i overthink everything and i know giys dont think like this or think theyr doing anything wrong or think girls think like this

[CloudMassacre]

I’m just worried that I won’t be able to communicate that to someone I’m with. I’m a very anxious person, so I feed negativity on perceived jealousy or insecurity, like I start worrying at every text “is that too long, oh I should text them right away so they don’t think X” it becomes very emotionally exhausting for me to keep that up if that makes sense

[Sebby84]

Well girls won't ever think a text is too long and won't ever be anything other than pleased when you text right away we love the attention all of it

[SiberFox]

He's likely worried he'll text something dumb and make a mistake, he could also just want to focus on having fun while hanging out.

[chris_987]

Because girls expect a guy to lead, it's privilege position to be able to tell a guy he sucks at attracting women, so hats off to you

[qusai_jo]

give him some space to miss you

[truthisthree]

waste of time now