What is considered a date?

[copper84]

I have been hanging out with a guy I met through my part time job. We don't work together, he is a customer. (I work part time for a video rental store.) When he suggests we go out, he pays. When I suggest we go out, I pay. Or we split the expenses. We have fun together, and there is nothing serious going on. The other night he called and asked me if I wanted to come over for dinner (we have cooked for each other before and no big deal). I said sure. When I got to his place, there were flowers, candles on the table, soft music.a real romantic scene. I was shocked. I have always seen him in jeans, and really casual clothes. This night he was dressed up, and looked HOT! I didn't know what was going on, so decided not to say anything. We had a fabulous dinner (he's a great cook) and things seemed normal. Afterwards we watched a movie. When I got ready to leave, he walked me to my car (normal behavior) and I went to kiss him on the cheek (also normal behavior for us to kiss on the cheek goodbye or hello). He turned his head and kissed me fully on the mouth. Then thanked me for the date. He never gave any indication that we were ever more than friends, so I never expected anything like this. When I asked him what was the reason behind the whole scene, he told me it was time we had a nice date rather than our casual ones. I never considered we were dating.

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I forgot to mention he is younger than I am.

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I forgot to mention that he is quite a bit younger than I am.

[Mitch]

well he probably likes older women.plus umm, yeh obviously he wants to date you, normal friends don't do that sort of thing, and he didn't straight up tell you probably because he expects you to know that he wants you.and wants to take that whole friendship thing to the next level.

[LaidBackTraveler]

I'm gonna keep it short and sweet here. I think under vague or questionable circumstances, as in when the plans are made, the behavior on the "date" dictates if it's an actual date or not. If even that's vague, there's always the good old question "What do you think of this as?".

[cheerangelcharity]

If you feel the same way about him then great! and he most likely was too afraid to ask you out on a real date.

but if you see him as only a friend then gently let him know that. I know that that'll really disappoint him but it's better than leading him on.

[bullseye]

how much younger is he?

And I think that it seemed like you were dating. Do you not feel the same way?

[copper84]

He is 26, and we have always just hung out as friends...nothing romantic at all...that's why this was such a surprise...he's a wonderful guy, and apparently our age difference doesn't bother him.

[bullseye]

If age doesn't bother him (or YOU), and as long as you were only surprised, and not angry or upset, about the fact that he kissed you and likes you, I really think you should take a chance with him!

[Artificial Intelligence]

Signs You are On A Date

When it comes to dating, the signs are everywhere. If you’re on a date, the person you’re with is probably giving off some pretty clear indicators.

Here are a few signs that you’re on a date:

1. There’s physical contact.

If you’re on a date, there’s a good chance that you’ll be physically touched at some point. This could be anything from a light touch on the arm to a full-on make-out session. If you’re not comfortable with the level of physical contact, it’s probably not a good sign.

2. You’re talking about personal things.

If you’re on a date, you’ll probably find yourself talking about personal things. This could be anything from your family to your job to your hopes and dreams. If you’re not comfortable talking about personal things, it’s probably not a good sign.

3. You’re spending time together in a romantic setting.

If you’re on a date, chances are you’re not just hanging out at the local McDonald’s. You’re probably somewhere more romantic, like a restaurant, bar, or even just a park. If you’re not comfortable being in a romantic setting, it’s probably not a good sign.

4. You’re talking about future plans.

If you’re on a date, you might find yourself talking about future plans. This could be anything from plans for the weekend to plans for next year. If you’re not comfortable talking about future plans, it’s probably not a good sign.

5. You’re feeling butterflies.

If you’re on a date, there’s a good chance you’re feeling butterflies in your stomach. This is normal! Dates can be nerve-wracking. If you’re not comfortable feeling butterflies, it’s probably not a good sign.

When Is It Considered a Date rather than Hanging Out?

When is it considered a date rather than hanging out?

This is a question that has been asked since the dawn of time, or at least since people started dating.

There are a few factors that can help you determine whether or not you are on a date or just hanging out:

• The first factor is the location. If you are at a romantic restaurant or movie theater, then it is probably a date. If you are just at someone’s house or at a bar, then it is probably just hanging out.
• The second factor is the amount of time you have spent together. If you have only been hanging out for a few hours, then it is probably just hanging out. If you have been on a date for a few hours or more, then it is probably a date.
• The third factor is the level of conversation. If you are just talking about the weather or what you did today, then it is probably just hanging out. If you are getting to know each other and having deep conversations, then it is probably a date.
• The fourth factor is touch. If you are just sitting next to each other and not touching, then it is probably just hanging out. If you are holding hands, hugging, or kissing, then it is probably a date.
• The fifth factor is what you are doing after the date. If you are just going home and going to bed, then it was probably just hanging out. If you are going on another date or doing something else together, then it was probably a date.
• The sixth factor is whether or not you are both single. If you are both single and interested in each other, then it is probably a date. If you are both single and not interested in each other, then it is probably just hanging out.
• The seventh factor is the level of interest. If you are both interested in each other and want to see each other again, then it was probably a date. If you are not interested in each other or if one person is not interested in the other, then it was probably just hanging out.
• The eighth factor is the amount of money you spend. If you go on a date, then you will probably spend more money than if you just hang out.
• The ninth and final factor is the level of commitment. If you are both committed to each other and want to make things work, then it was probably a date. If you are not committed to each other or if one person is not interested in the other, then it was probably just hanging out.

So, when is it considered a date rather than hanging out?

It depends on a few factors, but the most important factor is usually whether or not you are both interested in each other. If you are both interested in each other and want to see each other again, then it was probably a date.

[Anonymous]

this is obviously called dating. if you don't want to date him, tell him asap. seriously. this guy is putting in too much effort for you to still be questioning what is going on.

[Danny_dan92]

Going out with someone on a one to one basis without “friends” from either person also being there

[driven159]

I guess you got lucky maybe you should keep him and as far as age who gives a crap about that happiness is what matters

[Anonymous]

Is it important to have ot defined as a date in advance?

[RuthlessAggression]

If you are making time for a man, it's a date. Friends or not

[Pinay_ako]

It’s a date

[Casanova]

wen you both spend time together

[WhitneySnow]

You guys were def dating

[Anonymous]

That sure sounded like date to me.