How to initiate a conversation (not in texts or DMS)?

[Anonymous]

Whenever I had a crush on someone, I avoid them. How to initiate a healthy conversation to get know them?

[SueShe]

I presume that you are perhaps the shy type of person. If you want to be able to hold a conversation, you have to work on yourself first. That would include shyness and social anxiety.

You can train your approach, your attitude and expression in front of a mirror for example. Think of what message you want to bring across and rehearse it until you are satisfied. The next step is the most difficult one and that is the one where you have to put in practice what you learned and rehearsed.

But without you wanting and acting upon it, nothing will ever happen. You have to get out of your comfort zone for it to happen. The most important is not to be afraid to fail. If you are rejected, get back onto your feet and try again.

Now, as far as having a conversation with the target person, you have to learn a minimum about that person and that would include his likes and dislikes, hobbies, job, activites and the like. Learn as much as you can about those and when you initiate the conversation, direct the conversation towards those topics. If the target person realizes that you are interested in his activities, the conversation will flow automatically. Good luck.

[dustybiker]

You could tell them you’ve been interested / or liked (your words) them for some time now, want to go out for a coffee and talk sometime? Start things basic and benign if you are more of a reserved person.

[caring__1]

You're putting too much pressure on yourself. It's not up to you to do all the work. Just facilitate the other person's exploration and discovery. Show interest in wanting to see things through the other person's eyes. Don't interrogate the person, but seek clarification. Use questions like: "In what way?" "Give me some examples" "How might that impact the outcome?" "What led to your interest in this subject?" "What do you enjoy most about this activity?"

Showing curiosity with no signs of judgment will generally draw people closer to you. Nowadays, people seem to feel entitled to push their agenda onto others. Prioritize making sure the other person always feels safe with you. That means never accuse, assume, blame, criticize, demand, rationalize or tell that person what should or shouldn't be done.

[Guy13]

Walk up and speak. Have couple prepared subjects. Know their interests but don’t say say on Instagram orFB or whatever

[Changiis07]

I just had one with a manager a few days ago. I just asked questions and treated him more like a friend than anything and it helped. I was probably blushing a little

[Summeroflove]

Great idea! Lol. Say hi! It might be awkward at first better then saying nothing

[DeeDeeDeVour]

I suppose you can begin by giving that person a compliment about something you like about him (or her).

[spartan55]

Avoid them and go hide behind your phone to text? You aren't ready for a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Wait for them to initiate. Give them clues that you're interested in them. If they're interested too, they might initiate

[Hello-Minjoon]

You can start with normal greeting.

[In_Trance]

Talk to them